Ngati ubalewo wafika pachimake kwa nthawi yayitali, koma sitingayerekeze kusudzulana, ndiye kuti nthawi zina timasamutsa zilakolako zathu kudziko lamaloto. Tangoganizirani za moyo umene simunakumanepo ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu. Momwe mungayang'anire chowonadi komanso malingaliro ongokhalira nokha angakhale othandiza bwanji?
Ngakhale m’maubwenzi apamtima, tikakumana ndi mikangano, tingaganize mopupuluma kuti kukhala tokha kungatipulumutse ku mavuto amene abuka. Koma izi zimasinthidwa mwachangu ndi kuthekera kwa okondedwa kumva wina ndi mnzake ndikupita patsogolo. N’zosadabwitsa kuti ndi kusamvetsetsana kosalekeza kwa munthu amene waitanidwa kukhala wapafupi kwambiri, timayamba mowonjezereka kukhala ndi moyo popanda iye.
Awo amene alibe chimwemwe muukwati safuna kuvomereza ngakhale kwa iwo eni kuti akuimira masoka mmene theka linalo likuwonongeka. Tsoka loterolo limawasiya mu chisoni ndi kusungulumwa, koma panthawi imodzimodziyo amachotsa vuto lopweteka. Ndipo awa si anthu oipa amene mwadala amafuna kuvulaza munthu amene amamukonda, kapenanso kuchita chiwembu. Awa ndi anthu wamba, okhala ndi malingaliro awoawo ndi zokumana nazo, monga inu ndi ine.
Ngati muzongopeka nthawi zambiri mumajambula zithunzi za moyo wanu popanda mnzanu, ichi ndi chizindikiro chakuti ubale wanu watha ndipo, ndi mwayi waukulu, sizingatheke kuwutsitsimutsa. Mukufuna kubwereranso ku moyo waulere kachiwiri, koma nthawi yomweyo simunakonzekere kudutsa njira yovuta yopatukana. Ndipo, kusiya zowawa zosapeweka, mumapanga nkhani yomwe simunakumanepo ndi munthu uyu.
Tsoka ilo, palibe batani lamatsenga lomwe lingakutengereni kumoyo watsopano, kusiya kusiya ndikumvetsetsa zomwe mwalandira. Pali njira yovuta kutsogolo, ndipo iyenera kudutsa pang'onopang'ono.
Nawa malangizo atatu othandiza panjira:
1. Mwa zina, kuganiza kuti muli mfulu kungakhale kothandiza ngati kumachepetsa nkhawa zanu. Tangolingalirani mmene mudzasinthire moyo wanu pambuyo pa chisudzulo, kumene mudzakhala, zimene mudzachite. Mwina ichi chidzakhala kulimbikitsani kuyambitsa china chatsopano: chosangalatsa chomwe mwakhala mukuchisiya kwa nthawi yayitali, kusewera masewera, kusintha ntchito yanu. Zowonjezereka, zodzazidwa ndi ndondomeko zabwino, zothandizira chithunzi chamtsogolo, chimakhala bwino. Izi zidzakuthandizani panthawi yachisudzulo ndi nthawi yokonzanso.
Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa pasadakhale ufulu wanu ndi udindo wanu, momwe mungatetezere zofuna zanu
2. Ganizirani chifukwa chake mukuthaŵa chowonadi ndipo simunakonzekere kulingalira chisudzulo monga sitepe limene lingakuthandizeni kukhala ndi moyo wachimwemwe ndi watanthauzo pambuyo pake. Nthawi zina zingakhale zothandiza kuona malingaliro anu kuti muthetse mantha ndi tsankho. Yesani kuyankha molemba, moona mtima momwe mungathere kwa inu nokha funsoli - chifukwa chiyani ndikupewa kusudzulana?
Izi zitha kukhala kuopa kutsutsidwa ndi achibale, omwe pamaso pake mumasokoneza banja ndikulepheretsa ana kulankhulana ndi abambo awo. Kapena kuopa kukhala wekha osapezanso bwenzi lina. Kuopa kuti mnzanuyo sangavomereze chisankho chanu. Izi zitha kumupweteka, zomwe zingakubwerezereni ndi mlandu. Chifukwa china chotheka: ali ndi zothandizira kumbali yake, chifukwa chomwe mnzanu angabwezere, mukuwopa zotsatira zake.
3. Yesani kusanthula zomwe zikukudetsani nkhawa. Nthawi zambiri izi sizikhala zophweka ndipo pali chiopsezo kuti mudzakakamira kuyenda mozungulira. Pankhaniyi, funani thandizo la akatswiri a zamaganizo.
Ngati mumvetsetsa kuti mnzanuyo sangakumane nanu, kusudzulana kukuwopseza kuti kudzakhala nkhondo yanthawi yayitali, ndipo muli ndi ana, ndikofunikira kudzipangira nokha chithandizo chalamulo. Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa pasadakhale ufulu wanu ndi udindo wanu, momwe mungatetezere zofuna zanu.
Nthawi ina mukadzayambanso kuganiza za chisudzulo, bwereraninso ku zolemba zanu ndipo mudzazindikira kuti mutha kuthana bwino ndi zenizeni zomwe zimakuwopsezani ndikukulepheretsani kupita patsogolo.