Njira 6 Zopulumutsira Tchuthi Pamene Simuli M'mavuto Ndi Makolo Anzanu

Kodi mumaganizira za ulendo wa makolo a mnzanuyo ndi mantha? Kodi maholide adzawonongekanso? Kumlingo waukulu zimadalira inu. Nawa maupangiri ochokera kwa ochiritsa mabanja.

1. Lonjezani nokha kuti mudzayesetsa kukonza ubale wanu.

Sikoyenera kulonjeza nokha chinachake madzulo a Chaka Chatsopano. Pamodzi ndi bwenzi lanu la moyo, mwasankha makolo ake, ndipo simudzawachotsa, kupatula mwina pambuyo pa chisudzulo. Yesetsani kuti musamadandaule nthaŵi zonse mukapita kukachezera apongozi anu kapena apongozi anu, koma muzigwirizana nawo m’chakachi. Muli ndi zaka zambiri patsogolo panu, kotero siziyenera kukhala zangwiro nthawi yoyamba. Yambani ndi sitepe yaing'ono, monga "Sindidzatchula kumwa kwa Amalume Amuna chaka chino." M’kupita kwa nthaŵi, mudzaona kuti kulankhula ndi makolo a mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu sikukhalanso kolemetsa kwa inu. - Aaron Anderson, wothandizira mabanja.

2. Lankhulani momasuka ndi wokondedwa wanu musanayambe

Osasunga mantha anu ndi nkhawa zanu chinsinsi! Lankhulani ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu za mmene mukuganiza kuti msonkhano ndi makolowo udzachitikira. Koma musalankhule za maganizo anu oipa kwa iwo. Nenani zomwe zikukudetsani nkhawa ndipo pemphani thandizo. Fotokozani zomwe mukufuna. Mwachitsanzo, m’pempheni kuti akuthandizeni kwambiri kapena kukhala wotanganidwa kwambiri pokonzekera chikondwerero cha banja. Ganizirani zokambiranazi ndikusanthula nkhawa zanu. - Marnie Fuerman, wothandizira mabanja.

3. Dzisamalire

Chimodzi mwa zifukwa zazikulu zomwe zimatilepheretsa kuleza mtima ndi alendo ndi kufunikira kowasangalatsa. Pamisonkhano ndi mabwenzi kapena, makamaka achibale, munthu kaŵirikaŵiri amayenera kunyalanyaza zokhumba zake kaamba ka chitonthozo cha wina. Zotsatira zake, timangoyiwala za ife eni. Ndipo ngakhale zingawoneke ngati palibe nthawi yodzisamalira nokha, iyi ndiyo njira yabwino kwambiri yothetsera nkhawa ndi kuwukira kwa malo anu.

Samalirani thanzi lanu, sambani momasuka, kagone msanga, werengani penapake mwakachetechete. Mvetserani thupi lanu ndikuyesera kumvetsera kwambiri zosowa zanu. ― Alisha Clark, katswiri wa zamaganizo.

4. Gwirizanani ndi mnzanu

M’banja, makolo a mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu amakangana, ndipo nthawi zina mumayamba kukayikira kuti iye ali mbali ya ndani. Nonse awiri mwakhala mamembala a banja lina kwa nthawi yaitali, ndi miyambo ndi miyambo yanu ya tchuthi. Kulimbana ndi chikoka pakati pa makolo a bwenzi lake ndi theka lake lina likhoza kuphulika mwakhama, chifukwa onse «maphwando» amafuna kukopa iye kwa iwo pa maholide. Kugwirizana ndi mnzanu ndi njira imodzi yothetsera nkhondoyi. Mukatero mudzathandizana, osati makolo anu.

Koma iwe uyenera kuyimirira ndi kuyimirira mnzako. Njirayi ingawoneke ngati yovuta, koma pang'onopang'ono makolowo adzasintha kuti agwirizane ndi zomwe zikuchitika ndikumvetsetsa kuti chisankho chogwirizana cha okwatirana chimakhala nthawi zonse. Kumbukirani mbali yomwe muli. Ndinu choyamba mwamuna, ndipo pokhapokha - mwana wamwamuna kapena wamkazi. - Danielle Kepler, psychotherapist.

5. Khalani olimba mtima misonkhano isanayambe

Musanakumane ndi makolo a mnzanuyo, chitani masewera olimbitsa thupi amodzi. Tiyerekeze kuti mwavala zida zapadera zomwe zimateteza mphamvu iliyonse yoipa. Dziuzeni nokha kuti: "Ndine wotetezeka komanso wotetezedwa, ndine wotetezeka." Pamenepo, khalani aulemu komanso okongola momwe mungathere. Khalani ndi maganizo abwino ndikuchita zinthu momasuka. Palibe chifukwa chotaya nthawi yamtengo wapatali ndikunong'oneza bondo pazinthu zomwe simungathe kuziletsa. - Becky Whetstone, wothandizira mabanja.

6. Kumbukirani: Ndikanthawi

Pa tchuthi, kuyenda kwa misonkhano yabanja ndi maulendo sikuuma. Tchuthi chidzatha, mudzabwerera kunyumba ndikutha kuiwala zovuta zonse. Palibe chifukwa chokhalira pa zoyipa: izi zimangowonjezera mavuto ndipo zitha kukhala chifukwa chakukangana ndi mnzanu. Musalole kuti makolo a mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu asokoneze moyo wanu ndi kusokoneza ubwenzi wanu. - Aaron Anderson, wothandizira mabanja.