Mukakhala ndi zilonda zapakhosi sizimakupangitsani kumva bwino chifukwa zinapweteka kale. Momwemonso ndi nkhawa - ngakhale mutakhala nazo kangati, zimakhala zovuta kupiriranso mantha ena. Zoyenera kuchita? Kodi tingadzithandize bwanji?
Wolemba mabuku wina wa ku Britain dzina lake Matt Haig anavutika maganizo kwambiri kwa zaka pafupifupi khumi. Poyesera kuti atuluke mu nkhawa ndi kuthana ndi mantha, adayesa njira zonse, zomveka osati choncho: mowa, yoga, kusinkhasinkha, kuwerenga mabuku ndi kumvetsera ma podcasts. Anayendayenda m'malo ochezera a pa Intaneti ndikuwona mndandanda watsopano. Koma pafupifupi njira iriyonse yopatutsira chidwi chake inamukokera mozama m’kutaya mtima.
Zaka zingapo pambuyo pake adazindikira: moyo wapadziko lonse lapansi ndi wodzaza. Mu chidziwitso, malingaliro ndi thupi lomwe dziko liri nalo pa ife lero, kuwonjezereka kwa nkhawa, kuyambitsa kupsinjika maganizo, kutopa m'maganizo, kusokonezeka maganizo. Wolembayo akuwonetsa momwe angapulumuke pakusintha kodabwitsa m'buku la "Planet of the Nervous".
Nazi mawu ochepa omwe amamuthandiza kukhalabe ndi malo apadera ozungulira iye, momwe mungathe kupuma ndikusangalala kukhala - popanda zokopa zakunja.
MATT HAGUE: "Pamene sindingathe kuchita, NDIDZIWUTSA NDEKHA ..."
1. Chilichonse chili mwadongosolo.
2. Ngakhale ngati chilichonse sichili bwino ndipo simungathe kuchikoka mwanjira ina iliyonse, musayese kuchilamulira.
3. Mumaona kuti simukumvetsetsani. Aliyense amamva chimodzimodzi. Musayese kuti anthu akumvetseni. Yesetsani kumvetsetsa nokha, ndipo zina zonse sizidzakhalanso zofunika.
4. Dzivomerezeni nokha. Ngati simungathe kukhala osangalala ndi inu nokha, osachepera dzivomereni nokha momwe mulili tsopano. Simungathe kudzisintha nokha popanda kudziwa kuti ndinu ndani.
5. Musakhale ozizira. Ayi. Musayesere kukhala wozizira. Musaganize zomwe anthu abwino amaganiza. Yesetsani kwa anthu a malo osungiramo zinthu zina. Tanthauzo la moyo si kuzizira. Ndikosavuta kupotoza khosi lanu pokhota molimba.
6. Pezani buku labwino. Khalani pansi ndi kuwerenga. Zidzabweradi nthawi m'moyo pomwe mudzatayika ndikusokonezedwa. Kuwerenga ndi njira yobwerera kwa wekha. Kumbukirani izi. Mukamawerenga kwambiri, mumadziwa bwino momwe mungapezere njira yothetsera vuto lililonse.
7. Osapachikidwa. Musalole dzina lanu, jenda, dziko lanu, kapena mbiri yanu ya Facebook (bungwe lochita zinthu monyanyira loletsedwa ku Russia) likupusitseni. Khalani zambiri kuposa za inu. Wafilosofi waku China Lao Tzu anati, "Ndikasiya zomwe ndili, ndimakhala yemwe ndingathe kukhala."
8. Tengani nthawi yanu. Lao Tzu adatinso: "Chilengedwe sichimafulumira, koma nthawi zonse."
9. Sangalalani ndi intaneti. Osapita pa intaneti ngati sikubweretsa chisangalalo. (Lamulo losavuta, koma ndizovuta bwanji kulitsatira.)
10. Kumbukirani kuti ambiri amamva chimodzimodzi. Ndipo anthu awa amapezeka mosavuta pa intaneti. Ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zochizira kwambiri pazaka zapa media media, kukhala ndi mwayi wopezanso zowawa zanu, kuti mupeze munthu amene amamvetsetsa.
11. Malinga ndi Yoda: “Osayesa. Chitani izo. Kapena ayi." Kuyesera si moyo.
12. Zofooka ndizomwe zimatipanga kukhala apadera. Alandireni. Osayesa «sefa» umunthu wanu
13. Gulani zochepa. Musalole kuti malonda ndi malonda azikukhulupirirani kuti chimwemwe ndi malonda. Monga momwe woweta ng'ombe wa ku America Cherokee Will Rogers adanenapo, "Anthu ambiri amawononga ndalama zomwe adapeza movutikira pazinthu zomwe safunikira kuti asangalatse anthu omwe sakonda."
14. Muzigona pafupipafupi pakati pausiku.
15. Ngakhale m’nthaŵi zamisala: Khrisimasi, maholide abanja, m’mikhalidwe yadzidzidzi kuntchito ndi m’mapwando ochuluka a mzinda — yesetsani kupeza nthaŵi zamtendere. Muzigona nthawi ndi nthawi. Onjezani koma ku tsiku lanu.
16. Chitani yoga. Nkovuta kutopa pamene thupi lanu ndi mpweya wanu uli ndi mphamvu.
17. Munthawi zovuta, tsatirani chizoloŵezi cha tsiku ndi tsiku.
18. Osafanizira nthawi zovuta kwambiri za moyo wanu ndi mphindi zabwino kwambiri za moyo wa anthu ena.
19. Yamikirani zinthu zomwe mungaziphonye kwambiri zikangosowa mwadzidzidzi.
20. Osadzijambula pakona. Osayesa kudziyesa kuti ndinu ndani kamodzi kokha. Monga momwe katswiri wina wafilosofi Alan Watts ananena, "Kuyesera kudziwongolera kapena kudziwongolera kuli ngati munthu yemwe akuyesera kudziluma mano ake ndi mano omwewo."
21. Yendani. Thamangani. Kuvina. Idyani tositi ya peanut butter.
22. Osayesa kumva zomwe simukumva kwenikweni. Musati muyesere kukhala chomwe simungakhale. Idzakukhuthulani.
23. Palibe tsogolo. Zokonzera zam'tsogolo ndi mapulani apano ena pomwe mumakonzekera zam'tsogolo.
24. Dyshi.
25. Chikondi pakali pano. Nthawi yomweyo! Kondani mopanda mantha. Dave Eggers analemba kuti: "Moyo poyembekezera chikondi si moyo." Kondani mopanda dyera
26. Osadziimba mlandu. M’dziko lamasiku ano, n’zosatheka kuti munthu asamadzimve kuti ndi wolakwa, pokhapokha ngati uli katswiri wa zamagulu. Tadzazidwa ndi kulakwa. Pali zolakwa zomwe tinaphunzira tili ana, kumva chisoni chifukwa timadya pamene anthu ambiri padziko lapansi ali ndi njala. Mwayi wa vinyo. Kudziimba mlandu pamaso pa chilengedwe chifukwa timayendetsa galimoto, kuwulutsa ndege kapena kugwiritsa ntchito pulasitiki.
Kudziimba mlandu chifukwa chogula zinthu zomwe mwanjira ina zimatha kukhala zosayenera. Liwongo la zilakolako zosanenedwa kapena zolakwika. Kudziimba mlandu chifukwa chakuti simunakwaniritse zomwe munthu amayembekezera kapena kutenga malo a wina. Chifukwa chakuti simungachite zimene ena angathe, kuti mukudwala, kuti muli ndi moyo.
Kulakwa kumeneku n’kopanda ntchito. Sathandiza aliyense. Yesetsani kuchita zabwino pakali pano, osalowerera pa zomwe munalakwitsapo kale.
27. Yang'anani kuthambo; (Ndizokongola. Zimakhala zokongola nthawi zonse.)
28. Muzicheza ndi nyama.
29. Khalani wotopetsa ndipo musachite manyazi nazo; Izi zitha kukhala zothandiza. Moyo ukakhala wovuta, yesetsani kukhala ndi malingaliro otopetsa kwambiri.
30. Osadziweruza wekha ndi momwe ena amakuonera. Monga Eleanor Roosevelt adanena, "Palibe amene angakupangitseni kumva kuti ndinu osakwanira popanda chilolezo chanu."
31. Dziko likhoza kukhala lachisoni. Koma kumbukirani, zabwino miliyoni zosazindikirika zachitika lero. Miliyoni yochita zachikondi. Kukoma mtima kwaumunthu kulipo.
32. Musadzizunze chifukwa cha chipwirikiti cha m'mutu mwanu. Izi nzabwino. Chilengedwe chonse ndi chisokonezo. Milalang'amba ikuyendayenda paliponse. Ndipo inu mukungogwirizana ndi zakuthambo.
33. Ngati mukumva kudwala m'maganizo, kuchitirani chimodzimodzi monga matenda aliwonse amthupi. mphumu, chimfine, chirichonse. Chitani zomwe muyenera kuchita kuti mukhale bwino. Ndipo musachite manyazi nazo. Osayenda ndi mwendo wothyoka.
34. Lolani kuti mutaye. Kukayikira. Kudzimva kukhala pachiwopsezo. Sinthani maganizo. Khalani opanda ungwiro. Kanizani kuyenda. Musathamangire moyo wanu ngati muvi womwe ukuwulukira chandamale.
35. Zilakolako zapakatikati. Chilakolako ndi dzenje. Chilakolako ndi chilema. Ichi ndi gawo la tanthauzo. Pamene Byron mu Don Juan analemba "Kufuna ngwazi!", iye ankatanthauza kuti palibe ngwazi. Tikafuna chinachake chimene sitikuchifuna, timadzimva kuti ndife opanda pake moti sitinamvepo.
Chilichonse chomwe mungafune chili pano. Munthu ndi wangwiro chifukwa chakuti ndi mwamuna. Ndife komwe tikupita.
Gwero: Matt Haig's Planet of the Nervous. Momwe Mungakhalire M'dziko Lopanda Mantha (Livebook, 2019).