"Kodi ndimamukondadi munthu uyu?" - funso, kuyang'ana yankho kunja zikuwoneka ngati zachilendo. Ndipo komabe, chifukwa cha kulembedwa kwa zaka kapena chifukwa cha zovuta za maubwenzi, sitingathe kudziwa nthawi zonse zomwe timamva kwa wokondedwa. Katswiri wa zamaganizo Alexander Shakhov amapereka njira yosavuta koma yothandiza kuti ikuthandizeni kuzindikira.
Nthawi zambiri, pokambirana, makasitomala amandifunsa kuti: “Kodi ndimamukonda mwamuna wanga? Kodi ndingamvetse bwanji izi? Ndimayankha kuti: "Ayi, simukutero." Chifukwa chiyani? Wokonda amadziwa. Zomverera. Wokayika sakonda; Mulimonse mmene zingakhalire, sichingatchedwe chikondi chenicheni.
Kodi mungadziwe bwanji ngati pali chikondi pakati panu? Wina anganene kuti: ndi anthu angati - malingaliro ochuluka, aliyense ali ndi chikondi chake. Ndikanayesetsa kutsutsa ndikupereka tanthauzo lachikondi komanso lothandiza, lopangidwa ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo Robert Sternberg. Njira yake ya chikondi imawoneka motere:
Chikondi = Kudalira + Ubwenzi + Chidwi
Kukhulupirira kumatanthauza kuti mumamva kuti ndinu otetezeka ndi munthu ameneyu. Amasamala za inu ndipo amachita zinthu moyenera.
Kukondana sikungokhudza thupi (kukumbatirana, kugonana), komanso kumasuka m'maganizo. Kukhala pafupi kumatanthauza kusabisa zakukhosi kwanu, kuzifotokoza momasuka ndi kukhala wotsimikiza kuti zidzalandiridwa ndi kugawana nawo.
Chidwi ndi chilakolako cha dziko lamkati la munthu wina. Mumasirira luntha lake kapena luso lake, momwe amaonera moyo kapena chisangalalo. Mukufuna kuyankhula ndi kukhala chete, kuphunzira zinthu zatsopano pamodzi kapena kungogona pabedi. Munthuyo ndi dziko lake, zomwe amakonda ndi zofunika kwa inu.
Kodi mukufuna kudziwa momwe mumamvera kwa wokondedwa wanu, ngati chikondi chanu ndi cholimba, motero, ubale?
Vomerezani mawu atatu aliwonse a chilinganizo cha chikondi pamlingo wa 10, pomwe 0 ndi ayi ndipo 10 ndikukwaniritsidwa kwathunthu.
Mumakhudzidwa ndi munthu, malingaliro ake, moyo, malingaliro. Mumasangalala mukamalankhula naye kapena kungokhala chete
- Mumamva kukhala woyandikana ndi munthu wotetezeka kotheratu m’maganizo ndi mwakuthupi, mumakhulupirira kotheratu thayo lake kwa inu, kuti adzakwaniritsa mathayo ndi malonjezo ake.
- Mutha kugawana malingaliro anu mosavuta, zabwino ndi zoyipa, mukutsimikiza kuti munthu adzakumverani, kuvomereza, kumvera chisoni, kumvetsetsa, kuthandizira. Muli ndi zomverera zosangalatsa kuchokera pachibwenzi, kukhudzana ndi thupi kumakupatsani chisangalalo ndi chisangalalo.
- Mumakhudzidwa ndi munthu, malingaliro ake, moyo, malingaliro. Mumasangalala mukamalankhula naye kapena kungokhala chete. Mukufuna kupanga mapulani ogwirizana amtsogolo, kukumbukira zomwe zidachitika kale.
Zizindikiro zonse ziyenera kufotokozedwa mwachidule.
26-30 mfundo: Kumvera kwanu chikondi ndi kozama. Ndinu osangalala. Yesani kusunga mawu onse pamlingo wapano.
21-25 mfundo: ndinu okhutitsidwa ndithu, komabe chinachake chikusowa. Mutha kuyembekezera moleza mtima kuti mnzanuyo akupatseni zomwe mukufunikira kapena kuyesera kuti mupeze chinachake kuchokera kwa iye, koma ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa kuti inu nokha muyenera kusintha kuti muwumitse chiyanjano.
Mfundo 15-20: mwakhumudwitsidwa, simukukhutira ndi ubale, mukukumana ndi mkwiyo kapena kukwiya, muli ndi zodandaula za mnzanu. Mumaganizira ngati ukwati wanu unali wolakwika, kaya munali chikondi, kaya kuyamba chibwenzi kumbali. Mgwirizano wanu uli pachiwopsezo, ndikofunikira kuchitapo kanthu kuti muwupulumutse. Choyamba, ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa nokha - zidachitika bwanji kuti ubale wanu ukhale wotero.
10-14 mfundo: ubale uli pafupi ndi nthawi yopuma. Nthawi zambiri mumakangana, kuimbana mlandu, osakhulupirirana, mwina kumabera. Mkhalidwewu ndi wovuta kwambiri ndipo umafunika kuyankha mwachangu, timafunikira kaye muubwenzi, chithandizo chabanja komanso ntchito yapayekha ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo.
0-9 mfundo: simukonda, koma m'malo mwake mumavutika. Kuwunikiridwa kwakukulu kwamalingaliro anu apadziko lapansi ndikofunikira, chithandizo cha psychotherapeutic chimakhala chobwezeretsa, kenako chophunzitsa. Ubale pakati pa inu ndi wokondedwa wanu ndi wosokoneza, wosokoneza. Kupanda thandizo lachangu kumadzadza ndi matenda oopsa a psychosomatic.