Zamkatimu
"Asexuals amakhala ndi chikondi m'malingaliro koma osagonana"
kugonana
Asexuals amakhala ndi chikondi chawo komanso ubale wawo mozama kwambiri, koma popanda kugonana, chifukwa samamva choncho ndipo samamva kufunika.
Ngakhale kuti n'zosangalatsa ndiponso zabwino pa thanzi, ambiri zimawavuta kukhulupirira zimenezo anthu ena amakhala osagonana. Ndipo sitikunena za iwo omwe alibe oti agawane nawo 'kanthawi kochepa', koma za iwo omwe mwakufuna kwawo sachita mchitidwe wogonana, kaya ali ndi okondedwa kapena ayi.
Ndipo a chikhalidwe ndi lingaliro lodzaza kwambiri: mbali imodzi, ofufuza za kugonana amatsimikizira kuti ndi ndipo ayenera kuzindikiridwa ngati a kugonana zofunika, monganso kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, komanso kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. M'malo mwake, msasa wina umawona ngati 'low libido' kapena mtundu waposachedwa wa chikhumbo chogonana.
Koma choyamba, monga anapempha katswiri wa zamaganizo ndi kugonana Silvia Sanz, wolemba buku la 'Sexamor', ziyenera kumveka bwino kuti mawu akuti asexual amatanthauza anthu omwe alibe chilakolako chogonana ndi kugonana. Sangafunenso akazi ngakhalenso amuna. Zimenezi sizikutanthauza kuti sadzagawana moyo wawo ndi munthu wina. «Amakhala chikondi chawo ndi ubale wawo m'njira yozama kwambiri, koma popanda kugonana, chifukwa samamva choncho ndipo alibe chosowa. Amatha kumva kukopeka komanso kudzutsa chilakolako chogonana ndipo sizili zofanana ndi kukhala ndi libido yochepa, komanso sizimayambitsidwa ndi kupwetekedwa mtima kapena mavuto azachipatala, komanso samapondereza zilakolako zawo za kugonana ", adatero katswiri.
Ndipo siziyenera kusokonezedwa ndi kudziletsa kapena kusakwatira, pamene pali chigamulo chadala chopewa kugonana poyamba komanso kusagonana, kapena ukwati, kapena maubwenzi kachiwiri.
Ndi vuto?
Kugonana si chinthu chokhazikika ndipo kusinthasintha ndi chinthu chachibadwa pankhani ya kugonana, kotero sikuyenera kukhala chinachake chomwe mumatengera tsiku lililonse ndikumamatira kwamuyaya. Asexuals alibe chilakolako chogonana, koma amatha kukhala ndi chikondi. Izi zikutanthauza kuti sangakhale ndi chilakolako chogonana, koma ena amafuna kufunafuna chikondi.
Anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amatha kugonana pogwiritsa ntchito maliseche kapena maliseche. Iwo samangokopeka ndi anthu, samamva chikhumbo chilichonse. Ndi chilakolako chogonana kapena kusowa kwake. Pakhoza kukhala magawo osiyanasiyana achiwerewere, kuyambira mtheradi mpaka omwe amagonana ndi chikondi ”, akufotokoza Silvia Sanz.
Ngakhale kuti anthu osagonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha alibe chidwi komanso sakonda chifukwa samawona kuti ndi okongola, osagonana ndi amuna omwe amagonana mophweka. amasangalala nazo ndi tanthauzo lamalingaliro kwa banjali, thupi lofanana ndi lina lililonse. “Amakhala ngati unansi wachikondi kwa iwo,” akutero katswiri wa zamaganizo.
Ndipo mukudzifunsa kuti, kodi ili ndi vuto ngati mnzathu akufuna kugonana koma ife sitikufuna? Silvia Sanz akufotokoza kuti si vuto bola ngati agwirizana ndi munthu amene chibwenzicho amagawana naye: «Monga pamene tikugonana, ndi koyenera kuti tigwirizane ndi wokondedwa wathu nthawi zambiri zomwe tikufuna kuchita. kugonana kapena kukhala ndi libido yofanana kuti asagwere mu kusamvana, mkati mwa maubwenzi osagonana payenera kukhala mgwirizano pankhani ya kugawana chikondi chawo, kampani yawo, mapulojekiti awo ndi zochitika zina pamoyo wawo popanda kudzikondweretsa okha mwa kugonana.
Ngati mamembala awiri a m'banjamo agawana kugonana, kuvomereza ndipo osawona ngati kukhumudwa kapena vuto, ndi ubale wabwino ndi wokhazikika. “N’zoona kuti nkwapafupi kwambiri kuposa ngati wina alibe kugonana ndi wina aliyense,” akuvomereza motero Silvia Sanz.
Zoonadi, pamene chiwerengerochi sichichitika, chikhoza kuyambitsa mkangano ngati sichivomerezedwa kapena sichilipidwa mwanjira iliyonse.
Kuti tipeze malire, malinga ndi katswiri, kulankhulana n'kofunika, kumvetsetsa wina ndikudziwa kuti ndi malire ati omwe aliyense angabwere kudzaganiza mkati mwa chiyanjano. “Munthu akakhala wosagonana ndiye kuti pali kusowa kwa chilakolako chogonana, osati kuti wina m’banjamo ndi wosakongola. Ambiri mwa anthu omwe sagonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, amasiyanitsa ndi kulekanitsa kugonana ndi chikondi, "adatero.