Zoyenera kuchita ngati mumasankha amuna

Kukhala ndi miyezo yapamwamba mu ubale wanu ndi amuna ndikwabwino, makamaka ngati mwadutsa zaka zaku koleji. Mavuto akukwera. Ndinu otanganidwa kwambiri, pali mipata yochepa yokumana ndi anthu atsopano, mulibe nthawi yokwanira ya anzanu ndi okondedwa. Mumadziwa kuti mukufuna munthu wotani ndipo simukufuna kuwononga nthawi. Atsikana amakwatirana, ndipo ndizofunikira - muyenera kupeza munthu woyenera.

Koma ngati simungapeze awiri kwa nthawi yaitali ndipo mwakhumudwitsidwa ndi kusankha kochepa, ndi bwino kuganizira. Dzifunseni nokha: mwina ndinu osankha? Yang'anani ngati zili choncho motsatira njira zinayi zotsatirazi.

1. Zofuna zanu kwa mwamuna ndizachiphamaso.

Mkazi aliyense ali ndi mndandanda wa makhalidwe ovomerezeka omwe akuyang'ana mwa mwamuna. Mndandanda woterewu umathandiza kupeza munthu woyenera. Koma mikhalidwe yomwe ili pamndandandawu iyenera kuwonetsa zomwe mumakonda komanso zolinga zanu zam'tsogolo, osati mawonekedwe amunthu omwe mungakhale nawo pachibwenzi - kutalika kwake kapena zomwe amapeza pantchito. Ngati mndandanda wazomwe mukufuna sizikugwirizana ndi zikhalidwe zaumwini kapena zachikhalidwe, ndikofunikira kuti muuonenso. Nthawi zina kukopeka ndi munthu kumaonekera tikam’dziwa bwino.

2. Mumakonda kukhala wopanda chiyembekezo

“Ubwenzi weniweni sungathedi. Mwachiwonekere iye sakufuna kukhazikika. " Nthawi zina chidziwitso chimathandiza, koma nthawi zambiri chimakhala chinyengo - ngati tikudziwa momwe zonse zidzathere. Ndipotu, sitingathe kulosera zam'tsogolo, koma timadzitsimikizira kuti sitingathe. Chifukwa cha izi, timakhala pachiwopsezo chokana mnzako yemwe tingathe kukhala naye limodzi yemwe zonse zitha kuchitika. Ngati mumaneneratu zam'tsogolo potengera mbiri yanu yapa media, makalata, kapena tsiku loyamba, ndinu osankha.

3. Mukuopa kusakondedwa.

Ngati mukuganiza kuti mwamuna ndiwabwino kwambiri kwa inu, izi ndizosiyananso zakusankhira, mbali inayo. Zikutanthauza kuti simukudzitsimikizira nokha. Choyamba, pezani maubwenzi omwe angakhalepo kuti mudziteteze, kuopa kuvulazidwa. Koma kuganiza kuti "simuli anzeru mokwanira / osangalatsa / okongola" kumachepetsa gulu la omwe angakhale ogwirizana nawo. Ndinu ofulumira kuthamangitsa amuna omwe mungathe kupanga nawo ubale.

4. Zimakuvutani kupanga zosankha

Kodi ndizosavuta kwa inu kuyitanitsa kumalo odyera atsopano kapena kukonzekera kumapeto kwa sabata? Kodi mumapanga bwanji zisankho zofunika pa moyo wanu: woti mugwire naye ntchito kapena komwe mungakhale? Mwina kusankha kwanu posankha bwenzi lanu ndi chifukwa cholephera kusankha. Kwenikweni, ndizovuta kwa inu kusankha zomwe mukufuna ndikusankha.

Kuti muchotse kunyada kwambiri, gwiritsani ntchito malangizo awa.

Mfundo 1: Siyani kupopa

Kulota za m’tsogolo komanso kuganizira mmene tsikuli lidzathere n’kosangalatsa. Izi zimakupangitsani kukhala olimbikitsidwa komanso oyembekezera. Komabe, n'zosavuta overdo izo. Ngati mumagwiritsa ntchito molakwika zongopeka, mumangosankha. Mumakhumudwa ndi kukana mwamuna chifukwa chakuti kukambirana sikunayende mmene mumayembekezera. Zoyembekeza zosayembekezereka zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kuwunika mokwanira ngati tsiku linayenda bwino.

Chotsani zowawa kufunika kupeza «ameneyo.» Kukhala pachibwenzi kuli ndi maubwino ena ambiri: mumakhala ndi madzulo abwino, pezani anzanu atsopano ndi anthu amalingaliro ofanana, konzani luso lanu lokopana komanso kuyankhula zazing'ono, pitani kumalo atsopano. Palibe njira yodziwira zomwe zidzachitike, ngakhale chibwenzicho sichikuyenda bwino, mudzakulitsa maukonde anu ochezera. Ndipo mwina mudzakumana ndi munthu wina chifukwa cha izo.

Mfundo 2: Pemphani chithandizo

Funsani anthu omwe amakudziwani bwino: abwenzi apamtima kapena achibale. Adzakufotokozerani zomwe mwasankha ndipo amalangizanso wina kuti akupatseni mwayi wina. Pemphani chithandizo kwa munthu amene akufuna chimwemwe ndipo amadziwa kufotokoza maganizo ake mwanzeru. Ndi bwino kukambirana pasadakhale: pa nkhani zimene mukufuna ndemanga, kamodzi kapena mosalekeza. Kupatula apo, palibe amene amakonda kunena mosabisa kanthu.

Mfundo 3: Sinthani khalidwe lanu

Pofufuza banja, aliyense amasankha njira zake. Ena amachikonda mosavuta, koma sangathe kuyambitsa kapena kupitiriza kukambirana. Ena zimawavuta kuchoka pakulankhulana pa intaneti kupita ku misonkhano yeniyeni. Enanso amakonda kusiya kulankhula pambuyo pa chibwenzi chimodzi kapena ziwiri.

Zindikirani nthawi yomwe nthawi zambiri mumanena kuti "ayi" ndikuyesa kupitilira. Lembani choyamba, perekani kulankhula pa foni, kuvomereza tsiku lachitatu. Sizokhudza munthu amene mukulankhula naye. Chinthu chachikulu ndikusintha chitsanzo chanu cha khalidwe finicky. Mukakumana ndi munthu woyenera, musawaphonye.

Langizo: Osadumpha Kukhala pachibwenzi

Pa tsiku, n'zosavuta kugwidwa maganizo anu. Mukuganiza tsiku lotsatira kapena mukuganiza kuti sikudzakhalakonso. Nkovuta kuzindikira munthu wina pamene mwamizidwa mwa inu nokha. Mumamaliza kupanga ziganizo ndikulosera zam'tsogolo potengera zochepa kapena zolakwika. Kulibwino kuchedwetsa kupanga chisankho. Pamsonkhano, ganizirani za panopa. Mpatseni mwayi mwamunayo. Msonkhano umodzi sungathe kuwulula munthu kwathunthu.

Musalole kuti chizoloŵezi chofuna kusankha zinthu chiwononge moyo wanu. Khalani osinthika pang'ono komanso otseguka, ndiye kuti kufunafuna bwenzi kudzakhala kosangalatsa. Pamene munthu woyenera akuwonekera m'chizimezime, mudzakhala okonzeka.

Za wolemba: Miriam Kiermeyer ndi katswiri wazamisala.