N’chifukwa chiyani anthu amapita ku ulamuliro?

“Posachedwapa ndinapatsidwa ntchito yotsogolera dipatimentiyi. Ndinakhala kwa mwezi umodzi, kenako sindinathe kupirira - uwu ndi udindo wotero, Galina wazaka 32 akuvomereza. Aliyense akuyembekezera chisankho chabwino kuchokera kwa ine. Ndipo kunong'oneza uku kumbuyo kwanga! .. Ndipo maganizo kwa ine pa mbali ya oyang'anira pamwamba anasintha - anayamba kufuna mosamalitsa kukwaniritsidwa kwa ntchito kwa ine. Ndipo ndinazindikira kuti njira yolankhulirana imeneyi ndi yosavomerezeka kwa ine. Ayi, sindine wokonzeka kukhala mtsogoleri. Ndimakonda kusangalala ndi ntchito m’gawo limene ndimamvetsetsa ndi kulimvetsa. Kumene ndili, ndimadziona ngati katswiri.”

Andrei wazaka 34 ali ndi malingaliro osiyana kwambiri ndi lingaliro lotsogolera dipatimenti pakampani yayikulu. "Ndidagwira ntchito ngati manejala wapakati kwa nthawi yayitali, ndidamvetsetsa momwe amagwirira ntchito pakampaniyo ndipo ndidawona kuti nditha kuwongolera ndikukweza gawolo pamlingo wina. Ineyo ndinapanga chisankho changa kwa director. Kwa ine, izi ndi ntchito zolakalaka kwambiri, ndipo ndimasangalala nazo. ”

Sergey wazaka 40, malinga ndi anzake a m'kalasi, wasintha kwambiri - adalowa m'gulu la ndale ndipo adachita nawo zisankho za m'deralo mumzinda wake. "Nthawi zambiri, tidadabwa kwambiri: nthawi zonse amakhala chete, osawonetsa utsogoleri. Ndiyeno ife tikupeza kuti iye akufuna kwa wachiwiri. Anali ndi galimoto, mlembi ndi makhalidwe ena amphamvu. Tsopano amalankhulana nafe kawirikawiri - zonena zotani ndi makanika wamagalimoto ndi injiniya wa IT? - Akudandaula bwenzi lake akadali posachedwapa Ilya.

N’chifukwa chiyani timakhala ndi maganizo osiyanasiyana okhudza mphamvu ndipo n’chifukwa chiyani timakhala nawo?

Malipiro ndi mantha a kusungulumwa

"Katswiri wa psychoanalyst, neo-Freudian Karen Horney, m'zolemba zake, adagawa chikhumbo champhamvu kukhala chokhazikika komanso chamatsenga. Ndi normative, zonse ndi zomveka. Koma iye kugwirizana neurotic ndi kufooka, kukhulupirira kuti anthu amafuna chipukuta misozi chikhumbo chawo kulamulira, - akufotokoza momveka psychotherapist Marik Khazin. - Ndagwira ntchito kwambiri ndi oyang'anira magulu osiyanasiyana ndipo ndikhoza kunena kuti onse amayendetsedwa ndi zolinga zosiyana. Ndipo ndithudi, pali ambiri omwe, kupyolera mu udindo kapena udindo, amathetsa vuto la kuperewera kwa zinthu - zotsatira za kulumala kwa thupi, kudzida, nkhawa, matenda.

Nkhani ya Horney ndi yosangalatsa. Anadziona ngati wonyansa, ngakhale wonyansa, ndipo adaganiza kuti: popeza sangakhale wokongola, adzakhala wanzeru. Munthu amene wapanga chisankho chotere amakakamizika kukhala ndi mawonekedwe abwino nthawi zonse, kubisa kusowa kwake, kufooka kwake ndi kutsika kwake ndikutsimikizira dziko kuti iye ndi wabwino kuposa momwe amaganizira komanso zomwe dziko limamuganizira.

Anthu ena amafuna kubwezera malingaliro awo odziona ngati otsika pogonana, monga momwe Alfred Adler analembera. Koma osati kokha. Mphamvu, malinga ndi Adler, ndi njira yolipirira ndikuphatikiza phindu la munthu kudzera mu izi. Phindu lathunthu, nalonso, limapangidwa muunyamata.

“Ankakhulupirira kuti wachinyamata ayenera kupanduka, ndipo ntchito ya kholo ndiyo kuchirikiza zotsutsa zake. M'magulu opondereza, m'mabanja aulamuliro, makolo amaletsa zionetserozo, - akufotokoza Marik Khazin, - ndipo potero amalimbitsa malo ake. Zotsatira zake, «mania of insignificance,» monga momwe ndimatchulira, imakula. Olamulira ankhanza onse, mwa lingaliro langa, anakulira pa yisiti ya zovuta zochepa, monga momwe analetsedwa kusonyeza ndi kudziwonetsera okha. Tanthauzo la kupanduka kwa achinyamata ndikutsutsa ndikulengeza ufulu wawo - "Ndili ndi ufulu wokhala ndi moyo momwe ndikufunira ndikukhala ndi maganizo anga." Ndipo iwo akumuuza kuti: “Musakalipira bambo. Simungathe kukweza mawu kwa amayi anu. "

Ndipo wachinyamatayo amapondereza kupanduka kwake, ndipo tsiku lina, patapita nthawi, adzadutsa mosayembekezereka, nthawi zina, mawonekedwe. Kenako kufunikira kolamulira kumathetsa kuthekera kolankhula ndi ena pamlingo wamaso, akutero Marik Khazin. Sizikulolani kuti muvomereze wina ndi malingaliro ndi zosowa zake zosiyana.

Nchiyani chomwe chimayambitsa kufooka? Nthawi zina - kuopa kusungulumwa, monga Erich Fromm analemba mu chiphunzitso chake cha mphamvu. “Iye ankakhulupirira kuti chikhumbo chofuna kukhala ndi mphamvu chinabwera chifukwa cha mantha ndi kupeŵa kusungulumwa, kudzipatula,” akufotokoza motero Marik Khazin. - Lingaliro lolondola ili: munthu amaopa kusungulumwa. Ngati ndili wamanyazi, ndidzakhala ndekha. Muyenera kukhala mtsogoleri, kukulitsa mbali yanu yamphamvu - kukhala wokamba nkhani, kukwaniritsa cholinga chanu pa siteji kapena ku nyumba yamalamulo. Pali cholinga chomvetsa chisoni m'chikhumbo chimenechi chofuna kuti wina aziwaganizira. Amasintha winayo kukhala ntchito, amamupangitsa kuti azichita zomwe amakonda ndikuyamba kuyang'anira - chimodzi mwazinthu zamphamvu kwambiri.

Nthawi zina chikhumbo cha mphamvu chimapanga mphamvu zazikulu zomwe zimakulolani kukhala mtsogoleri (mwachitsanzo, atsogoleri otchuka a ndale). Koma funso lonse ndilakuti ma hyper-quality awa amagwiritsidwa ntchito.

"M'malo moyang'ana bwino, kupachika malamulo ndi zingwe pamapewa, kupeza maudindo atsopano, kugula magalimoto atsopano, nyumba, muyenera kudziwa kuti pamapeto pake tidzatsala opanda kanthu," anatero Marik Khazin. Jung ankakhulupirira kuti timakhala osokonezeka maganizo chifukwa timakhutira ndi mayankho osakwanira a mafunso omwe moyo umatipatsa. Timafunikira uzimu, adakhulupirira. Ndipo ndimagwirizana naye kwathunthu. "

Mphamvu ndi mphamvu sizifanana

Tiyeni tibwererenso kwa Karen Horney, yemwe ankakhulupirira kuti chilakolako chokhazikika cha mphamvu chimatanthawuza kuzindikira ndi kukhala ndi chida chothandizira kukwaniritsa cholinga china. Mlandu wofotokozedwa ndi ngwazi yathu Andrey imangowonetsa malingaliro ozindikira paudindo ngati chida chokwaniritsa gawo latsopano lachitukuko chamunthu komanso kupambana kwa kampani yonse. Iye, ndithudi, akhoza kupita panjira ya Sergei.

“Monga momwe Carl Jung ananenera, aliyense wa ife ali ndi mbali yake ya mthunzi: mkwiyo, kaduka, chidani, chikhumbo cha kulamulira ndi kulamulira ena kaamba ka kudzitsimikizira kwathu tokha,” akufotokoza motero Marik Khazin. "Ndipo mutha kuzindikira izi mwa inu nokha osalola kuti mithunzi itenge kuwala kwathu.

Mwachitsanzo, chikazi m'mawonekedwe ake owopsa ndi chiwonetsero cha kusatetezeka, chikhumbo chogonjetsa zaka mazana ambiri za ulamuliro wa amuna. Ndipo ndi chiyani chinanso chomwe chingayembekezere kwa akazi achikoka ngati amuna alanda mphamvu?

Ndipo akazi amakakamizika kuthyola chipika champhamvu chimenechi. Ngakhale akazi ndi andale komanso atsogoleri abwino kwambiri. Amakhala omasuka komanso okonzeka kugawana zomwe ali nazo. Mu zisankho zaposachedwa ku Israel, mwachitsanzo, ndinavotera mkazi yemwe anali wosangalatsa komanso wamphamvu kuposa amuna omwe akufuna. Koma, tsoka, iye sanadutse.

Ndipotu akazi akulamulira kale dziko, kungoti amuna sadziwa. Pali nthabwala yachiyuda. Rabinovich akunyamula mkazi wake ndi apongozi ake m'galimoto.

Mkazi:

- Chabwino!

Apongozi akazi:

- Kumanzere!

- Mofulumirirako!

- Mochedwerako!

Rabinovich sangathe kupirira:

“Tamvera, Tsilya, sindikumvetsa amene akuyendetsa galimotoyo – iweyo kapena amayi ako?”

Erich Fromm anasiyanitsa mfundo ziwiri - mphamvu ndi mphamvu. Mutha kukhala amphamvu osafunafuna mphamvu. Tikamamva ngati tokha, sitifuna mphamvu. Inde, nthawi ina timasangalala ndi kuwomba m'manja ndi matamando, koma tsiku lina kukhuta kumabwera. Ndipo zikuwoneka zomwe Viktor Frankl adalemba - kuzindikira tanthauzo la kukhalapo kwa munthu. Chifukwa chiyani ndili padziko lapansi pano? Ndidzabweretsa chiyani kudziko lapansi? Kodi ndingatani kuti ndilemeretse mwauzimu?

Aliyense amene amazindikira mphamvu zake amamvetsetsa kuti akufunika kukulitsa, kudziwongolera. Mwachitsanzo, monga Galina. Anthu amakopeka ndi mphamvu. “Mtsogoleri weniweni mu mphamvu zake ayenera kusonyeza chikondi ndi chisamaliro. Koma ngati mumvetsera zokamba za andale otchuka, atsogoleri a mayiko, simudzamva chilichonse chokhudza chikondi, - ndemanga Marik Khazin. “Chikondi ndicho kufuna kupatsa. Ndikalephera kupereka, ndimayamba kutenga. Atsogoleri enieni omwe amakonda antchito awo ali okonzeka kubwezera. Ndipo sizikuchulukirachulukira pankhani yazakuthupi. ”

David Clarence McClelland, katswiri wa zamaganizo wa ku America, adazindikira zigawo zitatu za bizinesi yopambana: kupindula, mphamvu ndi chiyanjano (chilakolako cha maubwenzi osakhazikika, ofunda). Okhazikika komanso opambana ndi makampani omwe onse atatu amapangidwa.

“Mphamvu si kasamalidwe ka anthu. Kulamulira kumatanthauza kulamulira, kulamula, kulamulira, - akufotokoza Marik Khazin. - Ndine wolamulira. Yang'anani madalaivala panjira. Madalaivala owongolera amatsinidwa, akugwira chiwongolero, kutsamira kutsogolo. Dalaivala wodzidalira amatha kuyendetsa ndi chala chimodzi, akhoza kusiya chiwongolero, saopa msewu. N'chimodzimodzinso ndi bizinesi ndi banja. Kukhala mu zokambirana, kuyang'anira, osati kulamulira, kugawana ntchito, kukambirana. Kuli kwanzeru kwambiri kukulitsa mikhalidwe imeneyi mwa ife eni moyo wathu wonse, chifukwa chakuti sitinabadwe nayo.”