Zamkatimu
Kupsinjika maganizo kumatchedwa chifukwa cha matenda, koma n'zosatheka kuchita popanda izo. Chifukwa cha momwe thupi limachitira ku zinthu zomwe sizinali zoyenera, makolo athu akutali adatha kukhala ndi moyo m'mikhalidwe yovuta, ndipo tsopano ntchito yake sinasinthe kwambiri. Katswiri wa zamaganizo Sherry Campbell amakhulupirira kuti kupsinjika maganizo kuli ndi zinthu zambiri zothandiza: kumathandiza kusintha kusintha, kulimbana ndi mavuto ndi kupanga zisankho zoyenera. Komabe, zambiri zimadalira ife.
Ambiri aife sitidziwa momwe tingapirire kupsinjika maganizo, chifukwa timakonda kunena kuti zimachitika chifukwa cha zochitika zakunja. Izi ndi zowona, zopsinjika nthawi zambiri zimakhala kunja kwa gawo lomwe timakonda, koma ichi sichifukwa chachikulu. Ndipotu magwero a kupsinjika maganizo ali mkati mwathu. Kuyiwala izi, timasamutsa malingaliro kwa munthu kapena chinachake ndikuyamba kufunafuna wina womuimba mlandu.
Koma popeza timatha kufalitsa zoyipa mosavuta, zikutanthauza kuti ndife okhoza kusintha kukhala zabwino. Kupsyinjika kungathe kuthetsedwa ndi kuperekedwa m'njira zolimbikitsa. Pankhaniyi, amakhala mphamvu yoyendetsa bwino. Inde, ili si dziko labwino kwambiri, koma ndiloyenera kuyang'ana ubwino momwemo.
MMENE KUpsinjika maganizo KUMATHANDIZA
1.Imakulitsa luso loyang'ana mozama
Kuti tipindule ndi kupsinjika maganizo, m'pofunika kuziwona ngati zosapeŵeka, mbali ya filosofi ya moyo, kapena chinthu chofunika kwambiri cha kukula kwa akatswiri. Ngati musiya kuyembekezera kuti nkhawa zithe ndikuphunzira kukhala nazo, maso anu amatseguka. Timazindikira komwe tilibe mphamvu zokwanira komanso momwe tingakonzere.
Kupanikizika nthawi zonse kumasonyeza kufooka kwathu kapena kumasonyeza kumene tilibe chidziwitso ndi chidziwitso. Tikazindikira zofooka zathu, timamvetsetsa bwino zomwe tiyenera kusintha.
2. Zimakupangitsani kuganiza mwanzeru
Magwero a kupsinjika maganizo ndi zochitika zosayembekezereka. Monga momwe timafunira kuti chilichonse chiziyenda molingana ndi zomwe zidakonzedweratu, sitingathe kuchita popanda zokhotakhota mosayembekezereka. Munthawi yamavuto, nthawi zambiri timafuna kuwongolera chilichonse, koma mutha kuyang'ana moyo kudzera m'maso mwa wojambula. M’malo molimbana ndi kumene mungapeze ndalama zambiri, ndi bwino kuganizira kwambiri za kumanga ntchito yabwino.
Ndipotu, kupsinjika maganizo kumatipangitsa kukhala pa zala zathu. Ndizosatheka kukhala katswiri pamakampani anu osayesa kukhala patsogolo pa aliyense. Ndipo izi zikutanthauza kuganiza mwanzeru, kupyola miyezo yovomerezeka ndi kusachita mantha kuyika pachiwopsezo. Mavuto adzidzidzi amatulutsa adrenaline. Pali mphamvu zomwe zingalowe mu malingaliro atsopano, kugwira ntchito mwakhama ndikupeza zotsatira zapamwamba.
3. Kumathandiza kuika patsogolo
Kupambana kumakhudzana mwachindunji ndi zofunika kwambiri. Tikayang'anizana ndi chosankha, momwe timayankhira pa kupsinjika mtima kumatiuza zomwe zikufunika kusamalidwa kwambiri ndi zomwe tingathe kuzisiya mpaka mtsogolo. Ndikoyenera kuzindikira ntchito zofunika kwambiri ndikuzitsatira, monga kudzidalira kumawonekera. Tikangolimbana ndi zovuta zachangu, mpumulo umabwera ndipo, koposa zonse, kumva kukhutitsidwa kwakukulu kumabwera: zonse zidayenda bwino!
4.Imatsegula mwayi watsopano
Kupanikizika kumasonyeza kuti tikukumana ndi mavuto. Izi zikutanthauza kuti muyenera kulimbana ndi vutolo, kusintha njira, kuphunzira zina, kuchita mosiyana, kuthana ndi mantha olephera, ndikupanga mwayi watsopano. Inde, mavuto amabweretsa nkhawa, koma amatha kuwonedwa ngati mdani. Chisankho ndi chathu: kudzipereka kapena kupambana. Kwa iwo omwe amafunafuna mwayi, njira zatsopano zimatseguka.
5.Kumawonjezera msinkhu wa luntha
Kupsinjika kwatsimikiziridwa kuti kumathandizira kuzindikira komanso kuwongolera mbali zina zamalingaliro athu. Kuyankha kwachilengedwe kumenya kapena kuwuluka kumayambitsa ma neurotransmitters ena omwe amatipangitsa kuyang'ana mwachangu ntchito zomwe zikufunika kuchitika.
Tikakhala ndi nkhawa, sikuti timangokhala otcheru kwambiri, komanso timawonetsa luso lapadera lamalingaliro. Kukumbukira kwathu kumapanganso zambiri ndi zochitika mwachangu, zomwe ndizofunikira kwambiri pazovuta zomwe chidziwitso ndi luso lotha kuthetsa mavuto zimafunikira.
6. Amakhala wokonzeka nthawi zonse
Malo achonde kwambiri pakukula kwa chidziwitso, maluso ndi luso ndizovuta komanso ntchito zomwe sizili zoyenera. Kupambana ndikulimbana, palibe njira ina. Kwa iwo amene amagonja ku zolephera, chisangalalo cha zipambano sichingapezeke.
Pamene tithanso kudutsa mumsewu wosadziwika, timakhala osangalala. Zopinga ziyenera kukhala zolimbikitsa kwa ife, osati kutaya mtima. Palibe cholinga chachikulu chomwe chimakwaniritsidwa popanda kuyesetsa komanso kugwira ntchito molimbika.
7. Amapereka njira zopambana
Tikagonjetsedwa ndi kukaikira ndi kuda nkhaŵa, kupsinjika maganizo kumasonyeza njira yotulukira m’mikhalidwe yosokoneza kwambiri. Pansi pa kukakamizidwa kwake, ndife anzeru monga kale, chifukwa ndife okonzeka kuchita zonse zomwe tingathe kuti tichotse mtolowu.
Tikamachita zinthu mopupuluma, mantha amakula ndipo pamakhala mavuto ambiri. Kuti mutembenuzire kupsinjika kuti mukhale wothandizira, muyenera kuchepetsa pang'ono ndikuganizira njira yomwe ingakuthandizeni kuti muthe kumasula ndikupita patsogolo. Tikamasanthula zolakwa zathu mosamala kwambiri ndikukonzekera njira zina, m'pamenenso timakumana ndi zovuta zatsopano molimba mtima.
8. Amatsogolera kwa anthu oyenera
Ngati kupsinjika kukuta mutu wanu, iyi ndi nthawi yofunafuna chithandizo, chithandizo ndi upangiri. Anthu ochita bwino amakhala okonzeka nthawi zonse kugwirizana. Sadziona ngati anzeru kuposa aliyense padziko lapansi. Tikavomereza kuti sitingathe kuchita zinazake ndikupempha thandizo, timapeza zambiri kuposa njira yachangu komanso yothandiza ya vutolo. Anthu ozungulira amagawana nafe zomwe adakumana nazo, ndipo iyi ndi mphatso yamtengo wapatali. Kusiyapo pyenepi, tingasankhula kupangiza kuti tiri m’mabvuto, nee tisathimbana na mabvero akutoma.
9. Amakhala ndi maganizo abwino
Palibe cholepheretsa kuchita bwino kuposa kupsinjika maganizo komwe kumachitika chifukwa cha zovuta. Ngati tikufuna kupindula ndi kupsinjika maganizo, tiyenera kugwiritsa ntchito zizindikiro zake monga zikumbutso kuti ndi nthawi yoti tiyambe kuganiza bwino. Tidzalira tikakhala ndi nthawi yopuma.
Maganizo athu pazochitika - zabwino kapena zoipa - zimadalira ife eni. Maganizo ogonja ndi njira yopita kulikonse. Chifukwa chake, titamva kuyandikira kwa kupsinjika, tiyenera kuyambitsa malingaliro onse abwino nthawi yomweyo ndikuyesera kupeza njira yotulutsira zovuta.
Za Mlembi: Sherry Campbell ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo, katswiri wa zamaganizo, komanso wolemba buku la Dzikondani Nokha: Luso la Kukhala Inu, Njira Yopambana: Njira Yopita Kumoyo Wabwino.