Zamkatimu
Mu ndemanga ku malemba aliwonse omveka bwino okhudza ukazi, kufanana ndi nkhani ya amayi, nthawi zambiri munthu amatha kupeza mawu monga: "Sindimadziona ngati mkazi, koma ndikuvomereza ...". Ndipo izi ndizodabwitsa: ngati mukuvomereza, ndinu wokonda zachikazi - ndiye bwanji simukufuna kudzitcha nokha?
Feminism ndi gulu lophatikizana komanso lotakata, chifukwa chiyani kuli kofunika kuti amayi ambiri atsindike kuti iwo sali ake, ngakhale kuti amafanana maganizo ndi zikhalidwe? Ndinalingalirapo ndipo ndinazindikira zifukwa zazikulu zinayi.
Kusazindikira komanso mayanjano oipa
Tsoka ilo, gulu lachikazi lazunguliridwabe ndi nthano zambiri zomwe amayi ambiri amakana kuzizindikira. Ukazi umagwirizanitsidwa ndi kudana ndi amuna, kusakopeka kwakunja, nkhanza ndi umuna. Omenyera ufulu wachikazi akuimbidwa mlandu wolimbana mopanda nzeru ndi makina amphepo ndi zovuta zakutali ("m'masiku akale kunali chikazi, adamenyera ufulu wovota, koma tsopano chiyani, pali zopanda pake").
Ingowapatsani kena kake kowaletsa, kuwathetsa kapena kuwapaka magazi amsambo. Osati popanda kuthandizidwa ndi zoulutsira nkhani, chithunzi cha akazi achikazi kukhala onyansa, oipa amasokonezeka ndi mavuto mu gawo la kugonana, omwe amalota za kuletsa amuna ndi kulamulira dziko limodzi ndi dzanja limodzi, akhazikika m'maganizo a anthu. Ndipo palibe chodabwitsa kuti amayi omwe sadziwa bwino za kayendetsedwe ka azimayi enieni ndi oimira ake sakufuna kugwirizana ndi "lumbiro" ili.
Azimayi amawopa kuti chikhalidwe cha akazi chidzawabweretsera maudindo ochulukirapo ndi "masculate" amuna kwambiri
Chinthu china chaching'ono koma chofunikira chikhoza kuikidwa pa alumali ya nthano. Azimayi ambiri ali otsimikiza kuti omenyera ufulu wachikazi akumenyera amayi mwaufulu ndi mokakamiza kukhala odziimira okha komanso amphamvu, mtundu wa "amuna ovala masiketi", amatsikira kumaso, kunyamula wogona ndi kunyamula. "Komanso ndi pati pomwe timafunikira wogona ngati tili kale ndi ntchito komanso shifiti yachiwiri kunyumba komanso ndi ana? Tikufuna maluwa, diresi, ndi mwayi wolota kuti kalonga wokongola abwere ndipo titha kupuma pang'ono paphewa lake lamphamvu, "amatsutsa momveka bwino.
Azimayi amawopa kuti chikhalidwe cha akazi chidzawabweretsera maudindo ochulukirapo ndi "kudula" amuna kwambiri, kuwononga pa muzu wa onse omwe amapeza ndalama zenizeni ndi otetezera, omwe chiyembekezo chawo chilipo. Ndipo ganizo limeneli limatifikitsa ku mfundo ina.
Kuopa kutaya mwayi womwe ulipo, ngakhale wocheperako
Kukhala mkazi kumakhala kovuta nthawi zonse. Koma mu lingaliro la makolo, pali njira ina ya mizimu yopambana yomwe imalonjeza mkazi kumwamba padziko lapansi (nyumba ndi mbale yodzaza, mwamuna ndi wopezera chakudya komanso moyo wodyetsedwa bwino) ngati adumpha pamwamba ndipo amatha kukumana ndi nthawi yayitali. mndandanda wa ziyembekezo za anthu.
Ngakhale muubwana, timaphunzira: ngati mumasewera ndi malamulo, khalani chete, okoma komanso omasuka, awoneke bwino, musasonyeze nkhanza, chisamaliro, kupirira, musavale zovala zokopa kwambiri, kumwetulira, kuseka nthabwala ndikuyika zonse. mphamvu zanu muzochitika za "akazi" - mutha kujambula tikiti yamwayi. Inu, ngati muli ndi mwayi, mudzalambalala zowopsa zonse za tsogolo la akazi, ndipo ngati mphotho mudzalandira chilimbikitso kuchokera kwa anthu ndipo, koposa zonse, kuvomerezedwa ndi amuna.
Udindo wachikazi umatsegula mwayi womwe sunachitikepo, komanso kutseka zitseko zambiri - mwachitsanzo, kumachepetsa kusankha kwa mabwenzi.
Chifukwa chake, kudzitcha kuti ndinu wokonda zachikazi ndikusiya malo oyambira pampikisano wamutu wa "msungwana wabwino". Kupatula apo, kukhala iye ndiko kusamasuka. Udindo wachikazi, kumbali imodzi, umatsegula mwayi wakukula kwaumwini muulongo wothandizira, ndipo kumbali ina, imatseka zitseko zina zambiri, mwachitsanzo, imachepetsa kwambiri kusankha kwa okondedwa (komanso, mwachitsanzo, mwachitsanzo. , zinthu zachikhalidwe zomwe mutha kuzidya popanda nseru pang'ono), nthawi zambiri zimayambitsa kutsutsidwa kwa anthu ndi zovuta zina.
Kudzitcha kuti ndinu wachikazi, mumataya mwayi wonyenga kwambiri kuti mukhale "msungwana wabwino", mwayi wochepa, koma mphotho.
Osafuna kumva ngati wozunzidwa
Pazokambirana zilizonse zokhudzana ndi kuponderezedwa kwa amayi, mawu akuti "Sindinakumanepo ndi izi", "palibe amene amandipondereza", "ili ndi vuto lakutali" limatuluka nthawi zonse. Azimayi amatsimikizira kuti sanakumanepo ndi zomangira za makolo, kuti izi sizinachitikepo m'miyoyo yawo, ndipo sizidzatero.
Ndipo palibe chodabwitsa mu izi. Pozindikira kukhalapo kwa kuponderezedwa, nthawi imodzi timazindikira malo athu oponderezedwa, malo a ofooka, ozunzidwa. Ndipo ndani akufuna kukhala wozunzidwa? Kuzindikira kuponderezedwa kumatanthauzanso kuvomereza kuti sitingakhudze chilichonse m'miyoyo yathu, sikuti zonse zili m'manja mwathu.
Anthu athu apamtima, othandizana nawo, abambo, abale, abwenzi achimuna, ali m'malo osiyanasiyana mu piramidi iyi.
Malo "palibe amene amandipondereza" amabwezeretsa ulamuliro wonyenga m'manja mwa mkazi: Sindine wofooka, sindine wozunzidwa, ndimangochita zonse bwino, ndipo iwo omwe akukumana ndi zovuta, mwachiwonekere, adangochita zolakwika. Izi ndizosavuta kumvetsetsa, chifukwa kuopa kutaya mphamvu ndikuvomera kuti uli pachiwopsezo ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe zimawopsa kwambiri zamunthu.
Kuphatikiza apo, podzizindikira tokha ngati cholumikizira chofooka mu kapangidwe kake ndi maulamuliro, timakakamizika kukumana ndi mfundo ina yosasangalatsa. Ndiko kuti, ndi mfundo yakuti anthu athu apamtima, okondedwa, abambo, abale, abwenzi achimuna, ali m'malo ena mu piramidi iyi. Kuti nthawi zambiri amazigwiritsa ntchito molakwika, amangogwiritsa ntchito zinthu zathu, amapeza zambiri ndikuchita mochepa. Ndipo nthawi yomweyo khalanibe okondedwa athu ndi okondedwa athu. Ili ndi lingaliro lolemera lomwe limafuna kusinkhasinkha kwa nthawi yayitali ndipo silimayambitsa mkuntho wa malingaliro abwino.
Kusafuna kudzilemba nokha komanso kuopa kukanidwa
Pomaliza, chifukwa chomaliza chomwe amayi safuna kudzitcha oimira akazi ndi kusafuna kapena kulephera kugwirizana ndi zovuta zonse za malingaliro awo mu selo limodzi lopapatiza. Azimayi ambiri onyengerera amawona malingaliro awo adziko lapansi osati ngati malingaliro okhazikika, koma ngati njira, ndipo amakayikira zolemba zilizonse ndi magulu amalingaliro ochita kupanga. Kudzitcha okha, ngakhale monyadira monga "zachikazi", kumatanthauza kwa iwo kuchepetsa zovuta zawo ndi "zamadzimadzi" zikhulupiriro ku malingaliro enaake ndikuchepetsa kukula kwawo.
Ndikosavuta kutayika mu nkhalango yakudayi ndikutchedwa "omenyera ufulu wachikazi akuchita ukazi wolakwika"
Gulu ili nthawi zambiri limaphatikizapo amayi omwe angakonde kudzitcha okha kuti okonda zachikazi, koma amatayika muzotsatira zosatha za kayendetsedwe kathu kotakata ndikuwopa kuchitapo kanthu kuopa kuti angabweretse bingu ndi mphezi ndi milandu yolakwika yachikazi.
Pali nthambi zosaŵerengeka za ukazi, kaŵirikaŵiri zimamenyana wina ndi mnzake, ndipo m’nkhalango yakuda imeneyi n’kosavuta kusochera ndi kuperekedwa kwa “wokhulupirira zachikazi wolakwika amene akupanga ukazi wolakwika.” Ndi chifukwa chenicheni cha mantha a kukanidwa, kuopa kusaloŵerera m’gulu la anthu ocheza nawo kapena kukwiyitsa anthu amalingaliro ofanana dzulo, n’kovuta kwa ambiri kuvala dzina lakuti “chikazi” ndi kulinyamula monyada.
Chilichonse mwa zifukwa izi, ndithudi, ndizovomerezeka, ndipo mkazi aliyense ali ndi ufulu wosankha ndi kutchula dongosolo lake la malingaliro, kusankha mbali kapena kukana chisankho ichi. Koma inu mukudziwa chomwe chiri chosangalatsa kwambiri pa izo? Kuti ufulu wosankha uwu unapatsidwa kwa ife ndi wina aliyense koma omenyera ufulu wa akazi.