Atatu ego-likunena: Kholo, Wamkulu, Mwana - moyo aliyense wa ife, koma ngati mmodzi wa atatu «alanda mphamvu», ife mosalephera kutaya lingaliro la chidaliro mumtima ndi chisangalalo moyo. Kuti tipeze mgwirizano ndi kulinganiza zigawo zitatuzi, tiyenera kumvetsetsa pamene tili pansi pa mphamvu ya chimodzi mwa izo.
"Malinga ndi chiphunzitso cha kusanthula kwazinthu, mwa aliyense wa ife pali magawo atatu - Wachikulire, Kholo, Mwana. Uwu ndi mtundu wa malingaliro okonzedwanso komanso ocheperako a Ego, Super-Ego ndi Id ya Sigmund Freud, yomwe ndi yabwino kudalira munthu amene akufuna kugwirizanitsa malingaliro ndi zochita zake, akutero katswiri wa zamaganizo Marina Myaus. “Nthawi zina zinthu zazing’onozi zimatisokoneza mwamachenjera. Zikuwoneka kwa ife kuti tifunika kulimbikitsa chikoka cha Kholo kapena Wamkuluyo, kukhala oganiza bwino, ndiyeno tidzapambana, koma chifukwa cha izi, mawu a Mwana wosasamala sikokwanira.
Tiyeni tiyese kumvetsetsa chilichonse mwa zigawo zofunika zamkati izi.
Kulamulira Kholo
Monga lamulo, chithunzi chophatikizidwa cha anthu akuluakulu omwe anali ovomerezeka kwa ife mu ubwana ndi unyamata: makolo, mabwenzi akuluakulu, aphunzitsi. Komanso, zaka za munthu sizikhala ndi gawo lalikulu. "Ndikofunikira kuti ndi iye amene adatipatsa kumverera: mutha kuchita izi, koma simungathe," akufotokoza motero katswiri wa zamaganizo. "Pamene akukula, zithunzi za anthuwa zimagwirizanitsa, kukhala gawo la Ufulu Wathu." Kholo ndi kuwunika kwamkati mwa aliyense wa ife, chikumbumtima chathu, chomwe chimayika zoletsa zamakhalidwe.
Arina anati: “Mnzangayo anachotsedwa ntchito mopanda chilungamo. — Cholakwa chake chonse chinali chakuti iye anatsutsa moona mtima zochita zosaloledwa za utsogoleri. Aliyense m’gululi anali chete panthawiyo, akuwopa kuchotsedwa ntchito, ndipo inenso sindinamuthandize, ngakhale kuti ankamenyera nkhondo osati zake zokha, komanso ufulu wathu wamba. Ndinadziimba mlandu chifukwa cha kukhala chete kwanga, ndipo pambuyo pake zinthu zinayamba kusintha osati kundikomera. Makasitomala omwe iye ankawayang'anira anakana ntchito za kampani yathu. Ndinalandidwa mphoto ndi ntchito yofunika kwambiri. Zikuwoneka kuti ndili pachiwopsezo chochotsedwa ntchito tsopano. ”
“Nkhani ya Arina ndi chitsanzo chabwino kwambiri cha mmene munthu amene amachita zinthu zosemphana ndi chikumbumtima chake mosazindikira amachitira zinthu zimene amadzilanga yekha. Pankhaniyi, zimayamba kuipiraipira, - Marina Myaus akufotokoza. "Umu ndi momwe Inner Parent imagwirira ntchito."
Nthawi zambiri timadabwa kuti n’chifukwa chiyani anthu ambiri amene amachita zinthu zoipa amalephera? Samangodzimva kuti ali ndi mlandu chifukwa alibe Kholo Lolamulira. Anthu amenewa amakhala opanda malangizo ndi mfundo za makhalidwe abwino, samva chisoni ndipo samadziweruza okha.
Mkulu Wopanda Chisangalalo
Ichi ndi gawo lomveka la "Ine" yathu, yopangidwa kuti ifufuze momwe zinthu zilili ndikupanga zisankho. Akuluakulu ndi kuzindikira kwathu, komwe kumapangitsa kukhala kotheka kukwera pamwamba pa mkhalidwewo, osagonja ku liwongo lomwe Kholo limaika, kapena nkhawa ya Mwana.
"Ichi ndi chithandizo chathu, chomwe chimathandizira kukhalapo kwa malingaliro pazovuta za moyo," akutero katswiri. "Panthawi yomweyi, Mkuluyo amatha kugwirizana ndi Kholo, ndiyeno, chifukwa cha mfundo yomveka bwino, timalandidwa mwayi wolota, kuwona zokondweretsa za moyo, kudzilola tokha chisangalalo."
Mwana Wodzipereka
Zimayimira zikhumbo zomwe zimachokera ku ubwana, sizikhala ndi tanthauzo lililonse, koma zimatipangitsa kukhala osangalala. "Ndilibe kutsimikiza mtima kupita patsogolo komanso kutha kubweretsa chilichonse kumapeto," akuvomereza Elena. - Ndinkafuna kupanga sitolo yapaintaneti kuti ndigulitse ntchito yanga, ndinali kuchita nawo chilengedwe chake usiku komanso kumapeto kwa sabata. Ndinkagwira ntchito masana ndipo ndinkaphunzira usiku. Ndinalibe nthawi yokwanira ya chirichonse, ndinasiya kukumana ndi anzanga ndikupita kwinakwake osati kunyumba, ntchito ndi koleji. Chifukwa cha zimenezi, ndinali wotopa kwambiri moti ndinaganiza zongosiya ntchito ya pa Intaneti, ndipo nditapeza nthawi yochuluka, ndinasiya kuchita nayo chidwi.”
Marina Myaus anati: “Mtsikanayo amaona kuti alibe khama komanso wotsimikiza mtima ngati Mkuluyo, koma vuto n’lakuti Mwanayo amaponderezedwa mwa iye. - Gawo lomwe linalibe moyo ngati tchuthi: kukumana ndi abwenzi, kulankhulana, zosangalatsa. Nthawi zina zimaoneka kwa ife kuti sitingathe kukwaniritsa chinachake chifukwa ndife akhanda kwambiri. Ndipotu, munthu wamakono, akukhala m'dziko la malamulo okhwima ndi kuika maganizo pa kuchita bwino, amangosowa chisangalalo cha Mwana.
Popanda kukwaniritsidwa kwa zokhumba za ana, n'zovuta kupita patsogolo. Ndi Mwana amene amapereka mphamvu ndi yowala mlandu, popanda amene n'zosatheka kukhazikitsa «akuluakulu mapulani» amene amafuna chilango ndi bata.