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Ubale pakati pa abale ndi alongo umathandiza kukula!
Amakondana, amakangana, amasirirana, amanyalanyazana, amatengerana, amachitirana kaduka… Ubale pakati pa abale ndi alongo ndi mwayi wabwino kwambiri wochitirana zinthu pamodzi ndi kupanga malo awo pagulu. Laboratory yeniyeni yophunzirira za moyo pagulu!
"Amatsenga ang'onoang'ono atatu a miyezi 11, zaka 2 ndipo posakhalitsa zaka 4, sikophweka kuwongolera tsiku ndi tsiku, koma ndikamawona akusewera ndi kuseka limodzi, zimakhala zosangalatsa kwambiri moti ndimayiwala kutopa kwanga ! Ine, amene ndili mwana ndekha, ndazindikira ubale wodabwitsa umene umagwirizanitsa abale ndi alongo. Mofanana ndi makolo onse, Amélie amachita chidwi ndi ubale wolimba umene uli kale ndi ana ake. N’zoona kuti ang’onoang’ono nthawi zambiri amachita mantha ndi akulu awo. Mungoyenera kuona mmene makanda amawomba m’mapazi ndi m’manja ndi kumwetulira pamene abale awo akuyandikira, pozindikira kuti “tinthu ting’onoting’ono” tomwe timafanana nawo ndipo timaoneka ngati tikuchita zinthu zosangalatsa kwambiri tidzawapatsa mwayi wosangalala.
Kuphatikizika pafupipafupi
Nzowona kuti kaŵirikaŵiri pamakhala unansi wachibadwa ndi wachibadwa mwa mbale. Mwadzidzidzi, makolo amatsimikiza kuti ubale umatanthauza mgwirizano ndi chikondi, koma sizili choncho nthawi zonse! Nsanje pakati pa abale ndi alongo ndi lingaliro losapeŵeka lomwe muyenera kudziŵa kuzindikira ndi kuphunzira kuthetsa. Momwemonso, titha kukhala abale ndi alongo osakhala ndi zibwenzi chifukwa ndife osiyana kwambiri. Monga momwe katswiri wa zamaganizo Dina Karoubi-Pecon akunenera kuti: “M’bale, mwana aliyense ali ndi kuyenera kwa kusankha mbale kapena mlongo amene angapange naye mgwirizano. Koma mwana alinso ndi ufulu wosankha kusapangananso pangano. Chiri cholakwa kwambiri, chifukwa chakuti sichimalabadira chilangizo cha makolo: “Inu muli abale ndi alongo, muli ndi thayo lakukhala bwino ndi kukondana wina ndi mnzake! Inde, makolo amalota abale omwe sangakhale kanthu koma chikondi, koma izi sizokwanira kupanga kumvetsetsa kwenikweni. Zomverera ndi kuyanjana sizingalamulidwe, kumbali ina, kulemekeza ena, inde! Zili kwa iwo kukhazikitsa machitidwe ndi malamulo ofunikira kuti mwana aliyense adziyike yekha mogwirizana ndi ena ndikuphunzira kudziteteza ngati kuli kofunikira.
Kupikisana pakati pa abale ndi alongo n'kwachibadwa!
Mchimwene kapena mlongo ndi munthu yemwe timagawana naye cholowa chofanana, koma pamwamba pa denga limodzi ndi makolo omwewo! Ndipo pamene mkulu awona khanda lobadwa lafika, woloŵererayo nthaŵi yomweyo amawonedwa kukhala “wakuba wa chikondi cha makolo”. Nsanje ya abale ndi yosathawika komanso yachibadwa. Muyenera kungowerenga nthano zapamwamba monga Cinderella kuti mutsimikizire! Koma mkangano uli ndi mbali zabwino. Kukhala ndi nsanje yodziŵika bwino ndi kuigonjetsa kungakhale kothandiza kwambiri pakukhala m’chitaganya pambuyo pake, makamaka kusukulu ndi m’mabizinesi kumene mpikisano ukuchulukirachulukira… Mpikisano pakati pa anzawo umalola kuti ana ayang’anizane ndi anzawo, kudziyesa okha. motsutsana naye, kumuzindikira kuti ndi woyandikana naye komanso wosiyana, ndikuyesa mphamvu zake poyerekeza ndi za ena. Kumbali ina, kufunafuna kukopa chisamaliro cha makolo ake kumasonkhezera mwana aliyense kupanga njira zonyengerera kuti alimbitse unansi umene umamgwirizanitsa ndi makolo ake ndi kukondedwa ndi iwo. Ndichilimbikitso chabwino kwambiri, chifukwa mwana aliyense amayesa kupitirira wina, koma koposa zonse kuti apitirire malire ake kuti "awasangalatse".
Mkulu, wamng'ono ... timamanga tokha limodzi
Ubale wokhazikika komanso wokondana, ubale pakati pa abale ndi alongo ndi labotale yochititsa chidwi yolumikizana. Ndi mwa kusisita mapewa ndi kusiyana kwa mbale ndi mlongo wake kuti munthu amamanga yekha! Mkulu, wamng'ono, wamng'ono, aliyense adzapeza malo ake! Akulu, osafuna kwenikweni, amalola achichepere kudya chilichonse chimene sachidziŵa. Makadeti amawona, kusilira, kutsanzira ndipo pamapeto pake amakula kuti agwirizane kapena kupitilira chitsanzo chawo. Kumanga pamodzi kumeneku si njira imodzi yokha chifukwa ana aang’ono amaphunzitsanso akuluakulu. Izi n’zimene Juliette, amayi a Hugo ndi Maxime, akutiuza kuti: “Hugo nthaŵi zonse anali mnyamata wodekha, wodekha, wokonda kuseŵera yekha. Mwachionekere, pamene Maxime anafika, mwamsanga anakhumudwitsa zizolowezi za mbale wake chifukwa Maxime ndi chimphepo chenicheni. Amakonda kuthamanga, kusewera mpira, kuthamanga, kukwera mitengo. Mbali yake yowonjezereka inagwedezeka pa mchimwene wake wamkulu yemwe adatsegula masewera ambiri osewera. Hugo ndi mlonda wabwino kwambiri, Maxime wowombera wabwino ndipo aliyense amawafuna mu timu yawo! “
Mofanana ndi Hugo ndi Maxime, abale ndi alongo amadziwa kuti pali zambiri zoti aphunzire kwa wina ndi mnzake komanso kuti abale ndi alongo amagwira ntchito yopititsa patsogolo kukula msanga. “Zamaganizo zimaumirirabe maphunziro a makolo… Koma maphunziro a abale alipo, ngakhale atakhala kuti sakudziwika kwenikweni! », Akutsindika katswiri wa zamaganizo Daniel Coum.
Kwa aliyense kalembedwe kake
Ngati abale ndi alongo amamangidwa chifukwa chodziwika bwino, ndiye kuti amamangidwa motsutsa. Monga psychoanalyst Dina Karoubi-Pecon akugogomezera kuti: "Ana amagwiritsa ntchito ena monga zitsanzo komanso zitsanzo zotsutsana". Amafuna kufanana, komanso kuti awonekere ndikudzisiyanitsa kuti akhalepo aliyense payekhapayekha. Tonse timadziwa abale omwe alibe chofanana, alongo omwe ndi osiyana kwambiri. Izi n’zimene Paul, bambo wa Prune ndi Rose, ananena kuti: “Ana anga aakazi aŵiri amasiyana zaka zitatu zokha ndipo safanana nkomwe. Kupatula kuti wina ndi blonde ndipo winayo ndi brunette, iwo ali pafupifupi zosiyana. Prune ndi wokongola kwambiri, amakonda madiresi ophwanyidwa ndi mafumu. Rose ndi tomboy weniweni, amangofuna kuvala mathalauza ndipo wasankha kukhala woyendetsa ndege kapena boxer! Zimawaseketsa kwambiri amayi awo, omwe samaphonya mwayi wondikumbutsa kuti ndikanakonda nditasankha mfumu komanso kuti ndidaneneratu za kubwera kwa kamnyamata Rose asanabadwe! ”
Timalemekeza mwana aliyense
Mosasamala kanthu za kalembedwe ndi umunthu wawo, chiŵalo chirichonse cha mbale chiyenera kuzindikiridwa ndi kulemekezedwa monga momwe iye alili. Zidzawathandiza kwambiri kugonjetsa mikangano yawo. Musazengereze kuuza ana anu zimene munakumana nazo monga nthaŵi zosaiŵalika, kukangana ndi abale ndi alongo anu, zinthu zopusa, zoseka, zongochitika kumene, mawu aang’ono osonyeza mbiri ya banja. “Mukudziwa, ndinalinso kukangana ndi mlongo wanga. Mukufuna ndikuuzeni za nthawi yomwe anandikankhira lunguzi? Nanga bwanji nthawi imene ndinaika chingamu m’tsitsi lake? Agogo ndi agogo anatilanga, koma lero tikuseka kwambiri limodzi. Adzakumvetserani osalankhula ndipo adzamvetsa kuti mikangano yapachibale sikhalitsa ndipo nthawi zonse timakhala tikuseka.