Zamkatimu
Ndani mwa ife amene sanakokepo m'mutu mwake chithunzi choyenera chamtsogolo, mpaka pano? Nyumba yoyera ngati chipale chofewa panyanja, akaunti yakubanki yochititsa chidwi ... Ndizomvetsa chisoni kuti chithunzichi chikhalabe loto, loto pakati pomwe wotchi ya alarm ikulira, imatibwezera mopanda chifundo. Kodi potsiriza kutembenukira «Ndikufuna» mu «Ndingathe»? Natalya Andreina, katswiri wa zamaganizo ndi katswiri pa kupeza ntchito, amagawana malingaliro ake.
N'chifukwa chiyani pali kusiyana pakati pa kuganiza ndi zotheka? Tiyeni tisonyeze zina mwa zifukwa zofala kwambiri.
1. Maloto, mwachiwonekere osatheka muzochitika izi
"Akufuna kukhala ku Manhattan," koma mwamuna wake sadzachoka ku Irkutsk kwawo, ndipo mkaziyo sali wokonzeka kupereka banja lake. Pali kusiyana pakati pa "Ndikufuna" ndi "Ndidzatero". Mkazi amatha kumva ngati wogwidwa ndi vutolo - ndendende mpaka atazindikira kuti chilichonse chomwe chimachitika ndi chisankho chake.
2. Maloto achilendo
Kuyenda lero ndizochitika zenizeni, ndipo ambiri amabwereka maloto a anthu ena ozungulira dziko lapansi. Chowonadi, komabe, ndikuti si aliyense amene amasangalala ndi maulendo apandege, nthawi zina maulendo osatetezeka, zakudya zachilendo, komanso kusinthasintha nthawi zonse kuzinthu zatsopano.
3. Kulephera kuganiza mogwirizana ndi zotheka
Nthawi zambiri zimachitika motere: tili ndi maloto kapena lingaliro - ndipo nthawi yomweyo timayamba kudzifotokozera chifukwa chake sizingatheke kuzindikira. Pali mikangano yambiri: palibe ndalama, nthawi, luso, zaka zolakwika, ena adzatsutsa, ndipo ndithudi "nthawi yolakwika". Tikuopa kusintha ntchito yathu chifukwa ndi yayitali, yodula komanso mochedwa, koma zitha kupezeka kuti tangotsala ndi miyezi iwiri yokha yophunzirira ndipo tili ndi kolowera.
4. Chiphunzitso popanda kuchita
Anthu ambiri amaganiza kuti mumangofunika kufotokoza mwatsatanetsatane chithunzi cha zomwe mukufuna, ndiyeno ... zidzabwera mwanjira ina "yokha". Koma izo pafupifupi sizichitika konse. Kuti atolankhani asindikizidwe, sikokwanira kuwonera m'maganizo - ndizothandiza kwambiri kutsatira zakudya ndi maphunziro.
stereotypes ndi kukonzanso zolinga
N’chifukwa chiyani zambiri zimene zili zenizeni zikuoneka zosatheka? Kodi anthu amene amangokhalira kuganiza mozama komanso mmene anthu amaonera zinthu nthawi zonse amakhala ndi mlandu? Kumbali ina, chikoka chawo ndi chachikulu kwenikweni. Taphunzitsidwa “kudziwa malo athu” ndipo izi nthawi zambiri zimatisunga pamalo athu oyamba. Ndipo ngakhale titasankha kuchitapo kanthu, anthu otizungulira amatiuza mwamsanga chifukwa chake tidzalephera.
Kumbali ina, mayendedwe a moyo akuthamanga, pali zinthu zambiri zomwe zimafuna chisamaliro chathu sekondi iliyonse. Nthawi zambiri timakhala opanda nthawi yoti tikhale pansi ndikuganiza: tikufuna chiyani komanso ngati tingachipeze. Ndiyeno, kulekanitsa maloto ndi zolinga zenizeni, pezani zitsanzo, khalani ndi nthawi yomalizira ndikukonzekera ndondomeko yoti muchite. M'lingaliro limeneli, kugwira ntchito ndi mphunzitsi kumathandiza kwambiri: kukonzanso zolinga ndi gawo lofunika kwambiri.
Kusankhidwa kwachilengedwe kunali kumbali ya osamala kwambiri, kotero kusintha ndi kusatsimikizika kumayambitsa nkhawa ndi nkhawa.
Nthawi zambiri, tikakhala ndi lingaliro lapadziko lonse lapansi, mafunso ambiri amabwera m'maganizo mwathu. Kuti tiyambire? Kodi okondedwa anu adzatani? Kodi pali nthawi yokwanira, ndalama ndi mphamvu? Ndipo, ndithudi: "Kapena, chabwino, iye? Ndipo kotero zonse ziri bwino. Ndipo izi ndi zachibadwa. Ubongo wathu wasunga gawo lakale kwambiri lomwe limakumbukira bwino: kusintha kulikonse, njira zatsopano ndi zoyambira zimawonjezera chiopsezo chodyedwa. Kusankhidwa kwachilengedwe kunali kumbali ya osamala kwambiri, kotero tsopano kusintha ndi zosadziwika zimachititsa nkhawa ndi kupsinjika maganizo, poyankha kuti mbali yakale kwambiri ya ubongo imapanga chimodzi mwa zochitika ziwiri zomwe zimadziwika kwa izo: kuthawa kapena kusewera akufa.
Masiku ano, njira yathu yopulumukira ndi bizinesi yosatha, ntchito, ndi kukakamiza majeure, zomwe zimakhala ngati chifukwa chomveka chosachita bizinesi yomwe tikufuna. Komanso, ife «kusewera akufa», kugwera mphwayi, ulesi wosadziwika bwino, kuvutika maganizo kapena matenda - zonse zomwezo «zabwino» zifukwa zosasintha chilichonse.
Ngakhale mutangodziwa njirazi, zidzakhala zosavuta kuti musagonje. Koma chinthu chabwino kwambiri ndicho kuchepetsa nkhawa. Mwachitsanzo, kuti mudziwe zambiri momwe mungathere, phwanyani mlanduwo kukhala tinthu tating'onoting'ono, ndipo iliyonse yaiwo ikhale magawo khumi kuti mutengepo pang'onopang'ono koma pang'onopang'ono kupita patsogolo.
Momwe mungaphunzire "kuwuluka" ngati mavuto akugwetsani pansi
Nthawi zambiri ndimamva kuchokera kwa makasitomala: "Sindikufuna kalikonse," ndiyeno ndimafunsa mafunso omveka bwino kuti ndidziwe chifukwa chake. Kusafuna kalikonse ndi chizindikiro cha matenda ovutika maganizo, ndipo izi sizichitika kawirikawiri moti onse omwe ali ndi ngongole zanyumba ndi abambo kapena amayi a m'banja amachitira kafukufuku. Monga lamulo, zimakhala kuti munthu alibe nthawi yokwanira yokhala pansi ndikuganiza zomwe akufuna. Ambiri amazolowera kukhalapo pa autopilot, koma ndizosatheka kufika pamalo oyenera popanda kudziwa adilesi. Ngati sitikhala ndi zolinga, sitipeza zotsatira zomwe tikufuna. Mu kuya kwa miyoyo yathu, aliyense wa ife amamvetsa bwino zomwe akufuna komanso momwe angazikwaniritsire.
Kuganiza mwayi ndikutha kuyika zopinga panjira yanu. M'malo mwake, zimatsikira m'malo mwa funso lakuti "Chifukwa chiyani sizingachitike?" funso "Ndingakwaniritse bwanji izi?". Winawake ayenera kukhala wotsogolera moyo wanu. Ndipo ngati si inu, zomwe mungachite zidzatengedwa ndi zochitika.
Kuwulukira kuphompho
Inu ndi ine timatha kukhalapo m'njira ziwiri: mwina timapita ndikuyenda, kuzindikira zochitika ndi momwe timachitira (maganizo okhazikika), kapena timazindikira kuti moyo wathu wonse ndi zotsatira za zisankho zathu ndikuti tikhoza kuwongolera ( kuganiza ndi zotheka).
Munthu wokangalika, pozindikira kuti ntchitoyo siyimuyenerera ndipo imakoka mphamvu zake zonse mwa iye, amadandaula kwa zaka zambiri ndipo sasintha chilichonse. Amadzifotokozera yekha izi chifukwa chakuti sangathe kuchita china chirichonse, ndipo pa msinkhu wake ndi mochedwa kuti abwererenso. Kuonjezera apo, malo atsopanowo akhoza kukhala oipa kwambiri. Ndipo zambiri, sizinali pachabe kuti anakhala zaka zisanu pa sukulu kuti asiye zonse tsopano!
Umu ndi momwe zimagwirira ntchito: kuti tichepetse nkhawa, timafotokozera zomwe zikuchitika kwa ife tokha kotero kuti zimayamba kuwoneka zomveka.
Muyenera kulabadira zotheka mwachidwi njira iyi yoganizira isanakhale yodziwikiratu.
Woganiza mwachidwi amayang'ana zomwe zingatheke. Sindimakonda ntchitoyi - koma ndi chiyani kwenikweni: gulu, mabwana, maudindo? Ngati simukumva bwino mu kampaniyi, mutha kupita ku ina. Ngati simukonda ntchitozo, ndizomveka kuganiza zaukadaulo watsopano. Pezani komwe mungaphunzire zinthu zatsopano, yambani kuyeseza. Pankhaniyi, munthu amatenga udindo chifukwa cha kusakhutira kwawo ndi ntchitoyo, amasanthula zomwe zili zolakwika, ndikuthetsa vutoli mwachidwi.
Chovuta ndichakuti muyenera kulabadira zomwe zingatheke mwachidwi ndikuzichita mobwerezabwereza njira iyi yoganizira isanakhale yokha. Woyendetsa ndege amatitsogolera m'njira yanthawi zonse: malingaliro athu a makolo, zikhulupiriro zathu, ndi chiyembekezo cha ukhanda kuti chilichonse "chidzasungunuka chokha" chimatitsegulira njira.
Kuchepetsa mtunda pakati pa malingaliro ndi zotheka zenizeni ndizotheka kokha ndi zochita zenizeni, pofotokozera zochitika zenizeni. Ngati mumalota kusamukira kum'mwera, phunzirani za misampha, pezani omwe ayenda kale njira iyi, fufuzani ubwino wa mizinda yosiyanasiyana, madera ndi mitengo ya nyumba. Mwina simuyenera kudikirira mpaka mutapuma pantchito, ndipo kusunthaku kutheka mchaka chikubwerachi.
malangizo othandiza
Poyesera "kupopera" kuganiza ndi zotheka, muyenera kuphunzira momwe mungakhazikitsire chidwi. Za ichi:
- Tengani nthawi yoganizira zomwe simukukondwera nazo m'mbali zonse za moyo wanu: ntchito, maubwenzi, thanzi, kulimbitsa thupi, ndalama, zosangalatsa. Izi zidzakupatsani mndandanda woti mugwire nawo ntchito. Ndikofunika kuzindikira kuti muli ndi udindo pa chirichonse "cholakwika" - kutanthauza kuti muli ndi mphamvu zokonza chirichonse.
- Ganizirani zomwe mungayambe, momwe mungayambire komanso liti kuti muthane ndi vutoli. Ndani angakuthandizeni? Kodi mukuyembekezera chiyani? Mwa kuyang'ana mwachidwi pa mwayi m'malo mwa zopinga, muli ndi kiyi ya zitseko zonse.
Tiyerekeze kuti mukuvutitsidwa ndi kulemera kwanuko. Choyamba ndi kuvomereza kuti si za majini, «akuluakulu mafupa» kapena anzake amene kuyitanitsa pizza ku ofesi nthawi ndi nthawi. Sakulolani kuti mukhale ndi mawonekedwe, koma inu nokha. Ndipo chifukwa chake sichili ngakhale kusowa mphamvu - kudalira chifuniro chokha, kutaya thupi sikotetezeka kuchokera kumaganizo a maganizo: umu ndi momwe kusweka, kudziimba mlandu, kudzidzudzula kumayambira, ndipo sikuli kutali ndi vuto la kudya. .
Phunzirani kuganiza mozama: ndi mwayi wanji womwe muli nawo? Mwachitsanzo, mungaphunzire zambiri za zakudya zopatsa thanzi komanso zochepetsera thupi, kuphunzira kuphika zakudya zopepuka koma zokoma. Kuti mukhale odziletsa, mutha kupeza pulogalamu yokhala ndi chowerengera cha calorie, ndipo kuti mulimbikitse, mutha kupeza kampani yothamanga m'mawa kapena kupita ku masewera olimbitsa thupi.
Ndipo zonsezi - m'malo mosalekeza kutchula zifukwa «ino si nthawi», simudzapambana ndipo simuyenera ngakhale kuyamba.