Kalekale ndinakhalapo, ndipo zonse zinali zoipa ndi ine. Ndikulemba mwachindunji, chifukwa aliyense amadziwa kale izi. Kunyumba, Sarah Bernhardt anandiseka chifukwa chachisoni changa, anzanga a Tsarevna Nesmeyana, otsalawo ankangodabwa chifukwa chake ndinkakhumudwa nthawi zonse. Ndiyeno ndili m'njira ndinakumana ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo. Ntchito yake inali yondiphunzitsa kukhala ndi moyo mphindi iliyonse ndikusangalala nayo.
Ndinamamatira kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo ngati mayi wachikulire wosamva ku chithandizo chomaliza chakumva, ndipo chifukwa cha psychotherapy, ndinayamba kumva, kuona ndi kununkhiza zonse zomwe zikuchitika pompano. Monga wodwala wina wa Kashpirovsky, yemwe chilonda chake chatha, ndikulengeza kuti: Ndinalandira chithandizo, ndipo katswiri wa zamaganizo anachita ntchito yake.
Ndipo tsopano anthu ena amadabwa kuti n’chifukwa chiyani ndimachita zinthu mokangalika, sindingathe kukhala chete n’kukhala chete. M'malo mongoyang'ana za mawa mwachidwi, ndinayamba kuyang'ana za lero ndi chidwi. Koma izi, nkhuni za mlombwa, zinkayenera kuphunziridwa. Kwenikweni, mutha kungoyamba kuphunzira kupumula, palibe malire kwa izo, za ungwiro umenewo. Ndipo kuti ndidzilungamitse ndekha, ndikunena kuti poyamba sindinali ine ndekha, koma dziko lonse linkaopa kumasuka.
Chifukwa chake, tchuthi changa chachilimwe nthawi zambiri chimatha sabata yoyamba ya Ogasiti, pomwe amayi anga adagwa momveka bwino: "Posachedwa kusukulu." Ankaganiza kuti sukuluyo iyenera kukhala yovuta kukonzekera. Jambulani minda m'mabuku atsopano okhala ndi phala lofiyira, sinkhani tayi, bwerezani - oh zoopsa! - zidadutsa.
Mu kindergarten, iwo anakonzekera kalasi yoyamba, kusukulu - kusankha udindo wa ntchito, pa yunivesite - "yaikulu moyo"
Koma zonsezi sizinali chinthu chachikulu. Chofunikira kwambiri chinali kukhazikitsa: «pumulani, puma, koma osayiwala» ndi «muyenera kupumula ndi phindu». Chifukwa chakuti pangodya iriyonse m’masiku amenewo chinali kukonzekeretsa makhalidwe abwino kaamba ka mayesero amene analinkudza. Mu sukulu ya mkaka, iwo anakonzekera kalasi yoyamba, kusukulu - kwa udindo kusankha ntchito, pa yunivesite - kwa «wamkulu moyo». Ndipo pamene moyo unayamba, pamene kunalibe kanthu kokonzekera ndipo ndinayenera kukhala ndi moyo, zinapezeka kuti ndinali wopitirira mphamvu zanga.
Ndipo pambuyo pa zonse, aliyense ankakonda kuchita izi: adasungira chinachake, anayamba mabuku osungira ndalama, kusiya malipiro awo a tsoka la ruble zana pa tsiku lamvula (lomwe linabwera tsiku lotsatira). Anasungira pasitala ngati nkhondo ndi Amereka, amawopa chinachake, ena "mwadzidzidzi" ndi "simudziwa", zovuta zina zomwe anakonza ndi zovuta zina.
Monga Shvonder anaimba mogwirizana m’nyumba imene inali pamwamba pa mutu wa Pulofesa Preobrazhensky wodabwa: “Zaka zowawitsa zikupita, tati-tat-tati-tat, ena adzawatsatira, ndipo zidzakhalanso zovuta.” Mtundu: simungathe kumasuka, chifukwa mkati, ngakhale mdani wakunja sagona. Amamanga zilakolako. "Khalani okonzeka!" - "Nthawi zonse okonzeka!". Choyamba tidzagonjetsa chilichonse, kenako ...
Chiyembekezo chokhazikika cha tsogolo lowala ndi mamiliyoni makumi ambiri, mibadwo ingapo ya anthu sichinanyozedwe ndi aliyense, komabe sikuti aliyense amadziwa momwe angakhalire. Kaya majini ali ndi mlandu kapena ubwana wovuta, koma kwa ena - ine, mwachitsanzo - katswiri wodziwa bwino ntchito komanso njira yayitali ya chithandizo ingathandize m'lingaliro limeneli. Kotero zonse zikuyenda.
Zimene akuchita panopa: akukhala m’ngongole, koma akukhala moyo lero
Ngakhale ambiri amachita bwino paokha. Mwanjira ina iwo adachipeza okha, adamvetsetsa kuti: "Tsopano kapena ayi!" Ziri mu mzimu wa nthawi. Chifukwa chake, zomwe akuchita tsopano: amatenga ngongole, amagula chilichonse, kenako amabwezera kapena ayi. Amakhala m’ngongole, koma ali ndi moyo lerolino.
Ndipo ena amakayikirabe kulondola kwa kusaona zam’tsogolo kumeneku. Komanso frivolity. Kupepuka konsekonse. Zomwe, ngati titenga munthu, osati boma, asitikali kapena bizinesi, ndiye mwayi wathu wokha wachimwemwe. Ndipo monga momwe zinakhalira, olemba ana, akatswiri a maganizo, afilosofi, ngakhale mabuku opatulika amavomereza pa izi. Chimwemwe, mtendere, mgwirizano, chisangalalo, moyo wokha ndi zotheka kokha pano ndi pano. Ndiyeno palibe chimene chimachitika. «Kenako» kulibe m'chilengedwe.
Apanso, otsatsa (omwe ali bwino kwambiri amawerengera zonse) agwira zomwe zikuchitika ndikuzigwiritsa ntchito motere. M'mavidiyo okondwa, sindingakupulumutseni kwa azimayi okalamba, olemekezeka omwe amasankha kusewera, azakhali akung'amba zidendene zawo ndikusamba m'masupe ...
Palibe amene amagwira ntchito, aliyense amakhala, amasangalala, nthawi ndi nthawi kukonza zopuma. "Nsapato za moyo uno!", "Live - play!", "Kondwerera mphindi ino!", "Tengani chilichonse m'moyo!", "Lawani moyo", komanso zosavuta komanso zonyoza kwambiri kuchokera pagulu la ndudu: "Khalani mkati panopa!” . Mwachidule, munthu safuna kukhala ndi moyo kuchokera ku mafoni onsewa kuti akhale ndi moyo.
Wina, kuti asavutike, ayenera kuwerenga mabuku afilosofi, koma ndinayenera kulemba nthawi yayitali ndi yodabwitsa ndi dzanja langa lamanzere.
Komabe, nthawi zonse ndimakhala choncho. Pang'ono chabe - maganizo amatsika, ndikukhala moyo ... ayi, sindikufuna. Sindinafune. Ndinayamba mkangano ndi anthu okondwerera nthaŵi zonse, amene anali atamvetsa kale tanthauzo la kupepuka kosapiririka kwa munthu. Kodi Madonna anayankha bwanji funso lopusa kwa mtolankhani wakuti: “Kodi cholinga cha moyo n’chiyani? "Palibe masautso." Ndipo ndi zolondola.
Munthu yekhayo, kuti asazunzike, ayenera kuwerenga mabuku afilosofi ndikupanga squint yawo yafilosofi, wina amafunikira botolo la Makhachkala vodka, koma ndinayenera kulemba motalika komanso modabwitsa ndi dzanja langa lamanzere. Iyi ndi njira yotere. Lembani ndi dzanja lanu lamanzere zinthu zamtundu uliwonse, mu mawonekedwe ovomerezeka. Yesani kudutsa mpaka ku chikumbumtima. Zili ngati kuphunziranso kulemba, monga kuphunzira kukhalanso ndi moyo. Zimawoneka ngati pemphero, ngati ndakatulo. "Ndibwino kuti ndikhale ndi moyo", "Ndine wotetezeka kuti ndisangalale", "Ndine wokondwa pano ndi pano".
Sindinkakhulupirira ngakhale pang’ono. Mawu onsewa atha kunenedwa kwa ine pokhapokha powonjezerapo kanthu kakang'ono kamene kalikonse OSATI: "NDILI mfulu", "SINDILI wotetezeka kukhala ndi moyo." Ndiyeno zinkawoneka kuti zasiya, zinakhala zosavuta kwa ine kupuma, fungo ndi phokoso linabwerera, monga pambuyo pa kukomoka. Ndinayamba kukonda chakudya changa cham’mawa, mafuta onunkhira, zophophonya zanga, nsapato zanga zatsopano, zolakwa zanga, zikondamoyo zanga, ngakhalenso ntchito yanga. Ndipo sakonda anthu omwe, atawerenga "njira 20 zodzipangira wokongola" mu gawo la "psychology" la magazini yachikazi yotsika mtengo, amavomereza kuti "zonsezi ndizovuta za amayi."
Pazifukwa zina, sizichitika kwa wina aliyense kuyenda ndi mwendo wopunduka, koma kukhala ndi ubongo wosokonekera kumatengedwa ngati chizolowezi.
"Kodi ndine wopenga, ndipite kwa psychologist?" Inde! Pazifukwa zina, sizichitika kwa wina aliyense kuyenda ndi mwendo wopunduka, koma kukhala ndi ubongo wosasunthika, poyizoni kukhalapo kwa inu nokha ndi ena, kumaonedwa kuti ndizochitika. Monga moyo m’chiyembekezo chamuyaya cha mavuto ndi kusakonzekera kosatha kwa chisangalalo. Chifukwa chake, ndizodziwika bwino: bristle - ndipo simudzadabwa!
Anthu okondana, nthawi yamavuto, maubwenzi osagwirizana. Koma sindibwereranso ku chilichonse mwa izi. Sindikufuna kuti moyo wanga, monga maholide a m’chilimwe aja, atha m’kati mosangalala, chifukwa chakuti ubongo wanga umazoloŵera kukonzekera zoipitsitsa.
“Kuti moyo usaoneke ngati uchi,” abwanawo ankakonda kubwerezabwereza, amene, kuti apirire mkhalidwe wanga wabwino, anafunikira kundisenzetsa ntchito yowonjezera. “Mwana ameneyu sangapirire mavuto a m’moyo,” amayi anga anaumira mtima, akuyang’ana mwana wanga wamkazi, osaganiziratu zoti mwina mavuto sangabwere.
“Umaseka kwambiri lero, ngati kuti sulira mawa,” agogo anga anazindikira motero. Onse anali ndi zifukwa zawo za izi. Ndilibe nazo.
Ndipo ndikwabwino kuonedwa ngati wodwala matenda osadziwika bwino ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo ndikulemba ndi dzanja lako lamanzere kwa masiku, kusiyana ndi kukhala wogontha kachiwiri, kuchita khungu ndi kutaya chisangalalo chako chakutsogolo. Moyo uyenera kugwiritsidwa ntchito. Ndipo ngati iyi ndi ngongole, ndiye ndikuvomereza chiwongoladzanja chilichonse.