Aliyense akhoza kutchula zambiri za "zoyipa" zake zomwe angafune kuti aziwongolera. Wolemba nkhani wathu wa psychotherapist Ilya Latypov amakhulupirira kuti ena amatiwonabe ife eni. Ndipo amatilandira monga momwe tilili.
Pali zinthu ziwiri monyanyira mu lingaliro lathu la momwe anthu ena angatiwerengere bwino. Chimodzi ndi kumverera kuti ndife owonekera kotheratu, permeable, kuti sitingathe kubisa chirichonse. Kumverera poyera kumeneku kumakhala kolimba makamaka mukakhala ndi manyazi kapena kusinthasintha kwake, manyazi - ichi ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zamanyazi.
Koma palinso chinthu china chonyanyira, chogwirizanitsidwa ndi choyamba, lingaliro lakuti timatha kubisala anthu ena zomwe timaopa kapena kuchita manyazi kusonyeza. Kodi mimba yanu imatuluka? Tizikoka bwino ndipo tidzayenda nthawi zonse - palibe amene angazindikire.
Kulephera kulankhula? Tidzayang'anitsitsa mawu athu - ndipo zonse zikhala bwino. Kodi mawu anu amanjenjemera mukamadandaula? "Mopambanitsa" reddening wa nkhope? Osalankhula bwino kwambiri? Antics zoipa? Zonsezi zikhoza kubisika, chifukwa iwo omwe ali pafupi nafe, powona izi, adzatisiya ndithu.
Nkovuta kukhulupirira kuti anthu ena amatichitira zabwino, poona zambiri mwazinthu zathu.
Kuwonjezera pa kulumala, palinso mikhalidwe ya umunthu. Mutha kuchita nawo manyazi ndikubisala mwachangu, pokhulupirira kuti titha kuwapanga kukhala osawoneka.
Dyera kapena kuumira, kukondera kodziwikiratu (makamaka ngati kukhala ndi chidwi ndikofunika kwa ife - ndiye kuti tidzabisala tsankho mosamala kwambiri), kulankhula, kuchita zinthu mopupuluma (izi ndi zamanyazi ngati timaona kudziletsa) - ndi zina zotero, aliyense wa ife akhoza kutchula ochepa. za "zoyipa" zathu zomwe tikuyesera kuwongolera.
Koma palibe chimene chimagwira ntchito. Zili ngati kukoka m'mimba mwako: mumakumbukira kwa mphindi zingapo, kenako chidwi chanu chimasintha, ndipo - oh mantha - mumamuwona pa chithunzi chosasinthika. Ndipo mkazi wokongola uyu adamuwona - ndikukukopanibe!
N’zovuta kukhulupirira kuti anthu ena amatichitira zabwino, poona zinthu zambiri zimene timafuna kubisa. Zikuwoneka kuti amakhala nafe chifukwa timatha kudziletsa - koma izi siziri choncho. Inde, sitichita poyera, koma ndifenso osatheka.
Umunthu wathu, monga momwe uliri kale, ukuchotsedwa kuseri kwa mipiringidzo yonse yomwe yamangidwa kaamba ka icho.
Lingaliro lathu la zomwe tili kwa anthu ena, momwe amatiwonera, ndi momwe ena amatiwonera, ndi zithunzi zosagwirizana. Koma kuzindikira kusiyana kumeneku kumaperekedwa kwa ife movutikira.
Nthawi zina - kudziwona tokha pavidiyo kapena kumva mawu athu mu kujambula - timakumana ndi kusagwirizana kwakukulu pakati pa momwe timadzionera ndi kudzimva tokha - ndi momwe timachitira ena. Koma ndi awa - monga mu kanema - kuti ena amalumikizana.
Mwachitsanzo, ndimaona ngati ndine wodekha komanso wosatekeseka, koma ndikamandiyang’ana kumbali, ndimaona munthu wankhawa, wosakhazikika. Okondedwa athu akuwona ndikudziwa izi - ndipo timakhalabe "athu".
Umunthu wathu, monga momwe uliri kale, umatuluka kumbuyo kwa ma gridi onse omwe amapangidwira, ndipo ndizomwe anzathu ndi achibale athu amachita. Ndipo, modabwitsa, samabalalika ndi mantha.