Chifukwa chiyani sitingathe kudziyesa moyenera?

"Ndine ndani?" Ambiri a ife timaganiza kuti tikudziwa bwino yankho la funsoli. Koma sichoncho? Muyenera kuti mudakumana ndi anthu omwe amadziona ngati oimba abwino kwambiri ndipo samagwera mu theka la manotsi; amanyadira nthabwala zawo ndipo amangochititsa manyazi ndi nthabwala; kudziyerekezera ngati wochenjera maganizo akatswiri - ndipo sindikudziwa za kuperekedwa kwa mnzanu. "Izi siziri za ine," mwina mukuganiza. Ndipo mwachiwonekere mukulakwitsa.

Tikamaphunzira zambiri za ubongo ndi kuzindikira, zimadziwikiratu momwe kudziwonera kwathu kwasokonezedwa komanso kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa malingaliro athu ndi momwe ena amatiwonera. Benjamin Franklin analemba kuti: “Pali zinthu zitatu zimene zimavuta kwambiri kuchita: kuthyola chitsulo, kuphwanya diamondi, ndi kudzidziŵa wekha. Yotsirizirayi ikuwoneka kuti ndiyo ntchito yovuta kwambiri. Koma ngati timvetsetsa zomwe zimasokoneza kudzikonda kwathu, titha kukulitsa luso lathu lodziwonetsera.

1. Tikukhala mu ukapolo wa kudzidalira kwathu.

Kodi mukuganiza kuti ndinu wophika kwambiri, muli ndi mawu osangalatsa a ma octave anayi ndipo ndinu munthu wanzeru kwambiri mdera lanu? Ngati ndi choncho, ndiye kuti muli ndi malingaliro apamwamba kwambiri - chikhulupiriro chakuti ndinu abwino kuposa ena pachilichonse kuyambira kuyendetsa galimoto mpaka kugwira ntchito.

Makamaka ife timakhoterera kugwera mu chinyengo ichi pamene tikuweruza mbali za ife eni zomwe timasamala kwambiri. Kafukufuku wa Pulofesa Simin Wazir wa pa yunivesite ya California anapeza kuti kuweruza kwa ophunzira pa luntha lawo sikugwirizana ndi mawerengedwe awo a mayeso a IQ. Awo amene kudzilemekeza kwawo kunali kokwezeka analingalira za malingaliro awo m’zapamwamba chabe. Ndipo ophunzira anzawo omwe anali odzikayikira anali ndi nkhawa chifukwa cha kupusa kwawo koyerekeza, ngakhale atakhala oyamba m’gululo.

Kupambana konyenga kungapereke ubwino wina. Tikamadziganizira tokha, zimatipangitsa kukhala okhazikika m'maganizo, akutero David Dunning wa ku yunivesite ya Cornell (USA). Kumbali ina, kupeputsa luso lathu kungatiteteze ku zolakwa ndi kuchita zinthu mopupuluma. Komabe, mapindu amene angakhalepo a kudzidalira konyenga n’ngochepa poyerekezera ndi mtengo umene timalipira.

“Ngati tikufuna kuti zinthu zitiyendere bwino m’moyo, tiyenera kumvetsa zimene tingachite kuti tigwiritse ntchito ndalamazo komanso tiziona zotsatira zake,” akutero katswiri wa zamaganizo Zlatana Krizana wa ku yunivesite ya Iowa (USA). "Ngati barometer yamkati yasokonekera, imatha kuyambitsa mikangano, zisankho zoyipa ndikulephera."

2. Sitiganizira mmene timaonekera pamaso pa ena.

Timalingalira za khalidwe la munthu mu masekondi oyambirira a kudziwana. Pankhaniyi, maonekedwe a maonekedwe - mawonekedwe a maso, mawonekedwe a mphuno kapena milomo - ndizofunikira kwambiri. Ngati tili ndi munthu wokongola pamaso pathu, timamuyesa wochezeka, wokonda kucheza, wanzeru komanso wachigololo. Amuna omwe ali ndi maso akulu, mlatho wawung'ono wa mphuno ndi nkhope zozungulira amawonedwa ngati "matiresi". Eni ake a nsagwada zazikulu, zodziwika amatha kupeza mbiri ngati «mwamuna».

Kodi ziweruzo zoterozo nzoonadi? Zowonadi, pali kulumikizana pakati pa kupanga testosterone ndi mawonekedwe a nkhope. Amuna amene amaoneka aamuna kwambiri angakhaledi aukali komanso amwano. Kupanda kutero, kuphatikizika kotereku kuli kutali kwambiri ndi chowonadi. Koma zimenezi sizimatilepheretsa kukhulupirira choonadi chawo ndi kuchita zinthu mogwirizana ndi mmene tikumvera.

Ndiyeno zosangalatsa zimayamba. Timaona mmene ena amatichitira, ndipo timayamba kuchita zinthu mogwirizana ndi maganizo amenewa. Ngati nkhope yathu imakumbutsa munthu wolemba ntchito za chigaza cha Neanderthal, tikhoza kukanidwa ntchito yomwe imafuna ntchito yanzeru. Pambuyo pa khumi ndi awiri mwa kukanidwa uku, tikhoza "kuzindikira" kuti sitili oyenerera ntchitoyo.

3. Timaganiza kuti ena amadziwa zomwe timadziwa za ife.

Ambiri a ife timaonabe mmene anthu ena amationera. Zolakwa zimayamba zikafika kwa anthu enaake. Chifukwa chimodzi n’chakuti sitingathe kusiyanitsa bwino lomwe zimene timadziwa ponena za ife eni ndi zimene ena angadziwe ponena za ife.

Kodi mwadzithira khofi? Zachidziwikire, izi zidawonedwa ndi alendo onse ku cafe. Ndipo aliyense ankaganiza kuti: “Nayi nyani! Nzosadabwitsa kuti ali ndi zodzoladzola zokhota pa diso limodzi. " N’zovuta kuti anthu adziŵe mmene ena amawaonera, chifukwa chakuti amadzidziŵa mopambanitsa.

4. Timaganizira kwambiri mmene tikumvera.

Tikakhazikika kwambiri m’maganizo ndi m’maganizo mwathu, tingathe kuona kusintha pang’ono chabe m’maganizo ndi m’moyo wathu. Koma panthawi imodzimodziyo, timalephera kudziyang'ana tokha kuchokera kunja.

Simin Wazir anati: “Mukadzandifunsa kuti ndine wokoma mtima komanso wotchera khutu kwa anthu, ndimangotengera zochita zanga komanso zolinga zanga. "Koma zonsezi sizingafanane ndi momwe ndimakhalira."

Kupewa kwabwino ndiko kufunsa ena kuti akuuzeni. Koma panonso pali mbuna. Omwe amatidziwa bwino akhoza kukhala okondera kwambiri pakuwunika kwawo (makamaka makolo). Komano, monga taonera kale, maganizo a anthu osadziwika nthawi zambiri amapotozedwa chifukwa cha zimene akuona poyamba komanso maganizo awo.

Kukhala bwanji? Simn Wazir akulangiza kuti muchepetse kukhulupilira zigamulo ngati "zonyansa kwambiri" kapena "zaulesi", ndipo mverani zambiri zomwe zikugwirizana ndi luso lanu komanso zochokera kwa akatswiri.

Ndiye kodi n'zotheka kudzidziwa?

Umunthu wathu uli ndi mikhalidwe yambiri yakuthupi ndi yamaganizo—nzeru, zokumana nazo, luso, zizoloŵezi, kugonana, ndi kukongola kwakuthupi. Koma kuganizira kuti chiwerengero cha makhalidwe onsewa ndi woona wathu «Ine» ndi kulakwa.

Katswiri wa zamaganizo Nina Stormbringer ndi anzake a ku yunivesite ya Yale (USA) anaona mabanja kumene kunali okalamba omwe ali ndi vuto la maganizo. Khalidwe lawo linasintha mopanda kudziwika, anasiya kukumbukira ndipo anasiya kuwazindikira achibale awo, koma achibale anapitiriza kukhulupirira kuti amalankhulana ndi munthu yemweyo monga matenda asanakhalepo.

Njira ina yosiyana ndi chidziwitso chaumwini ikhoza kukhala kudzilenga. Tikamayesa kujambula chithunzi chathu chamalingaliro, zimakhala ngati m'maloto - zowoneka bwino komanso zosinthika nthawi zonse. Malingaliro athu atsopano, zokumana nazo zatsopano, zothetsera zatsopano nthawi zonse zimayaka njira zatsopano zachitukuko.

Mwa kusiya zinthu zimene zimaoneka ngati “zachilendo” kwa ife, timakhala pachiswe. Koma ngati tisiya kufunafuna umphumphu ndi kuika maganizo athu pa zolinga, tidzakhala omasuka komanso omasuka.