Psychology

Kukalamba ndikowopsa. Makamaka masiku ano, pamene kuli fashoni kukhala wamng'ono, pamene pempho lililonse la cashier kuti asonyeze pasipoti ndi chiyamiko. Koma mwina muyenera kusintha maganizo anu pa ukalamba? Mwinamwake tiyenera kuvomereza: "Inde, ndikukalamba." Ndiyeno zindikirani kuti kukalamba n’kodabwitsa.

Ndikukalamba. (Pali kupuma kwa anthu amene sangamve mawuwa popanda kuyankha kuti: “O, musapange zimenezo!”, “Inde, mumapukutabe mphuno za aliyense!”, “Ndi zopusa zotani zimene mukunena? !” Chonde, chonde fuulani pano, ndipo pakali pano ndipita kumadzithira tiyi.)

Ndakalamba ndipo izi ndizodabwitsa. Bwanji, ndi nthawi? Chifukwa chiyani sindinachenjezedwe? Ayi, ndinkadziwa kuti kukalamba sikungalephereke, ndipo ndinali wokonzeka kuti ndiyambe kukalamba ... tsiku lina, pamene ndinali ndi zaka zoposa makumi asanu ndi limodzi.

Umu ndi momwe zimakhalira. Moyo wanga wonse ndinkasoka thalauza langa m’chiuno. Tsopano sindikugwirizana ndi aliyense wa iwo. Chabwino, ndilowanso zina. Koma ndiuzeni, kodi izi zapachikidwa pamwamba pa lamba? Sindinayitanitse, si yanga, bwezerani! Kapena manja ndi awa. Sindinaganizepo kuti manja angakule. Ndinadzigulira zinthu zaku China, zosokera akazi achi China. Ali kuti tsopano? Anapereka kwa apongozi ake.

M'chilimwe chatha, ndinagunda batani la shutter mwangozi ndikujambula chithunzi cha mwendo wanga. Bondo, mbali ya ntchafu, mbali ya m'munsi mwendo. Ndinaseka kuti chithunzichi chikhoza kutumizidwa ku magazini yamtundu wina - kuwombera kokopa kunapezeka. Ndipo m'dzinja lapitali, ndinadwala ndi chinthu chachilendo, ndipo miyendo yanga inali ndi ming'oma yosalekeza.

Chithunzicho chinali ngati mathalauza ofiira, ndinawonetsa ana. Matendawa atatha, mitsempha ya m’miyendo yanga inayamba kuphulika, umodzi pambuyo pa umzake. Akangoyamba, samatha.

Ndimayang'ana pansi pamapazi anga odyedwa ndi njenjete ndipo mwamantha, ndimafunsa wina, "Tsopano chiyani? Sindingathenso kuyenda opanda nsapato?

Koma chozizira kwambiri ndi maso. Makwinya - chabwino, yemwe akutsutsana ndi makwinya. Koma zikope zakuda ndi zotupa mu khola, koma maso ofiira nthawi zonse - ndi chiyani? Ndi cha chiyani? Sindinayembekezere izi! "Chani, unali kulira?" Serezha akufunsa. “Ndipo ndinayankha ndi kuwawidwa mtima: ‘Ndikhala monga chonchi tsopano.” Iye sanalire, ndipo sanalinga kutero, ndipo anagona kwambiri.

Ndikhoza kupitiriza kwa nthawi yaitali: za masomphenya ndi kumva, za mano ndi tsitsi, za kukumbukira ndi mfundo. Chobisalira ndikuti zonse zimachitika mwachangu kwambiri, ndipo ndizosatheka kuzolowera zatsopano. Poyang'ana kumbuyo, mwadzidzidzi ndikuzindikira kuti pazaka makumi atatu zapitazi, zikuwoneka kuti ndasintha pang'ono. Zaka zitatu zapitazo, ndinaika chithunzi chomwe ndili ndi zaka 18, ndipo ndinalandira ndemanga zambiri: "Inde, simunasinthe nkomwe!" Ndizodabwitsa kwambiri kuwerenga izi tsopano ndikuyang'ana pagalasi.

Kalilore… Ndisanayang’ane mmenemo, ndinasonkhana m’katimo tsopano ndikudziuza kuti: “Usachite mantha basi!” Ndipo ine ndikungoyang'anabe pa kunyezimira. Nthawi zina ndimafuna kukwiyira ndikuponda mapazi anga: zomwe zimandiyang'ana pagalasi si ine, ndani adayesetsa kusintha avatar yanga?

Kukalamba ndikovuta

Buluku sakwera, malaya samamanga. Azimayi ena amene anandichitiranso chimodzimodzi akunena mosangalala kuti: “Koma ino ndi nthawi yokonzanso zovala!” Ndi zowopsa bwanji! Pitani kukagula, yang'anani zinthu zoyipa, gawanani ndi zovala zanu zanthawi zonse, zosalakwa, mudzaze nyumbayo ndi zatsopano ...

Kukalamba n’kochititsa manyazi

Ndinayamba kupsa mtima ndisanakumane ndi anthu amene ndinali ndisanawaone kwa nthawi yaitali. Wina akuwoneka ngati akufunsa, wina akuyang'ana kwina, wina akuti: "Chinachake mukuwoneka wotopa."

Zomwe zimachitika mwachangu kwambiri zidaperekedwa ndi mnansi wanga mdzikolo, wojambula wopenga pang'ono. Adandiyang'ana ndikukuwa, "Wow! Ndakuzolowera kukhala tomboy-tomboy, ndipo uli ndi makwinya! Anayendetsa chala chake pamakwinya anga. Ndipo mwamuna wake, yemwe ndi wamkulu kuposa ine ndipo nthawi zonse ndimasanza, adandiyang'ana mwachidule ndikuti: "Bwera ndi" iwe "".

Kunabwera munthu wopanga mbaula yemwe anali asanandiwone kwa zaka zingapo. Adafunsa kuti: "Kodi simunapume pantchito pano?"

Ili ndi funso, sindikudziwa kuti ndifananize ndi chiyani. N’zosatheka kuiwala munthu amene anakufunsani koyamba. Wapuma pantchito! Zaka zingapo zapitazo, ana anga anandisiya bwino monga mbale wawo wamkulu!

N’zochititsa manyazi kukalamba

Mnzanga wina wapaubwana anasudzulana posachedwapa, anakwatiwanso, ndi kukhala ndi ana, pomalizira pake ake, mmodzimmodzi. Panopa ndi bambo wachinyamata ngati mwana wanga wamkulu. Ndikumva ngati ndine wamkulu kuposa iye tsopano. Kwa nthawi yayitali, mwayi umenewu udakalipo kwa amuna - kukhala ndi ana ndi kuwalera momwe mukuwonera tsopano. Ndipo kawirikawiri, mwayi woyambitsa banja, kuyamba kumanga dziko la banja mwatsopano. Zimapezeka kwa amuna, koma osati kwa akazi. Kusiyana kwankhanza.

Zoonadi, kukalamba sikutanthauza kukalamba msanga, monganso kukula sikumatanthauza kukalamba msanga. Nditha kuvinabe kwa maola ambiri, kukwera mpanda wautali, kuthetsa vuto lanzeru. Koma pamwamba pa hyperbole yadutsa, vekitala yasintha kuchokera ku ubwana kupita ku ukalamba.

Panopa mwadzidzidzi ndikuona zambiri zofanana ndi ubwana kuposa kale.

Ukalamba umakhala woyandikira komanso womveka bwino, ndipo kusowa thandizo kumawombera mabelu oyambirira pamene simungathe kulumikiza singano kapena kuwona momwe phukusi likutsegulira, ndipo mumaganiza mwanjira yatsopano, mukuyenda mpaka pansi pachisanu. Ndipo ndinasiya kuloweza ndakatulo. Ndi, inu mukudziwa, cholimba kwambiri kuposa maso ofiira.

Kukalamba ndi kovuta

Galasi silikulolani kuti muchoke, limapangitsa kuti zikhale zoonekeratu, kwenikweni, kusintha kwa m'badwo wina, kupita ku gulu lina. Ndipo izi zikutanthauza kuti ife tinadutsa siteshoni yotsiriza, kuwerenga mutu wotsiriza. Sitimayo imangopita patsogolo, ndipo sangakuwerengereninso mutuwo, mukanamvetsera mosamala kwambiri.

Mipata yam'mbuyomu yasiyidwa, mutha kukhala nayo, mudali ndi nthawi, ndipo ngati munawombera kapena simunayiphulitsa, palibe amene amasamala. Sitimayi ikunyamuka, gwedezani manja kupita kokwererako. Ah, Augustine wokondedwa wanga, chirichonse, chirichonse chapita.

Pali malemba ochepa chabe a anthu okalamba pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti. Zomwe zilipo ndizokhumudwitsa. Wolemba mawu omaliza oterowo amene ndinawerenga anadandaula kuti tili ndi gulu lachipembedzo launyamata, ndipo, olekanitsidwa ndi makoma, kuti ndi amayi achikulire ochepa kwambiri omwe amagula masiketi ang'onoang'ono ndi zodzoladzola zowala. Ndiko kuti, monga kutsatsa, adakankhira lingaliro "Mutha kuwoneka wachinyamata pazaka zilizonse."

Ndiuzeni chiyani…Hmm, ndiyambiranso. Ndiuzeni, chifukwa chiyani ndiyenera kuoneka wachinyamata? sindikufuna. Ndikufuna kukhala ndekha, ndiko kuti, kuyang'ana msinkhu wanga.

Inde, kukalamba n’kovuta. Choncho kukula kumakhala kovuta. Ndi kubadwa. Palibe amene amati kwa mwana: "Si kanthu kuti munabadwa, pindani manja ndi miyendo yanu, monga m'mimba, kufuula mpaka makolo anu amakuphimba ndi mabulangete kumbali zonse, ndipo kunama monga chaka ndi chaka." Moyo ukupita patsogolo, siteshoni imodzi imatsatiridwa ndi ina, unyamata umatsatiridwa ndi kukhwima, ndi izo - makhalidwe ena, maudindo ena chikhalidwe ndi ... zovala zina.

Sindinazindikire kuti siteshoni ya Maturity ndi yosaoneka ndi ife

Choyamba, timakondwerera tsiku losatha la nkhumba ku Molodist siteshoni, ndiyeno mwadzidzidzi akubwera weniweni tingachipeze powerenga ukalamba, «Nyumba mu Village», mpango, ndi thewera ndi shuffling masitepe.

Ndikuwona pakati pa anzanga ophatikiza kapena ochotsera ambiri omwe amangoganizira zotayika, omwe imvi ndi ndevu, makwinya ndi mawanga ndi zizindikiro zachisoni, zizindikiro za mwayi wotayika, ndi zina zotero. Koma ndikudziwa, mwamwayi, ndi ena - amphamvu. Chifukwa chiyani kukhwima, ngati si mawonekedwe, mphamvu yodekha?

Pamene muli wamng’ono, muyenera kusonyeza nthaŵi zonse kuti ndinu olemera, mosasamala kanthu za unyamata wanu. Mukakhala wamng'ono, mumakopeka ndi anthu akuluakulu. Amakunyozerani mwachisawawa. Nthawi zina zimakhala zokhumudwitsa. Pamene simuli wamng'ono, mumathamangitsidwa mu kampani yaing'ono. Nthawi zina zimangokhala zokwiyitsa.

Mwachikhazikitso, mumapatsidwa mbiri ya ulemu ndi chidwi, mwachisawawa amakuonani kuti ndinu wolemera

Nthawi yomwe mumayamba kuzindikira kuti mukampani yayikulu aliyense akukankhana wina ndi mnzake, ndipo mumauzidwa kuti "inu", kuti alendo akutembenukira kwa inu mwaulemu watsopano, ngakhale mwaulemu watsopano, ndi nthawi yachisoni komanso yachisoni nthawi yomweyo. nthawi.

N'zoonekeratu chifukwa zachisoni, koma mwaulemu - chifukwa anthu amasonyeza ndi khalidwe lawo kuti amaona moyo wanu. Zikuoneka kuti moyo wanu wapezedwa, wakhala chidziwitso, mphamvu, mphamvu. Monga ngati munadya mapaundi anu amchere, ndikutumikira zaka makumi awiri ndi zisanu ndipo tsopano mwamasuka. Monga ngati inu, monga ngwazi ya nthano, munavala nsapato zanu zitatu zachitsulo, mwapambana mayesero onse ndikusambira kumadzi oyera. Ndipo simungavutikenso chilichonse, koma khalani ndikuchita.

Siyani Mumakonda