Zamkatimu
Mwina banja lililonse limadutsa siteji iyi: zonse zili bwino muubwenzi, koma pali kugonana kochepa. Nthawi zina mkhalidwe uwu mwachinsinsi umagwirizana ndi onse awiri. Ndipo zimachitika kuti munthu amakhalabe wosakhutira. Bwanji osafuna kugonana ndi zomwe zimachepetsa chilakolako chogonana?
Kuti mukonze vuto, choyamba muyenera kudziwa chifukwa chake. Inde, alipo ambiri kuposa asanu. Zochita zogonana zimakhudzidwa ndi chikhalidwe cha thanzi, ndi kusagwirizana kwa biorhythms, ndi kusagwirizana kulikonse mwa awiriwa. Ndipo akazi ena, ngakhale lero, ali pansi pa chinyengo kuti sayenera kusangalala ndi kugonana, choncho amawaona ngati ntchito.
Ndipo komabe zifukwa zodziwika bwino, malinga ndi zomwe akatswiri azachipatala amawona, ndi izi:
1. Kupsinjika
Kupanikizika kosalekeza kumachepetsa kaphatikizidwe ka testosterone, timadzi tomwe timadalira chilakolako chogonana. Komanso, kuyankha kwachilengedwe pakupsinjika kumakhudzanso kutulutsidwa kwa cortisol (mahomoni odandaula) ndi adrenaline. Chotsatiracho chimakonzekeretsa thupi kuti lipirire zovuta mwa kukweza shuga wamagazi ndi kuthamanga kwa magazi kuti uzimutse minofu ndi ubongo.
Komabe, m'moyo wamba sitifunikira zonsezi. Ndicho chifukwa chake pambuyo pa kupsinjika maganizo timamva kutopa kwambiri. Kugonana kwamtundu wanji mukangofuna kugwa pabedi ndikugona? Kulephera kugona nthawi zonse kumakhudzanso moyo wa kugonana osati mwa njira yabwino.
Zimatipangitsa kukhala osakhudzidwa ndi zokopa zosangalatsa monga ma caress.
Kuthetsa zifukwa izi, m`pofunika kutenga mlingo wa nkhawa pansi pa ulamuliro ndi kugonjetsa kusowa tulo. Mutha kuyamba ndi lamulo losavuta: musayang'ane imelo yanu yantchito ndipo musayang'ane nkhani musanagone.
Ndipo kugonana ndi njira yabwino yothetsera kupsinjika maganizo. Kupatula apo, nthawi zambiri timapanga chikondi, m'pamenenso ma endorphin ndi oxytocin amakhala m'thupi - mahomoni achimwemwe ndi chikondi.
2. Zakudya zosayenera
Ichi ndi chifukwa choletsa kwambiri kuchepa kwa kugonana. Kulemera kwakukulu kumakhudza kwambiri ntchito ya mitsempha ya magazi, kuphatikizapo kumaliseche, komwe kumakhudza kwambiri kukhudzidwa kwawo.
Chakudya chamadzulo chokwanira chingathenso kulepheretsa mwayi uliwonse wa usiku wachikondi. Mphamvu zonse za thupi zidzapita ku chigayidwe cha chakudya. Ndipo zakudya zonenepa nazonso zimabweretsa kumverera kwachisoni ndi kugona.
Choncho, ndi bwino kudya mwamsanga ndi kuwala chakudya - masamba saladi, nsomba ndi nsomba.
Ndikoyenera kunena mawu ochepa za mowa. Mosiyana ndi zomwe anthu amaganiza, kumwa mowa wambiri sikuchulukitsa libido, koma kumapha. Kumwa mowa mopitirira muyeso kumakhudza minyewa yomwe imayambitsa erections mwa amuna ndi clitoral sensitivity mwa amayi.
3. Kudzikayikira
Kudziona koyipa kumapangitsa munthu kukhala wokhazikika komanso wodziwika bwino, salola kumasuka. Ngati zikuwoneka kwa inu kuti simungathe kuchita chidwi ndi wina aliyense pakugonana, ndiye kuti izi zimachepetsa chidwi chanu munjira yokhayo.
Choncho, muyenera kusiya kuganizira zolakwa zanu. Kugonana kwachangu sikuli eni ake a thupi langwiro okha.
Lekani kuganiza za masentimita owonjezera m'chiuno, kudandaula za hump pamphuno kapena madontho kumbuyo. Dzikondeni nokha, mverani kumasulidwa. Chotsatira sichidzakupangitsani kuyembekezera. Ngati simungathe kuchita nokha, mukhoza kulembetsa maphunziro odzidalira kapena kukambirana ndi katswiri.
4. Kusowa maganizo
Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti amayi amafunikira nthawi yochulukirapo kuti amve chilakolako chogonana. Sichimapeza kawirikawiri oimira theka lokongola la umunthu mwadzidzidzi. Ndipo nthawi zambiri amakana kupatsidwa mnzawo, osati chifukwa choti masiku ano sakufuna n’komwe kugonana, koma chifukwa chakuti sakufunabe.
Amuna, kumbali ina, nthawi zambiri amawona kukanidwa ngati kusafuna kwa mnzako kupanga chikondi nkomwe. Kwa iwo, izi zingatanthauze: "Sandifunanso."
Zonsezi zimapangitsa kuchepa kwa kugonana mwa okwatirana.
Mwachibadwa sitingakhumbe ubwenzi pamene mnzathuyo ali ndi maganizo. Komabe, ganizirani zomwe zingasinthe chisankho chanu.
Fotokozerani wokondedwa wanu za kufunika kowoneratu kwa inu, malemba achikondi masana, kupsompsonana kwautali mutabwera kuchokera kuntchito, kukhudza mofatsa, mongoganiza kuti ndi wamba, kukhudza pamene mukukonzekera chakudya chamadzulo, ndi zizindikiro zina zogonana.
Ganizirani zomwe zimakutsegulirani. Mwina filimu ndi wosewera mumaikonda? Kutikita minofu? Kodi muli ndi deti mu cafe yabwino? Dzithandizeni kukhala ndi malingaliro ogonana.
5. Simudziwa zomwe mumakonda
Amayi ambiri sadziwa malo omwe amatha kukhala ndi orgasm, kaya amakonda kupsopsonana panthawi yogonana, komanso zomwe zimawapangitsa kukhala pabedi. Anthu ena saganizira n’komwe za zinthu zimenezi.
Ena, m'malo mwake, akhala akulota kwa nthawi yaitali kuti mnzawo, mwachitsanzo, adawamanga pabedi, koma amachita manyazi kunena choncho. Ndipo izi, ndithudi, sizithandiza moyo wa kugonana.
Tiyeni tijambule kufanana kophweka. Mukudziwa zokonda zanu zophikira ndipo simudzadya nsomba ya tartare ngati simungathe kuyimirira nsomba yaiwisi. Kotero ngati mnzanuyo adzaphika mbale iyi pa chakudya chamadzulo, mumamuchenjeza, ndipo akhoza kusintha menyu.
Nanga n’cifukwa ciani timacita zinthu mosiyana pankhani ya kugonana?
Ngati kugonana sikubweretsa chisangalalo, pamapeto pake chilakolakocho chimatha. Ganizirani zomwe zingakusangalatseni. Pachifukwa ichi, mwa njira, ndizothandiza kuyang'ana zolaula ndikukambirana zomwe mukuwona ndi mnzanuyo.
Musaope kuti adzakuweruzani. Kugonana kuyenera kusiya kukhala nkhani yosaloledwa. Usaope zilakolako za thupi lako; Kambiranani vutolo ndipo chitani chilichonse kuti mawu asapatuke ndi zochita.
Za Mlembi: Sarah Hunter Murray ndi Katswiri wa Zamaganizo, Wothandizira Mabanja ndi Katswiri Wokhudzana ndi Kugonana kwa American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists.