Kodi ambiri aife timalankhula bwanji za kupsinjika maganizo kapena zokumana nazo zoopsa—kwa mabwenzi, okondedwa, kapena akatswiri? Monga lamulo, mwa munthu woyamba: "Ndikukumbukira momwe zinaliri ...", "Panthawiyi ndinamva (a) ...", "Sindidzaiwala ...". Koma zikuoneka kuti kusankha kalankhulidwe ka mawu pofotokoza zimene zinachitika zingakhudze kwambiri njira ya mankhwala. Wothandizira zaluso Cathy Malchiodi amagawana kafukufuku waposachedwa kwambiri m'derali.
Mwina njira yabwino yochepetsera nkhawa ndiyo kuyankhula, kulemba, ndi kudziwonetsera nokha kudzera muzojambula mopanda munthu woyamba. Mulimonsemo, katswiri wa zamaganizo ndi katswiri wa zaluso Cathy Malchiodi amakhulupirira kuti kusankha kwa mawu omwe timagwiritsa ntchito mu monologues mkati kungakhudze kwambiri chikhalidwe cha maganizo. Malingaliro ake amathandizidwa ndi umboni wasayansi womwe umapatsa othandizira chidziwitso chofunikira kuti agwire ntchito ndi makasitomala kudzera muzolemba ndi zojambulajambula.
Zikuwonekeratu kuti kudzilankhula wekha kuchokera pa "detached" kumathandizira kuwongolera malingaliro. N’chifukwa chiyani zimenezi zikuchitika?
"Ine kapena iwe"?
Kulankhula mwa munthu woyamba kumaphatikizapo kugwiritsa ntchito mawu akuti "ine", "ine", "wanga", "ine". Akatswiri amalangiza kuti m'malo mwawo ndi "inu", "iye (a)", kapena ngakhale dzina lanu.
Malchiodi akupereka chitsanzo cha zokambirana zabwino zamkati zomwe amayendetsa m'mutu mwake asanayambe sewero kuti achepetse mantha a siteji: "Pitiriza, Cathy, upambana. Ndiwe wachinyamata!» Njirayi yakhala ikudziwika kwa othamanga ndi ndale - imagwiritsidwa ntchito pofuna kupititsa patsogolo ntchito ndi kulimbikitsa kudzidalira. Kusiyanasiyana kwa mtundu uwu wa monologue wamkati kumatha kukhala kothandiza muzochitika zina, makamaka zomwe zimakhudza kukumbukira zowawa kapena zochitika zosokoneza.
Kukhala kutali
Maphunziro awiri aposachedwa akuwonetsa momwe njira yosavutayi ingathandizire kudziletsa komanso kuchepetsa nkhawa. Kuyesera koyamba, komwe kunachitika ku Michigan State University, kunatsimikizira kuti kukana kugwiritsa ntchito mawu akuti "Ine", "wanga" ndi zina zotero nthawi zambiri kumabweretsa kuti anthu amayamba kudziona ngati kuchokera kunja - mofanana ndi momwe amaonera ena. .
Izi zimawathandiza kuti azisiyana ndi zochitika zosasangalatsa, kupanga mtunda wamaganizo, chifukwa chake maganizo amatha, mulimonse, izi zimatsimikiziridwa ndi teknoloji yowunikira ubongo yomwe ikukhudzidwa ndi phunziroli.
Kudziganizira nokha mwa munthu wachitatu ndi njira yotsika mtengo yogwirira ntchito ndi malingaliro anu
Kuyesera kwina kunachitika ku Emotion and Self-Control Laboratory ku yunivesite ya Michigan. Pogwiritsa ntchito kujambula kwa magnetic resonance, ofufuzawo adafufuza kusiyana kwa zochitika zaubongo mwa omwe adawonetsa zomwe adakumana nazo. Ophunzira omwe amapewa mawu amunthu woyamba anali ndi gawo lochepa laubongo lomwe limalumikizidwa ndi zokumbukira zosasangalatsa, zomwe zikuwonetsa kuwongolera bwino kwamaganizidwe.
Chifukwa chake, magulu onse ochita kafukufuku adafika pakutsimikiza kuti kudzilankhula nokha mwa munthu wachitatu ndi njira yofikira yogwirira ntchito ndi malingaliro anu.
Gwiritsani ntchito art therapy
Cathy Malchiodi akufunsa funso: Kodi izi zingagwiritsidwe ntchito bwanji, mwachitsanzo, muzojambula zamakono? "Kusintha kuchokera ku nkhani zaumwini kupita ku nkhani za munthu wachitatu kumalola ana ndi akulu kuti athe kuthana ndi zokumbukira zosasangalatsa," akutero. — Mwachitsanzo, ndingathe kupempha mwana kuti andisonyeze nkhawa zake pogwiritsa ntchito chojambula kapena chosema chadongo. Kenako ndimafunsa kuti: Ngati nkhawayi ikanatha kulankhula, ikadati chiyani? Ndimalimbikitsa mwanayo kuti asamakhale kutali ndi zomwe zinachitikira ndikupewa mauthenga a "Ine".
Mofananamo, ndingathe kupempha munthu wamkulu kuti alembe mawu asanu omwe amabwera m'maganizo akamaliza kujambula kapena kudziwonetsera okha mwa kuyenda. Mawu asanuwa amatha kugwiritsa ntchito polemba ndakatulo kapena nkhani yomwe ikufotokoza zomwe adakumana nazo mwa munthu wachitatu.
Njirayo si ya aliyense
Wolembayo akugogomezera kuti nkhani yotereyi yokhudzana ndi zochitika si nthawi zonse njira yabwino kwambiri yopezera zolinga zachipatala. Tikamalankhula za ife eni mwa munthu woyamba, nthawi zambiri zimakhala zosavuta kuti tigwirizane ndi zochitika zina, malingaliro kapena malingaliro, ndipo izi zimatsogolera kupita patsogolo kofulumira komanso kowoneka bwino pogwira ntchito ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo.
Koma pamene cholinga cha gawoli ndi kuthandiza wofuna chithandizo ndi kuwathandiza kuthana ndi maganizo obwera chifukwa cha kupsinjika maganizo, kukumbukira zowawa, kutaya, kapena mavuto ena, kupewa mawu a "Ine" ndi njira yabwino, osachepera nthawi yochepa.
"Akatswiri adzayenera kufufuza mozama kuti ndi njira yanji yolankhulirana yomwe ikugwiritsidwa ntchito bwino kuti athe kuchira, kukhala ndi thanzi labwino komanso kukhala ndi thanzi labwino la odwala," katswiri wa zamaganizo akumaliza.
Za Wolemba: Cathy Malchiodi ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo, katswiri wa zaluso, komanso wolemba zaukadaulo.