Kodi mwawona kuti anthu okondana amayamba kuoneka mosiyana: amawala ndi kufewa, chisangalalo ndi chisangalalo. Katswiri wazachipatala waku China Anna Vladimirova akufotokoza momwe angasungire ndikukulitsa kumverera kwa chikondi choyera m'moyo wabanja. Ziribe kanthu.
Mukakhala m'chikondi ndikuyamba kulankhulana ndi wokondedwa wanu, nthawi iliyonse palimodzi imaperekedwa kwa inu awiri okha. Zilibe kanthu komwe mungapite, choti muchite - iye amakhala ndi malingaliro onse, ndipo ngati muli ndi mwayi, ndizogwirizana. Mumakondwera ndi zomwe amakonda, ndipo fulumirani kugawana zomwe mumakonda.
Patapita kanthawi, moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku umayamba kulamulira: kukangana ndi kusakhutira wina ndi mzake zimawuka. Pang'onopang'ono, chithunzi cha wokondedwa chimakhala chosakongola komanso chachikondi monga poyamba. Ndipo kukuvuta kunyalanyaza. Mukadasunga… Ayi, osati kungopulumutsa, koma kulitsa ndi kukulitsa chikondi choyambirira chowala, kodi mukuganiza kuti moyo ungakhale wokhutiritsa ndi wosangalatsa? Ndikutsimikiza inde!
Anthu omwe ali m'chikondi amakhala okopa kwambiri kwa ena kuposa anthu osakhutira. Amawona zabwino zambiri osati mwa okondedwa okha, komanso m'dziko lonse lapansi. Okonda mawondo akuya nyanja - iwo sazindikira zopinga. Chifukwa chake, ndimapereka masewera olimbitsa thupi osavuta kuti ndikulitse luso la kugwa m'chikondi. Yesani ndipo ndikuganiza mungaikonde.
Yankhani
Mabanja achimwemwe olimba amasiyana ndi ena onse chifukwa amayankhana pafupipafupi kuposa ena. Tangoganizirani momwe zinthu zilili: muli otanganidwa ndi chinthu chofunika kwambiri - kuphika chakudya chamadzulo, kuwerenga buku, kucheza ndi anzanu. Ndipo akuyang'ana pawindo.
“Taonani, mbalame yokongola bwanji,” iye akutero. Kodi mungasiye ntchito yanu, kodi mukufuna kugawana naye mphindi ino? Pali zinthu zambiri zofunika m'nkhaniyi.
Ngati mukufuna kulimbikitsa chikhalidwe chokhala m'chikondi, muyenera kuphunzira kuyankha nthawi zambiri nokha ndikupempha mwaulemu kuyankha kawirikawiri kuchokera kwa mnzanuyo. Sizokhudza kusokoneza moyo wa wina ndi mzake, ntchito kapena kuonera mpira — «komwe ali wofunika kwambiri kwa inu, amuna 11 awa akuthamanga kuzungulira bwalo kapena ine?».
Pamene mukuyesera kukopa chidwi chake pa chinachake, ndipo iye watopa ndi kuphonya mawu, muthandizeni kuyankha. Mupatsenso mwayi wina kuti azolowere kukuchitirani. Ndipo, ndithudi, phunzitsani kulabadira zonena zake zolankhulana.
kuyambukiridwa
Ndili ndi mnzanga amene nthawi zonse amakonda - osati ndi mwamuna yemweyo, koma zilibe kanthu. Amasonyeza chikondi chenicheni moti n’kovuta kuti asatenge matenda. Aliyense wa ife amafunikira bwenzi loterolo kuti tithe "kutuluka" kuchokera kudziko lathu ndikuyang'ana dziko lapansi ndi maso ake. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti mudzafanana ndendende ndi iye, koma posintha mawonekedwe anu, mudzazindikira zambiri muubwenzi wanu.
Sinthani chikondi
M'mafilimu a Disney, nthawi zonse mumakhala kuwala kwachikondi komwe kumapangitsa chithunzicho kukhala chopanda pake komanso chokongola. M'mabuku, m'malo mwake, kuwala kumakhala kozizira kwambiri, kotero kuti n'kosavuta kuzindikira - poyang'aniridwa, pali kumverera kowona.
Choncho ife, kugwa m'chikondi, kuona dziko «pinki chifunga» - ife kupanga chikondi chifaniziro cha wokonda. Ndipo pambuyo pake timatengeka ndi zenizeni ndikujambula "zithunzi za pasipoti", zomwe sizimasangalatsa. Posakhalitsa chimasanduka chizoloŵezi choipa chomwe chimapangitsa kuti ubale ukhale wochepa. Kodi kukonza izo? Ndi zolimbitsa thupi zosavuta.
Choyamba, tengani ulendo wamaganizidwe m'mbuyomu. Iwalani za zaka zomwe mukukhala limodzi ndikulowa mu nthawi yowala kwambiri ya ubale wanu ndi malingaliro. Perekani maminiti pang'ono, lolani kuti kumverera kukhala ndi moyo m'thupi.
Kumbukirani momwe munaganizira munthu ameneyu pamene mumamuganizira. Kodi zimenezi zinachitika mumikhalidwe yotani? Kodi chithunzichi wachibale wanu munachiyika kuti? Ndi kukula kwake kotani? Kodi pali kuwala kotani?
Kumbukirani kuti ndi maola angati patsiku omwe mumaganizira za wokondedwa wanu pamene mudayamba chibwenzi
Tsopano ganizirani momwe mukuganizira mwamuna wanu tsopano. Kodi chithunzicho mumachiyika pati, kukula kwake, kumawala bwanji, kumavala zovala zotani, nkhope yake ndi yotani? Taonani kusiyana pakati pa njira ziwirizi zoganizira munthu amene mumam’konda.
Pangani chithunzi chatsopano chamaganizo cha wokondedwa kuyambira pano. Ikani pamene mudayiyikapo kale. Pangani kukula koyenera, sinthani kuyatsa. Jambulani momwe mudajambulira panthawi yomwe mumakonda kwambiri. Ingokulitsani chithunzicho tsopano.
Ngati mutachita izi mphindi zochepa, mudzapeza kuti mukuyambanso kukondana ndi mwamuna wanu. Poyamba, kumverera uku kungawoneke ngati kwachilendo komanso kosatheka, koma zikutanthauza kuti muyenera kuchitanso pang'ono. Kumbukirani kuti ndi maola angati patsiku omwe mumaganizira za wokondedwa wanu pamene mudayamba chibwenzi - mudadziphunzitsa kuti muzimukonda ndi kumukhumba.
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