“Sindinakulere chifukwa cha ichi”: chifukwa chake makolo sanatiphunzitse kukhala osangalala

Ndikalowa m'nyumba ndikugula, onse akuyembekezera kugwedezeka kwa mapepala, ndikuyang'ana ndikuyesera, Asya nthawi yomweyo amanyamula zikwama m'manja mwanga, ndikutaya zonse kunja uko, ndikuyamba kudya ngati ndi chakudya, ndikuyesa ngati ndi chakudya. chinthu chatsopano. Ndinalibe nthawi yovula nsapato zanga, ndipo anali atang'amba kale mapepala, akutafuna ndi kugona pabedi mu jeans yatsopano. Mwinanso ngakhale mu jeans wanga watsopano - nthawi yomweyo amadziwa omwe angofika kumene, amawaika m'magazi.

Ndinali kuganiza kuti, n’chifukwa chiyani kufulumira koteroko kumandikwiyitsa? Kenaka ndinaganiza kuti uwu unali moni wochokera ku ubwana wa Soviet, pamene zinthu zatsopano mu zovala za ana zinali zosowa - komanso zosangalatsa za gastronomic. Ndipo ndimafuna kukulitsa nthawi yodziwana nawo ndi kutambasula ndikusangalala ndi chisangalalo chokhala nazo.

Kotero, kuchokera ku thumba la Chaka Chatsopano la maswiti, zoumba zoumba zoyamba mu shuga zimadyedwa, kenako ma tofi, kenako caramels «Goose paws», «Snowball» ndipo kenako - chokoleti «Gologolo» ndi «Bear». Ndipo ndani akukumbukira momwe amayi amasungira mu chipinda bokosi la chokoleti "pa tchuthi" kapena mtsuko wa mayonesi wokhala ndi chivindikiro cha dzimbiri - kwa Olivier pa Chaka Chatsopano?

Koma ma redneck quirks onsewa masiku ano sizinthu zoyipa kwambiri zomwe tapeza kuchokera pamenepo. Kuchokera ku USSR.

Abambo a mnzanga wakusekondale anali dokotala wa opaleshoni, komanso wamtali wamaso a buluu wokhala ndi zala zazitali za "opaleshoni". Anawerenga mabuku ambiri (ofesi ya "abambo" ndi kumene mashelufu okhala ndi mabuku amakhala kuchokera kumbali zinayi mpaka kudenga), nthawi zina ankaimba gitala, amapita kunja (zinali zosowa panthawiyo), anabweretsa mapensulo a lalanje kwa mwana wake wamkazi ndipo nthawi zina ankamutenga. kuchokera kusukulu m'kalasi mwake Zhiguli galimoto. Aliyense wa ife analibe makolo amene anabwera kudzatitenga.

Pamene sanapambane gawo loyamba la uchi chifukwa cha moyo wolephera panthawiyo, zochitika ndi zonse zomwe ziyenera kuchitika, dokotala wa opaleshoniyo anasiya kulankhula naye. Monga momwe zikukhalira tsopano - pamene ife tiri kale opitirira makumi anayi - izo zaima kwanthawizonse. Ndipo nthawi yomweyo kugunda loko pachitseko chokondedwa cha ofesiyo. Panalibenso njira kwa mwana wake wamkazi - ngakhale mchipinda chake, kapena m'moyo wake. Chifukwa iye, monga, anakhulupirira mwa iye, ndipo iye, monga, anamupereka iye.

M'banja lina, bambo amaonedwa kuti ndi katswiri mpaka lero - wolemba ndakatulo, wojambula, waluntha, maphunziro apamwamba, kukumbukira kodabwitsa. Kuphatikizanso kusatopa kudzikuza, kukula kwaumwini. Anthu amakopeka naye, zimamusangalatsa bwanji! Ndinakhala usiku pafupi ndi munthu wotero - ndipo ngati kuti ndinamwa kuchokera ku gwero la chidziwitso, ndinaunikiridwa ndikuwunikiridwa ...

Nzeruyo itadziwa kuti mwana wakeyo ali ndi pakati ndipo akufuna kukwatiwa, iye anati, pomudula, salinso mwana wake. Sanavomereze chisankhocho, ndipo chifukwa chokhala ndi pakati chinamupweteka kwambiri ... Ubale wawo unathera pomwepo. Mayi ake amamutumizira china chake mwachinsinsi kuchokera kwa mwamuna wake, ndalama, nkhani zina, koma mtsikanayo adataya bambo ake.

Bambo winayo ndi munthu wolemera wa kulenga mwiniwake, ndipo analera mwana wake wamkazi mu mzimu womwewo. Pozindikira kuthekera kotsimikizira, adafuna kuti "osati tsiku lopanda mzere", kuti tsiku lililonse amubweretsere ndakatulo yatsopano kuti aunike. Ndipo iye anabweretsa, anayesa, ndi kuphunzira, ntchito, anakwatira, anabala mwana ...

Ndipo panthawi ina kunapezeka kuti ndakatulo ndi, tiyeni tinene, osati kofunika kwambiri, kuti palibe nthawi yotsalira ndakatulo, muyenera kuyang'anira banja, ndipo mwamuna si mmodzi wa iwo amene anganene kuti: khalani, wokondedwa, lembani nyimbo, ndipo ndichita zina. Ndipo pamene abambo adazindikira kuti ayenera kuyembekezera kusindikizidwa kwa ndakatulo za mwana wake wamkazi, sanamulekerere, ayi, koma pa mwayi uliwonse amasonyeza momwe adakhumudwitsidwa, momwe adakwirira luso lake mopanda pake, ndi waulesi, popeza samalemba zonse zatsopano ...

Ayenera kulipira ndalama zogulira nyumbayo, kuchita homuweki ndi mwanayo, kuphika chakudya chamadzulo kwa banja lake, ndipo atate wake: “Bwanji osalemba? Kodi mukuyang'ana kudzoza? Ndi zamkhutu zotani zomwe mwasankha kuchita m'moyo ... "

Nthawi ina Andrei Loshak adalemba pa Facebook (bungwe lochita zinthu monyanyira loletsedwa ku Russia): "Mkulu wina wokhala ndi ndodo, ndevu, ndi jekete la denim lotha adafika ku siteshoni ya metro ya Universiteit - chibadwa cha kalasiyo chinamva kuti ali ndi mawonekedwe ake. Mukanakhala bwenzi la atate wanu mosavuta. Anandiyang’ana mosakayikira ndipo anandifunsa kuti, “Pepani, kodi mumakonda mabuku a zaluso?” Onse a gulu lomwelo mgwirizano anati inde, iwo ali ndi chidwi.

Ndipo ambiri adayankha, anzanga amakumbukira makolo awo ...

Tinalinso ndi zojambula zojambula kunyumba, zolemba, ndakatulo, prose - mizu idakali pamaso pathu - kwenikweni ndi mophiphiritsira. Ndipo atate nawonso amachokera ku m'badwo uno wa zaka makumi asanu ndi limodzi, omwe anabadwa pang'ono nkhondo isanayambe kapena itangotha ​​kumene. Kulakalaka, kuwerenga, kumvetsera Radio Liberty, kuganiza, kukangana, kuvala mabelu, ma turtlenecks ndi ma sweatshirt okhala ndi kolala yakuthwa…

Iwo ankaganizira mozama za cholinga cha moyo, moti ankafunitsitsa kuchipeza. Ndipo adapeza, otayika, adapezanso, amatsutsana za ndakatulo, anali akatswiri a sayansi ya zakuthambo ndi oimba nthawi imodzi, amakangana ndi abwenzi ngati sakugwirizana nawo pazinthu zopanda pake, zongopeka ... Zonsezi zimayambitsa ulemu, kusilira, kunyada kwa iwo. Koma.

Zonsezi sizokhudza chisangalalo.

Ayi, osati za chisangalalo.

Makolo athu sankadziwa kuti kukhala wosangalala n’kwabwino komanso kwabwino. M'malo mwake, ichi ndiye cholinga chomwe mukufuna - chisangalalo chanu. Ndipo chikondi chopanda malire sichimveka bwino. Iwo ankamvetsa zofunidwazo—ndipo anali oumirira ndi opanda chifundo kwa iwo eni ndi ana awo (ndi akazi awo).

Pakupita patsogolo kwawo konse, adakhala m'malo omwe, mozama, adakhulupirira kuti anthu ndi apamwamba kuposa amunthu, ndipo chisangalalo chonse pantchito ndi tanthauzo la moyo ziyenera kuyesedwa ndi phindu lomwe mwabweretsa kwa anthu. dziko. Ndipo koposa zonse, moyo wanu lero ulibe kanthu - dzidziweni kuti muwonjezere zokolola zantchito ndikupanga tsogolo lowala palibe amene akudziwa. Ndi kukayikira kwina, koma makolo athu adakhulupirira izi ... Ndipo adakhulupiriranso kuti ufulu wambiri udagwera pagawo lawo. thaw.

Koma ntchito ya maphunziro awo, luntha, zokonda zawo, chidziwitso cha luso, zolemba, kupambana kwaukadaulo ndi chiyani, ngati sanasangalale ndikulephera kusangalatsa ana awo, kapena kuwasiya ndi mawu akuti “Sindinakulereni. za ichi"?

Ndipo chifukwa chiyani?

Zikungowoneka kuti dziko lasintha, kuti ndi zipangizo moyo wapita mosiyana kotheratu, kuti ufulu waumwini ndi zofuna za munthu tsopano zimaganiziridwa ndi munthu mwiniyo. Ayi. Ife, monga makolo athu, ndife "ana a zaka zoopsa za Russia" ndipo timakhala ndi mantha ndi zovuta za makolo a Soviet. Komabe, ndimavala.

Zonsezi zinachitika posachedwa - bambo anga ankagwira ntchito m'nyuzipepala ya Socialist Industry, ndipo amayi anga ankagwira ntchito mu komiti yachigawo ya chipani. Ndipo m'kalasi lachisanu ndi chimodzi, mphunzitsi wa Chirasha ndi mabuku, wachikominisi wakale Nadezhda Mikhailovna, atawona manicure anga (ndi vanishi yowonekera), anati: "Ndidzauza bungwe la phwando zomwe ana a antchito a komiti ya chigawo amachita - iwo. penta misomali yawo.” Ndinachita mantha kwambiri kotero kuti ndinadula vanishi yonse ndi tsamba, m’phunziro lomwelo. Palibenso lingaliro.

Ali pano, pafupi kwambiri ndi nthawi komanso mwakuthupi, malingaliro onsewa akuyenda mwadongosolo komanso pang'onopang'ono, makomiti onse am'deralo, makomiti a chipani, mabungwe a Komsomol, misonkhano yomwe adagwira amuna akusiya banja, atsikana omwe "amathamangira kuvina" m'malo mwake. kuyimilira pa bala, pomwe amadzudzulidwa chifukwa cha zodzoladzola, kutalika kwa siketi, chibwenzi ndi mwamuna wokwatira…

Ndipo kumverera kosatha kwa liwongo la kukhala ndi moyo wabwino, chifukwa cha "kudzikhalira wekha" kapena ngakhale "ola kwa wekha", chifukwa chisangalalo chaumwini chimachokera kumeneko. Kuchokera pamenepo, mantha kuti ngati ndiseka lero, ndiye kuti mawa ndidzalira, ndi lingaliro lakuti: "Chinthu chomwe ndakhala ndikunama kwa nthawi yayitali, ndiyenera kutsuka pansi, mumsewu ndi pamtunda." Ndipo zonsezi "sizili bwino pamaso pa anthu", "oyandikana nawo angati chiyani", "tsiku lamvula", "bwanji ngati kuli nkhondo mawa?" ndi chithunzi pagulu chotchedwa "Psychology for Every Day" ndi malangizo: "Ngati muli okondwa, khalani chete ..." nokha ...

Ndipo pamene katswiri wa zamaganizo akunena kuti: "Dzikondeni nokha, dzivomereni nokha mumtundu uliwonse ndi chikhalidwe - kupambana ndi kulephera, poyambira ndi kubwereranso, muzochita ndi kusachita," sindikumvetsa momwe ndingachitire! Koma ndimaŵerenga laibulale ya makolo anga, ndimapita kumalo osungiramo zinthu zakale ndi m’mabwalo a zisudzo, ndimadziŵa chifundo chamtundu uliwonse, ndipo kwenikweni ndine munthu wabwino. Koma sindingakhale wosangalala. Sindikudziwa momwe ziriri. Sayansi ndi zojambulajambula, zolemba ndi zojambula siziphunzitsa izi. Kodi ndingaphunzitse bwanji zimenezi kwa ana anga? Kapena ndi nthawi yoti muphunzire kwa iwo nokha?

Tsiku lina, ubwana wanga utatha kalekale, nditapenga chifukwa cha matenda amisala komanso kudzimvera chisoni, ndinaganiza zophunzira ndekha. Ndinaganiza kuti ndisachedwetse kalikonse, kusasunga ndalama zamtsogolo, kuopa, kusasunga ndalama. Pali chokoleti nthawi yomweyo - ndipo palibe caramels!

Ndipo ndinasankha kusafufuza cholinga cha moyo. Kugoletsa zigoli zapamwamba, kusiya zilakolako zomwe sizili bwino. Kuwerenga kokha zosangalatsa, koma kuti ayang'ane zojambula ndi nyumba za omanga abwino. Kukonda ana momwe ndingathere popanda mikhalidwe. Ndipo musawerenge zolemba zazikulu kwambiri ndi mabuku okhuthala a filosofi ndi psychology, koma ingothandizani kuti mukhale osangalala pang'onopang'ono. Poyamba, gulani. Ndipo kuyambira pachiyambi - kumvetsetsa kuti ngati simuchiritsa lero-tsopano, ndiye kuti tsogolo silidzabwera. Lidzabwerera m’mbuyo ndi kubwerera m’mbuyo nthawi zonse, ndipo ndidzalithamangira mpaka imfa yanga, ngati bulu amene atsatira karoti.

Zikuwoneka kwa ine kapena zidapezeka kuti dziko lonse lapansi latopa ndi zilakolako, chidziwitso komanso kudziimba mlandu? Kodi chizolowezi ndi chiyani: anthu akufunafuna njira ndi zifukwa zokhalira osangalala. Ndi chisangalalo.

Ndigawana zanga. Ndipo ndidikirira nkhani zanu.