Zamkatimu
Kodi mfundo yodziwika bwino imeneyi yokhudza maloto a amuna ndi akazi ndi yoona mpaka pati? Chilichonse chiri chosiyana ndendende - ofufuza za kugonana amakhulupirira ndikutsutsa malingaliro ena okhudzana ndi kugonana.
"Kugwiriridwa nthawi zambiri ndikongopeka kwa amuna"
Alain Eril, psychoanalyst, sexologist:
Zonse ziri zosiyana ndendende! Pambuyo pake, makamaka amuna omwe amakhulupirira kuti mkazi amalota kugwiriridwa, chifukwa izi zimachotsa kulakwa kwa iwo chifukwa cha malingaliro awo ofanana.
Ndikokwanira kuyang'ana momwe, pa nkhani ya kugwiriridwa kwenikweni, mkazi amatumiza pempho kwa mabungwe azamalamulo. Kumeneko anayamba kumufunsa kuti: “Kodi munavala bwanji? Mukutsimikiza kuti simunayambitse chiwembucho?"
Monga momwe tikuonera m'mafunsowa, mosadziwa mwamuna nthawi zambiri amaganiza kuti mkazi amalota kuti akugwiriridwa. Kugwiriridwa nthawi zambiri ndikongopeka kwa amuna, ndipo nthawi zonse ndimapeza umboni wa izi m'machitidwe anga.
Koma kwa amayi, chimodzi mwazongopeka zodziwika bwino ndi atatu, momwe iye ndi amuna awiri amatenga nawo mbali.
Izi zimaganiziridwa mopitirira muyeso chifukwa chakuti chiwerengero chachikulu cha amayi, mosasamala kanthu momwe amasangalalira, amamva kuti kuthekera kwawo sikunathe. Poyerekeza kuti ali ndi amuna awiri, amalota kuti ayesetse kufika pachimake champhamvu kwambiri.
“Chikhumbo chofuna kubweretsa zongopekazi nthawi zambiri chimatsogolera ku zotsatira zoyipa”
Mireille Bonierbal, psychiatrist, sexologist:
Izi sizowona kwa amayi. M’kafukufuku waukulu wa zachikhalidwe cha anthu wochitidwa ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo wa ku France ndi katswiri wa zachiwerewere Robert Porto, malingaliro ogwirira chigololo pakati pa akazi anali m’malo khumi.
Zofala kwambiri zinali zongopeka pomwe mkaziyo adakumbukira zochitika zosokoneza kwambiri zakugonana ndi mnzake wakale.
Komabe, m’chitaganya chamakono, chomwe chikusokonekera mochulukira zopeka ndi zenizeni, choyamba ndikufuna ndikukumbutseni kuti malingaliro oterowo ndi ofunika kokha ngati njira yokulitsa malingaliro odzutsa chilakolako. Chikhumbo chofuna kuwabweretsa kumoyo nthawi zambiri chimatsogolera ku zotsatira zoyipa.
Ponena za amuna, nthawi zambiri amalota za chikondi mwa atatu, koma ... ndi kutengapo gawo kwa mwamuna wina
M'malingaliro awo, amamupatsa mkazi wawo, yemwe amalankhula nthawi yomweyo za chilakolako cha mphamvu ndi kupondereza kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
Amuna ena amabweretsa malingalirowa kwa akazi awo mpaka amavomereza kuti awazindikire zenizeni. Chochitika choterocho chawononga maanja ambiri: sikophweka kuwona mkazi wanu akusangalala ndi chiyanjano ndi wina.