Katswiriyu amagwiritsa ntchito njira zonse kulamulira anthu amene ali nawo pafupi. Akafuna chowiringula kuti akuuzeni kapena kukupangitsani kuti musinthe khalidwe lanu, amalumpha nthawi iliyonse. Tsoka ilo, nthawi zambiri sitizindikira izi nthawi yomweyo. Pochita ndi narcissist, malamulo a masewerawa amasintha nthawi zonse, ndipo timangodziwa za izi pamene tikuphwanya mosadziwa.
Narcissists nthawi zonse amalangidwa chifukwa chophwanya malamulo. Akhoza kudzudzula kapena kuyamba kunyalanyaza. Kukankhira kutali ndi inu kwakanthawi, kapena kungowonetsa kusakhutira kosalekeza ndikuyesera kupangitsa kudzimva wolakwa chifukwa chophwanya "malamulo" mwachinyengo.
Pakhoza kukhala zosankha zambiri za "zilango", koma zonse ndizosasangalatsa. Choncho, timayesetsa "kulingalira" malamulowa pasadakhale kuti tisawaphwanye komanso kuti tisakhumudwitse wokondedwa. Chotsatira chake n’chakuti, ‘timayenda m’mwamba’ polankhula ndi iye. Khalidweli limatha kuyambitsa nkhawa komanso kupsinjika kwakanthawi kochepa.
Pali zitsanzo zambiri za "malamulo" omwe narcisists amakhazikitsa. Mwachitsanzo, mnzanu sakusangalala kuti mumavala mokweza kapena, mosiyana, modzichepetsa. Amadzudzulidwa chifukwa cha mathalauza kapena ma flop kapena china chilichonse, monga kuvala zovala zabuluu.
Wokondedwa wa narcissistic akhoza kulamulira zakudya zanu, mwachitsanzo pofunsa motsutsa, "N'chifukwa chiyani mukudya izi?" Mwina sangakonde mmene timayenda, kulankhula komanso kugawa nthawi. Amafuna kulamulira moyo wathu wonse pa zinthu zazing’ono kwambiri.
“Ndamva nkhani zambiri kuchokera kwa makasitomala zokhudzana ndi malamulo osiyanasiyana omwe anthu onyada amapangira okondedwa awo. Osapita opanda nsapato, osapukuta manja anu onyowa pa mathalauza anu. Osalemba mameseji, ingoyimbirani. Osadya shuga, idyani chidutswa cha mkate. Simuyenera kukhala woyamba kuyendera. Osachedwa. Nthawi zonse fikani mphindi 5 molawirira. Osatenga kirediti kadi, koma kirediti kadi. Nthaŵi zonse muzitenga khadi la ngongole lokha,” akutero katswiri wa zamaganizo Shari Stynes.
Zodabwitsa ndizakuti, narcissists ndi zodziwikiratu m'njira zawo ndi kusinthasintha. M'makhalidwe a aliyense wa iwo, machitidwe ena amabwerezedwa. Chimodzi mwa machitidwewa ndi kusadziŵika kwa malamulo omwe amasintha nthawi zonse. Zosintha zimakhala ndi zifukwa zenizeni.
Chimodzi mwa izo ndi chakuti narcissists amadziona kuti ndi apamwamba kuposa ena ndipo ali otsimikiza kuti amadziwa bwino kuposa ife "momwe tingachitire". N’chifukwa chake amakhulupirira kuti ali ndi ufulu woikira ena malamulo. Ndi munthu wankhanza kwambiri amene amaganiza kuti aliyense womuzungulira ayenera kumvera zofuna zake.
Chifukwa chachiwiri n’chakuti wogwiriridwayo ayenera kusonyeza wozunzidwayo (mnzawo, mwana, mnzake) ngati munthu “woipa”. Kuzwa mumbungano yamusyobo ooyu, tulakonzya kuba “babi” kwiinda mukutobela milawo yakwe. Ayenera kudzimva ngati wozunzidwa, ndipo ali wotsimikiza kuti ali ndi ufulu wonse wotilanga. Maganizo amenewa ndi ofanana kwambiri ndi anthu omwe amamwa mowa mwauchidakwa.
N’chifukwa chiyani munthu wamkulu amauza mnzake zovala, zoti adye, aziyendetsa galimoto? Izi zingatheke pokhapokha ngati akukhulupirira kuti ali ndi ufulu wosankha chomwe chili chabwino.
“Ngati wina wapafupi ndi inu ali wosuta ndipo mukufunitsitsa kumusangalatsa kuti musayambitse mkangano, ndingakupatseni malangizo amodzi: siyani. Ikani malamulo anuanu ndikuwatsatira. Lolani munthu uyu akonze zosokoneza, akwiye, yesetsani kukunyengererani. Ndi ntchito yake. Bweretsani kulamulira moyo wanu ndipo musagonje pakuyesera kunyengerera, "akufotokoza mwachidule Shari Stines.