"Ndiwe!" Zoyenera kuchita ngati ndinu mwiniwake

Ubwenzi ndi okondedwa nthawi zambiri umaphimbidwa ndi malingaliro osasangalatsa monga kusatetezeka ndi mantha. Amagwirizanitsidwa ndi kudzikayikira komanso zochitika zakale zoipa. Mwachitsanzo, makolo a mnyamatayo anasudzulana, ndipo atakula amawopa kubwereza nkhani imeneyi m’banja lake. Amatsatira mkazi wake ndikumuzunza ndi nsanje.

Muubwana, aliyense wa ife adapanga njira ina ya khalidwe pakakhala zinthu zosasangalatsa. Mosazindikira, timagwiritsa ntchito makhalidwe amenewa pa moyo wa akuluakulu.

Makolo a kamtsikana akukambitsirana, koma sakumulabadira. Amayamba kupondaponda mapazi ake, kukuwa ndi kugwa pansi. Mtsikanayo amakula, ndipo pamene akuwoneka kuti mnzanuyo amalankhulana pang'ono ndi iye ndikuganiza za iye yekha, amayesa kulamulira zinthu, kuyesera kukopa chidwi chake m'njira zonse.

Makhalidwe ndi mayankho odzitchinjiriza omwe amapangidwa muubwana amawononga maubwenzi akuluakulu. Nazi njira zisanu ndi ziwiri zomwe zingakuthandizeni kuthetsa malingaliro a ubwana ndikulimbikitsa kukhulupirirana ndi wokondedwa wanu.

1. LIMBIKISANI KUKHALA KWANU WOFUNIKA

Ngati kudzikayikira kuli pamtima pa khalidwe laukali, muyenera kulimbana ndi liwu lamkati limene limayesetsa kulimbikitsa kusadzidalira. Zindikirani kuti ndinu wofunika mwa inu nokha, mosasamala kanthu za momwe ena amakuchitirani. Ndinu amphamvu ndipo mutha kuchita zambiri. Ngakhale malingaliro anu atakwaniritsidwa ndipo zikuwonekera kuti mnzanu akukunyengani, moyo sudzatha.

2.KUPEZANI ZINTHU ZOMWETSA ZINTHU NDI ZOCHITIKA ZOPHUNZITSA

Apo ayi, mukhoza kukankhira mnzanu kutali. Ngakhale mukuda nkhawa bwanji, yesetsani kuti musamupanikizike. Musanyalanyaze liwu lamkati limene limakuphunzitsani kulanga mnzanuyo chifukwa cha nkhawa yanu: “Anabwera kunyumba mochedwa kwambiri kuti musangalale naye. Osalankhula naye - mudziwitse momwe angachedwere."

3. DZIWIKIRANI MAKHALIDWE AWA AKALE

Nkhawa zanu sizidzatha zokha. Tiyenera kumvetsa kumene inachokera. Chimene chikuchitika tsopano ndicho chiyambi cha ululu wakale. Ngati mukufuna kulamulira wokondedwa wanu ndikufuna kukhala naye kwathunthu, fufuzani zakale. Umu ndi momwe mumadziwira inu weniweni. Nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta kupeza zomwe zimatanthawuza khalidwe lowononga. Pankhaniyi, psychotherapy ndiyofunika, yomwe ingathandize kuzindikira gwero la kusatsimikizika.

4. PEZANI NJIRA ZOTHANDIZA NKHAWA YANU

Zotsatira zabwino zimaperekedwa ndi kusinkhasinkha kosiyanasiyana ndi machitidwe opumira omwe amakuphunzitsani kuthana ndi malingaliro ndi malingaliro oyipa komanso osawalola kuwongolera khalidwe lanu.

5. SIYANI KUMVETSERA AKUKUSUZANI MTIMA WAKO

Wotsutsa yemwe amakhala mkatimo amatidyetsa maganizo oopsa: "Mwina akukunyengererani", "Ndani adzakufunani?", "Zikuwoneka ngati akufuna kukusiyani." Chifukwa cha izi, timakhala ndi nkhawa ndikuwonetsa khalidwe laumwini.

6. IBWANI PA MOYO WANU

Iyi ndi sitepe yofunika kwambiri. Muziganizira kwambiri za moyo wanu, osati wa mnzanu. Dzifunseni kuti: “Kodi kwenikweni ndingakonde kuchita chiyani? Ndi chiyani chomwe chimandisangalatsa komanso chondilimbikitsa kwambiri? Poyamba kuchita zomwe zili zofunika komanso zosangalatsa kwa inu, mukhoza kuvomereza kuti inu ndi mnzanuyo simuli amodzi, koma akuluakulu, anthu odziimira okha omwe amakondana.

7. KULANKHULANA NDI ANTHU WANU NGATI MUNTHU WAKULU

Lankhulani za mantha anu, kusatetezeka, ndi chikhumbo chofuna kulamulira. Lolani iyi ikhale sitepe yoyamba yokhazikitsa kukhulupirirana pakati panu.