Zambiri zalembedwa ndi kunenedwa kuti kukwiyira makolo ndi kukwiyira makolo zimatilepheretsa kupita patsogolo. Aliyense amakamba za kufunika kophunzila kukhululuka, koma tingacite bwanji ngati titakhumudwa na kukhumudwa?
“Mwaona, ine ndinachichita icho.
Ndani anakuuzani kuti mungathe? Mumadziganizira kwambiri. Ntchitoyi sinavomerezedwebe.
- Vomerezani. Ndinaika moyo wanga wonse mmenemo.
— Ganizilani zimenezo. Kuyika ndalama zamoyo sikutanthauza kuyika ndalama muubongo. Ndipo simunakhale naye paubwenzi kuyambira ubwana, ine nthawizonse ndinanena zimenezo.
Tanya atembenuza zokambirana zamkati izi ndi amayi ake ngati mbiri yosweka m'mutu mwake. Ntchitoyi idzavomerezedwa, mutu wa zokambirana udzasintha, koma izi sizidzakhudza chiyambi cha zokambirana. Tanya amatsutsana ndikutsutsa. Iye amatenga mtunda watsopano, akuswa kuwomba m'manja abwenzi ndi anzake, koma mayi pamutu pake savomereza kuzindikira zoyenera za mwana wake wamkazi. Sanakhulupirire luso la Tanya ndipo sangakhulupirire ngakhale ngati Tanya atakhala pulezidenti wa Russia yonse. Chifukwa cha izi, Tanya sangamukhululukire. Ayi.
Julia ndizovuta kwambiri. Nthaŵi ina amayi ake anasiya atate ake, osapatsa mwana wake wamkazi wachaka chimodzi mwaŵi wodziŵa chikondi cha atate wake. Moyo wake wonse, Yulia adamva kuti "anthu onse ndi mbuzi" ndipo sanadabwe pamene amayi ake adasindikizanso mwamuna wa Yulia yemwe adangopanga kumene ndi chizindikiro chomwecho. Mwamunayo adapirira mwachipongwe choyamba, koma sakanatha kuletsa apongozi ake kwa nthawi yayitali: adanyamula sutikesi yake ndikubwerera ku chifunga chamtsogolo. Julia sanakangane ndi amayi ake, koma adangowakwiyira. Zakupha.
Tinene chiyani za Kate. Zimakhala zokwanira kuti atseke maso ake kwa kamphindi, pamene akuwona abambo ake ali ndi chovala m'manja mwake. Ndi mikwingwirima yopyapyala pakhungu la pinki. Zaka zikupita, tsogolo lakaleidoscope limawonjezera zithunzi zodabwitsa, koma Katya samazindikira. M’maso mwake munalembedwa chithunzi cha kamtsikana kakuphimba nkhope yake chifukwa chomenyedwa. Mumtima mwake muli chidutswa cha ayezi, chamuyaya, monga momwe madzi oundana pamwamba pa Everest ndi osatha. Ndiuzeni, kodi n'zotheka kukhululuka?
Ngakhale ngati mayi wamakono azindikira zonse ndipo akuyesera kukonza zolakwa za ubwana wake, sizingatheke.
Kukhululukira makolo anu nthawi zina kumakhala kovuta. Nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta kwambiri. Koma monga momwe kukhululukira kuli kosapiririka, nkofunikiranso. Osati kwa makolo athu, kwa ife tokha.
Kodi chimachitika n'chiyani tikawakwiyira?
- Ena mwa ife timakakamira m'mbuyomu, kutenga mphamvu ndikuwononga mphamvu. Palibe nthawi kapena chikhumbo choyang'ana kutsogolo, kupita, kulenga. Kukambitsirana kongoyerekeza ndi makolo kumangodzudzula kwambiri kuposa kuwaimba mlandu. Madandaulo amapanikizidwa pansi ndi kulemera kwa zida zankhondo. Osati makolo - ife.
- Kuimba mlandu makolo, timakhala ngati mwana wamng'ono wopanda thandizo. Zero udindo, koma zambiri zoyembekeza ndi zonena. Perekani chifundo, perekani kumvetsetsa, ndipo kawirikawiri, khalani okoma mtima, perekani. Chotsatira ndi mndandanda wa zofuna.
Chilichonse chikanakhala bwino, makolo okha ndi omwe sangathe kukwaniritsa zofuna izi. Ngakhale ngati mayi wamakono azindikira zonse ndikuyesera kukonza zolakwa za ubwana wake, izi sizingatheke. Timakhumudwa ndi zakale, koma sizingasinthidwe. Pali chinthu chimodzi chokha chomwe chatsala: kukula mkati ndikutenga udindo pa moyo wanu. Ngati mukufunadi, dutsani zomwe simunalandire ndikuzipereka kuti mutseke gestalt. Koma, kachiwiri, osati kwa makolo awo - kwa iwo eni.
- Chobisika kapena chodziwikiratu chakukwiyira chimatulutsa kugwedezeka, osati kukoma mtima ndi chisangalalo - kusasamala. Zomwe timatulutsa ndizomwe timalandira. Kodi ndizodabwitsa kuti amakhumudwitsa nthawi zambiri. Osati makolo - ife.
- Ndipo chofunika kwambiri: kaya timakonda kapena ayi, timanyamula gawo la makolo athu mwa ife. Mawu a amayi mmutu mwanga salinso amayi anga, ndi athu tokha. Tikamakana amayi kapena abambo, timakana gawo lathu.
Zinthu zafika povuta chifukwa ife, monga masiponji, tatengera makhalidwe a makolo. Khalidwe lomwe silikhululukidwa. Tsopano, tikangobwereza mawu a amayi athu m'mitima mwathu ndi ana athu omwe, kufuula kapena, Mulungu aletse, kumenya mbama, nthawi yomweyo amagwa: chitonzo chochuluka. Kuneneza popanda ufulu wodzilungamitsa. Khoma la chidani. Osati kwa makolo anu. Kwa inu nokha.
Kodi kusintha izo?
Winawake akuyesera kutuluka mumkhalidwe woipa wa zochitika zachidani mwa kuletsa. Kodi mukukumbukira lonjezo limene munalonjeza muli mwana lakuti, “Sindidzakhala wotere ndikadzakula”? Koma kuletsako sikuthandiza. Pamene ife sitiri mu gwero, zidindo makolo amatuluka mwa ife ngati mphepo yamkuntho, amene ali pafupi kutenga nyumba, ndi Ellie, ndi Toto ndi izo. Ndipo zimachotsa.
Ndiye kukhala bwanji? Njira yachiwiri itsalira: sambitsa mkwiyo mu moyo. Nthawi zambiri timaganiza kuti "kukhululukidwa" ndikofanana ndi "kulungamitsidwa." Koma ngati ndilungamitsa nkhanza zakuthupi kapena zamaganizo, ndiye kuti sindidzapitirizabe kulola kuchitidwa motere, koma inenso ndiyamba kuchita chimodzimodzi. Ndi chinyengo.
Kukhululukidwa kumafanana ndi kulandiridwa. Kuvomereza kumafanana ndi kumvetsetsa. Nthawi zambiri zimakhala za kumvetsetsa ululu wa wina, chifukwa zimangokankhira kupweteketsa ena. Ngati tiwona ululu wa wina, ndiye kuti timamvera chisoni ndipo pamapeto pake timakhululukira, koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti timayamba kuchita chimodzimodzi.
Kodi mungawakhululukire bwanji makolo anu?
Chikhululukiro chenicheni nthawi zonse chimabwera m'magawo awiri. Choyamba ndi kumasula malingaliro oipa omwe anaunjikana. Chachiŵiri ndicho kumvetsa chimene chinasonkhezera wolakwirayo ndi chifukwa chake chinaperekedwa kwa ife.
Mutha kumasula malingaliro anu kudzera mu kalata yakukwiyira. Nayi imodzi mwa zilembo:
"Okondedwa Amayi / Okondedwa Abambo!
Ndakwiyira iwe chifukwa…
Ndimakunyadirani kukhala...
Ndinamva kuwawa kwambiri pamene inu ...
Ndili ndi mantha kwambiri kuti…
Ndakhumudwitsidwa kuti…
Ndine wachisoni kuti…
Pepani kuti…
Ndikuthokozani chifukwa…
Ndikupempha chikhululukiro chanu…
Ndimakukondani".
Chikhululukiro sichipezeka kwa ofooka. Chikhululuko ndi cha amphamvu. Wamphamvu mu mtima, wamphamvu mu mzimu, wolimba m’chikondi
Nthawi zambiri muyenera kulemba kangapo. Nthawi yabwino kuti mutsirize njirayo ndi pamene palibe china chonena pa mfundo zoyambirira. Chikondi ndi chiyamiko chokha zimatsalira mu moyo.
Pamene maganizo oipa atha, mukhoza kupitiriza mchitidwewo. Choyamba, dzifunseni polemba funso lakuti: chifukwa chiyani amayi kapena abambo anachita izi? Ngati munatulutsadi ululuwo, pa gawo lachiwiri mudzalandira yankho mu mzimu wa “chifukwa samadziwa kuchita mwanjira ina, iwo sanadziwe, chifukwa iwo eni anali kunyansidwa, chifukwa analeredwa. mwanjira imeneyo.” Lembani mpaka mukumva ndi mtima wanu wonse: amayi ndi abambo adapereka zomwe angathe. Iwo analibenso china chilichonse.
Wofunsa kwambiri angafunse funso lomaliza: chifukwa chiyani izi zidaperekedwa kwa ine? Ine sindipereka lingaliro - mupeza mayankho nokha. Ndikuyembekeza akubweretserani machiritso otsiriza.
Ndipo potsiriza. Chikhululukiro sichipezeka kwa ofooka. Chikhululuko ndi cha amphamvu. Wamphamvu mu mtima, wamphamvu mu mzimu, wolimba m’chikondi. Ngati izi zili za inu, akhululukireni makolo anu.