Zamkatimu
Chinyengo cha mawuwa ndikuti samveka mwano kapena kukhumudwitsa makutu a mkazi. Chabwino, cholakwika ndi chiyani ndi mawu akuti "Chabwino, kulibwino ndichite ndekha" kapena "Khalani mwamuna!"? Amupweteka mwamuna! Ndipo bwanji - tsopano tifotokoza.
Ngati mwanenapo kamodzi, yesetsani ndipo musanenenso. Chifukwa ochiritsa mabanja athu aphunzira kuchokera kwa makasitomala awo kuti awa ndi mawu owopsa omwe mungamve kuchokera kwa okondedwa anu.
1. "Chabwino, kulibwino ndichite ndekha"
Mfundo yothandiza: Ngati munapempha mwamuna kuti akukonzereni mpope—kapena kungomupempha kuti ayimbire munthu wina kuti akukonzereni mpopeyo—mlekeni azitero yekha.
Ann Crowley, katswiri wa zamaganizo wa ku Austin anati: “Ngakhale mnzanuyo anaiŵala kuchita zimenezi kangapo, n’kutheka kuti akufunadi kukuthandizani. - Muloleni apulumutse nkhope, osanena kuti: "Chabwino, kulibwino ndichite ndekha." Awa ndi mawu oyipa. Kwa mwamuna, zikutanthauza kuti simuganiza kuti angathe kuchita kalikonse, ndipo simumufunikira.
2. "Ndikadatha kuganiza ..."
Mawu opwetekawa sangamulimbikitse kuti achitepo kanthu, chifukwa mukufuna zomwe sizingatheke.
Amuna ndi oipa pa kuwerenga pakati pa mizere osati kupanga zongoganiza. Ndiuzeni zomwe mukufuna kwa iye
Ryan Howes, katswiri wa zamaganizo wa ku Pasadena ananena kuti: “Akazi adzadzipulumutsa nthaŵi yochuluka ndi misempha ngati angopirira mfundo yakuti amuna ndi oipa poŵerenga pakati pa mizere ndi kusapanga malingaliro. "Sanapangidwira izi, ndipo simungathe kuwaphunzitsanso. Ingomuuzani mwachindunji zimene mukufuna kwa iye.
3. "Tiyenera kulankhula"
Palibe mawu ena omwe angathe kubweretsa mantha ochuluka mu mtima mwa munthu monga mawu opanda vuto, poyang'ana koyamba. Ichi ndi chizindikiro cha zokambirana zazikulu, madandaulo ndi kutsutsa.
Kodi ukudziwa chimene adzachita? Marcia Berger, yemwe ndi dokotala wa mabanja, anati: "Adzaganiza kuti ndi wolephera ndipo amayesa kuthawa." Koma izi ndi zosemphana ndendende ndi zomwe munkafuna kukhala pansi ndi kukambirana.
4. "Khala mwamuna!"
Kuti mupindule ndi inu nokha, musagwiritse ntchito mawu amenewo. Uku ndikuwukira koyipa kwa umunthu wake, kukayikira umuna wake komanso kukhala wa fuko lalikulu la ochita migodi, oteteza, omanga ndi oyambitsa.
5. “Sanguluka; Ine sindine mayi ako!”
Pangani kupanga ndikupeza njira yobisika yomutsimikizira kuti aike zinthu m'malo mwawo kapena m'nkhokwe. Kunena kuti akufunikirabe amayi ake, inu, osadziwa, mukhoza kufika pamfundo - kumukumbutsa momwe analiri ndi iye.
Nthawi zina, mutamvetsera nkhani zonse za anzanu, mnzanuyo amafika pozindikira kuti ndi mwamuna wabwino.
6. "Kodi mukuchokanso ndi anzanu?"
Musamaone ngati angawononge ukwati wanu, akutero Howe. Zoonadi, nthawi zina kupita ku mpira ndi anyamata kumangokhalira kumwa mowa wabwino, koma kwa amuna ambiri, kukumana ndi abwenzi ndi njira yolumikizirana mofanana, kusinthana maganizo ndi zizindikiro zawo zachinyamata za mphamvu ndi udindo.
Maphwando otere ali ndi mabonasi kwa inunso. Nthawi zina, mutamvetsera nkhani zonse za anzanu, mnzanuyo amafika pozindikira kuti ndi mwamuna wabwino. Ndipo kulankhulana kwachimuna kolemera koteroko kumamupangitsa kuphonya kukhala kwanu.
8. "Kodi ukuganiza kuti ndi wokongola?"
Mukumuika pamalo pomwe simungathe kupereka yankho lolondola. Chikhalidwe cha amuna ndi chakuti nthawi zonse amalemba mtsikana wokongola kwambiri. Mwina, pankhaniyi, adadzizindikira kale. Ndipo tsopano ayenera kusankha momwe angagwirizanitse mawu awiri ofanana - kuti mtsikanayo ndi wokongola komanso kuti amakukondani, osati iye.
9. "Oh! Ndimimba yotani!"
Muyenera kusamala kuti muzindikire kusintha kwa maonekedwe ake, popeza amuna alibe chizolowezi chodziseka okha, mosiyana ndi ife. Sikuti zonse ziyenera kunenedwa, nthawi zina zimakhala zosavuta kuchitapo kanthu. Ndipo izi ndi momwe zilili. Zidzakhala zothandiza kwambiri ngati mutakhala paki limodzi limodzi mwa masiku angapo otsatira ndikukhala maola angapo kumeneko, ndipo pamapeto a sabata mumapeza njinga ndikuyenda.