Kuyambira tili ana, tinaphunzitsidwa kuti tifunika kudziwononga tokha kuti tipeze zotsatira zomwe tikufuna. Chifuniro, kudziletsa, ndandanda yomveka bwino, palibe kuvomereza. Koma kodi ndiyo njira yopezera chipambano ndi kusintha kwa moyo? Wolemba nkhani wathu Ilya Latypov amalankhula za mitundu yosiyanasiyana yodzizunza komanso zomwe zimatsogolera.
Ndikudziwa msampha umodzi womwe anthu onse oganiza zosintha amagweramo. Icho chagona pamwamba, koma chinakonzedwa mochenjera kwambiri kotero kuti palibe aliyense wa ife amene angadutsepo — ife ndithudi tidzapondapo ndi kusokonezeka.
Lingaliro lenileni la "kusintha nokha" kapena "kusintha moyo wanu" limatsogolera ku msampha uwu. Ulalo wofunikira kwambiri umanyalanyazidwa, popanda zomwe zoyesayesa zonse zitha kuwonongeka ndipo titha kukhala pamalo oyipa kuposa momwe tinalili. Kufuna kusintha tokha kapena miyoyo yathu, timayiwala kuganizira momwe timachitira ndi ife eni kapena ndi dziko lapansi. Ndipo momwe timachitira zimadalira zomwe zidzachitike.
Kwa ambiri, njira yaikulu yodzichitira okha ndiyo chiwawa. Kuyambira tili ana, tinaphunzitsidwa kuti tifunika kudziwononga tokha kuti tipeze zotsatira zomwe tikufuna. Chifuniro, kudziletsa, palibe zolekerera. Ndipo chilichonse chomwe tingapereke kwa munthu woteroyo kuti achite chitukuko, amagwiritsa ntchito chiwawa.
Chiwawa ngati njira yolumikizirana - nkhondo yopitilira iweyo komanso ndi ena
Yoga? Ndimadzizunza ndi yoga kwambiri, kunyalanyaza zizindikiro zonse za thupi, kotero kuti sindidzadzuka kwa sabata.
Kodi muyenera kukhala ndi zolinga ndi kuzikwaniritsa? Ndidziyendetsa ndekha ku matenda, ndikumenyera kukwaniritsa zolinga zisanu nthawi imodzi.
Kodi ana ayenera kuleredwa mokoma mtima? Timawasisita ana ku hysterics ndipo panthawi imodzimodziyo tidzakankhira zofuna zathu ndi mkwiyo pa ana - palibe malo a malingaliro athu m'dziko latsopano lolimba mtima!
Chiwawa ngati njira yolumikizirana ndi nkhondo yopitilira pawekha komanso ndi ena. Timakhala ngati munthu wodziwa zida zosiyanasiyana, odziwa chinthu chimodzi chokha: kumenya misomali. Iye adzamenya ndi nyundo, ndi maikulosikopu, ndi bukhu, ndi saucepan. Chifukwa sadziwa chilichonse koma misomali yokhota. Ngati china chake sichikuyenda, ayamba kumenyetsa "misomali" mwa iye ...
Ndiyeno pali kumvera - imodzi mwa mitundu ya nkhanza pa nokha. Zili mu mfundo yakuti chinthu chachikulu m'moyo ndicho kutsatira mosamala malangizo. Kumvera kwaubwana kobadwa nako, m'malo mwa makolo okha - akatswiri azamalonda, akatswiri amisala, ndale, atolankhani ...
Mutha kuyamba kudzisamalira nokha ndi chipwirikiti kotero kuti palibe amene angakhale wathanzi
Mawu a katswiri wa zamaganizo ponena za momwe kulili kofunika kufotokozera malingaliro a munthu poyankhulana adzawoneka ngati dongosolo ndi njira iyi yolumikizirana.
Osati "zofunika kufotokozera", koma "kumveketsa nthawi zonse". Ndipo, otopa ndi thukuta, osanyalanyaza mantha athu, tidzapita kukafotokozera tokha kwa aliyense amene tinali ndi mantha nawo kale. Pokhala asanapeze chithandizo chilichonse mwa iye mwini, palibe chithandizo, pokhapokha pa mphamvu ya kumvera - ndipo chifukwa chake, kugwa mu kupsinjika maganizo, kudziwononga yekha ndi maubwenzi. Ndipo akudzilanga yekha chifukwa cha zolephera: "Anandiuza momwe ndingachitire bwino, koma sindinathe!" Wakhanda? Inde. Ndipo wopanda chifundo kwa ine ndekha.
Kaŵirikaŵiri njira ina yodzigwirizanitsa tokha imadziwonetsera mwa ife - chisamaliro. Mukamaphunzira nokha mosamala, kupeza mphamvu ndi zofooka, phunzirani kuthana nazo. Mumaphunzira kudzithandiza, osati kudzisintha. Mosamala, pang'onopang'ono - ndikudzigwira pamanja pamene chiwawa chodzichitira nokha chikuthamangira kutsogolo. Apo ayi, mukhoza kuyamba kudzisamalira nokha ndi chipwirikiti kotero kuti palibe amene angakhale wathanzi.
Ndipo mwa njira: pakubwera kwa chisamaliro, chikhumbo chofuna kudzisintha nthawi zambiri chimatha.