Chifukwa chiyani amayi omwe sanakondedwe muubwana amasankha mabwenzi osapambana

“Zinatheka bwanji kuti ndikwatire amayi anga? Iye ankawoneka ngati munthu wosiyana, koma iye anali chimodzimodzi. Ndikanatha bwanji kuti ndisazindikire kuti amandichitira monga momwe amachitira nane? Ndakhumudwa,” amadzifunsa motero.

Aliyense, amene amakondedwa ndi amene sali, amakopeka ndi anthu amene amawadziŵa bwino. Ngati munakulira m’banja limene makolo anu amakukondani ndi kukuthandizani, kukopeka kumeneku kungakhale kothandiza. Mwachidziwikire, mutha kuwona mosavuta anthu omwe amakonda kuwongolera ndi kuwongolera, ndipo mutha kupeza bwenzi lomwe akufuna zomwe mukufuna monga inu: ubale wapamtima, kulankhulana momasuka, kuyanjana komanso kuthandizana. Tsoka ilo, izi sizili choncho kwa amayi omwe amakhudzidwa ndi nkhawa omwe zosowa zawo zamaganizo sizinakwaniritsidwe paubwana wawo. Amaberekanso zochitika zodziwika bwino mu ubale wawo wachikondi. Nazi zifukwa zisanu zomwe izi zimachitika kawirikawiri:

1. Amakopeka ndi munthu amene sasonyeza chikondi.

Cholinga cha mwana wamkazi ndicho kukopa chikondi cha amayi ake. Chifukwa cha ichi, iye amatsimikiza kuti chikondi sichimaperekedwa monga choncho, chiyenera kupezedwa. Akakumana ndi mwamuna yemwe amachita zinthu mosiyana (nthawi zina akuwonetsa kutentha, kenako kuzizira), izi zimamuwopsyeza, koma khalidwe lake likuwoneka lodziwika bwino.

Mosiyana ndi munthu amene amadziŵa chimene chikondi chenicheni chiri, kwa iye, khalidwe loterolo silodzutsa. N’zoona kuti kuzizira kwake kumamukwiyitsa ndi kumukwiyitsa, koma kumam’limbikitsa kuyesetsa kuti ayambenso kumukonda.

2. Amakonda kupirira

Chifukwa chakuti sadziwa mmene chikondi chimaonekera ndi mmene chimaonekera, kwa iwo amaona kuti kupambana m’chikondi ndiko “kuchipeza”. Chotero, kuyanjanitsa pambuyo pa mkangano kumabweretsa chikhutiro ndi kukulitsa chidaliro chakuti iye amakondedwa.

3. Kusakhazikika Kumawoneka Wachikondi

Azimayi, makamaka amayi omwe ali ndi nkhawa omwe amakhala osakhazikika m'maganizo, nthawi zambiri amasokoneza kusakhazikika kwa maubwenzi ndi chilakolako chachiwawa. Kusinthasintha kosalekeza kwa malingaliro kuchokera ku chisangalalo chamkuntho, pamene mwamuna amamukondanso, kutaya mtima, pamene atsala pang'ono kuchoka, zonse zimakondweretsa ndi kukhetsa. Inde, chilakolako chikuwoneka chosiyana, koma iye sakudziwa za izo. Izi zikufotokozera chifukwa chake akazi oterowo nthawi zambiri amakopeka ndi amuna omwe ali ndi mikhalidwe yonyansa.

4. Apeza zifukwa zochitira zoipa.

Azimayi omwe sanatengedwe mozama muubwana, kunyalanyazidwa ndi kudzudzulidwa nthawi zonse (ndipo zonsezi zimagwera m'gulu la nkhanza zapakamwa), amasiya kuyankha mitundu ina ya chinyengo ndi nkhanza. Chifukwa cha ichi, samamvetsetsa kuti kutukwana kapena kulamulira pang'ono kuchokera kwa okondedwa kumawononga ubwenzi.

Iwo amagwera mosavuta mumsampha wodziimba mlandu ndi kuyamba kuganiza kuti iwo eniwo anaputa munthu ku khalidwe loterolo.

5. Sasiya kuyembekezera ndikuyembekezera mathero abwino.

Ndikofunikiranso kuti amayi azikondedwa komanso kuti asatayidwe kapena kukanidwa, choncho ulemu uliwonse kapena zabwino zonse za mnzawo nthawi zambiri zimaoneka ngati zofunika kwambiri kwa iwo, ngakhale mnzawoyo atakhala wosayenera nthawi zambiri.

Nthawi zosasangalatsa zimamulimbikitsa ndikumupangitsa kuti adziyerekeze ngati Cinderella, yemwe adakumana ndi kalonga wake. Popeza sadziwa momwe ubale wabwino umamangidwira, ndiye kuti amatha kudzipatsanso zochepa kuposa zomwe amalota komanso zoyenera. Kuti mupange zisankho zanzeru, muyenera kuzindikira ndikuchiritsa kupwetekedwa mtima kwaubwana komwe kumachitika chifukwa cha kusowa kwa chikondi cha makolo.