Zamkatimu
Ngakhale amene amadzudzula anthu amene anabera mnzawo tsiku lina angakhale nawo. Kugonja pachiyeso ndi kufooka kwachibadwa kwa munthu, akutero katswiri wa zamaganizo Mark White, koma tingathe ndipo tiyenera kuphunzira kugonjetsa.
Masiku ano mungapeze zolemba ndi mabuku ambiri okhudza kukulitsa kudziletsa, kuphunzitsa mphamvu komanso kulimbana ndi kuzengereza. Mabuku amenewa angakhalenso othandiza ngati mwamvetsa kuti mukuganiza zochitira chinyengo wokondedwa wanu. Nawa malangizo anayi okuthandizani kulimbana ndi mayesero komanso kuchepetsa chiopsezo chopanga kusuntha mopupuluma.
1. Yesani kugwira
Umenewu ndi uphungu wosasangalatsa kwambiri ndipo ungaoneke ngati wosatheka. Koma nthawi zambiri timapeputsa kufunitsitsa. Zoonadi, chuma chake chilibe malire, ndipo mumkhalidwe wa kupsinjika maganizo kapena thupi, kumakhala kovuta kwambiri kudzilamulira. Komabe, nthawi zambiri kufunitsitsa kumakhala kokwanira.
2. Pewani mayesero
Zikuwoneka kuti ndizodziwikiratu, koma ndichifukwa chake njira iyi ndi yosavuta kunyalanyaza. Koma taganizirani izi: zidakwa zimapeŵa mipiringidzo, ndipo anthu ochita zakudya m’thupi sapita m’masitolo amasiwiti—amadziŵa kuti kulimbana ndi magwero a chiyeso kumangowonjezera kupsinjika kwa chuma chimene chilipo kale.
Ngati mutagonja pachiyeso kamodzi, kudzakhala kovuta kwambiri kukananso.
Pankhani ya chigololo, gwero la mayesero ndi munthu mmodzi, kupatula ngati ndinu wotchuka amene nthawi zonse akuzunguliridwa ndi osilira. Theoretically, munthu mmodzi n'zosavuta kupewa, koma mchitidwe likukhalira kukhala mnzako, mnansi kapena bwenzi - munthu amene nthawi zonse alipo m'moyo. Yesetsani kumupewa, khalani kutali ndipo musakhale nokha. Osadzinyengerera poganiza kuti misonkhano ya kaŵirikaŵiri ingathandize kuchepetsa malingaliro. Njira yopewera imagwira ntchito mukakhala moona mtima nokha.
3. Dziwani zotsatira za nthawi yaitali
Nthawi zambiri anthu amaganiza kuti mukangokwanitsa kukhumudwa. Ichi ndi chinyengo cha chidziwitso, njira yowonetsera ndi kulungamitsa kufooka kwakanthawi. Ndipotu, akatswiri a zamaganizo, makamaka George Ainsley, atsimikizira kuti ngati mutagonja ku mayesero kamodzi, zidzakhala zovuta kukana lotsatira.
Mukhozanso kujambula kufanana ndi zakudya. Sizokayikitsa kuti mudzadzilola nokha kwambiri ngati mumvetsetsa kuti wina adzatsatira keke yoyamba. Ngati muyang'ana mozama zotsatira zake kuyambira pachiyambi, ndiye kuti mudzatha kudzigwirizanitsa nokha panthawi yake.
Kumbukirani zotsatira za nthawi yaitali za chinyengo: zovulaza zomwe zingawononge mnzanuyo ndi ubale wanu, ndi ana omwe muli nawo komanso omwe angakhale nawo, kuphatikizapo chifukwa cha chibwenzi chakunja.
4. Lankhulani momasuka ndi wokondedwa wanu
Iyi ikhoza kukhala njira yovuta kwambiri, komanso yathanzi kwambiri paubwenzi. Sikophweka kuvomereza kwa mnzanu kuti mukufuna kusintha. Komabe, kuzizira kwanu ndi kukhala chete sikudzawonekerabe, ndipo achibale adzayesa kumvetsetsa zomwe zinachitika ndi vuto lawo.
Uku ndikukambitsirana kowawa, koma pali chiyembekezo kuti interlocutor adzayamikira kufunitsitsa kumukhulupirira m'malo mochita chinthu chosatheka chifukwa cha ubalewo.
N’kwachibadwa kuti munthu akhale wofooka akakumana ndi mayesero. Koma kukana mayesero ndi chizindikiro chakuti mukhoza kukhala ndi udindo wanu ndi mnzanuyo.
Za wolemba: Mark White ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo ku Staten Island College ku New York.