Kugonana m'malo okhala kwaokha: inde, ayi, sindikudziwa

Pazogonana komanso kudzutsidwa, nkhani ndiyofunikira kwambiri: zomwe zikukuchitikirani pakadali pano. “Ukamamanga nsapato za mwana wako ndipo mnzako akukumenya mbama mofewa, zimakwiyitsa. Ndipo akakukwapulani pamene mukupanga chibwenzi, mumaona kuti ndi kugonana kwenikweni,” analemba motero Emily Nagoski m’buku lakuti How a Woman Wants.

Kusagwirizana pakati pa nkhani ndi dziko nthawi zambiri kumawonekera. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mubwera kuphwando la ana n’kuona mkazi atavala mosapita m’mbali, wodzikongoletsa bwino komanso akukopana ndi abambo, mungakhumudwe chifukwa nkhaniyo (tchuthi la ana) ndi chitsanzo cha khalidwe, mkhalidwe wa munthu winawake sumagwirizana. .

Kudzipatula mokakamizidwa kumakhudzadi nkhani, ndipo maubwenzi athu ogonana akhoza kusokonezeka. Ngati kale ife «moyo» angapo osiyana miyoyo tsiku limodzi - kholo, mkazi, wantchito, wokonda - tsopano ife nthawi zonse mu mkhalidwe womwewo.

Ndizovuta kwambiri, kukhala tsiku lonse mu leggings ndi bun pamutu panu, kukhala nyalugwe wokonda pofika madzulo! Kodi ife «kuyatsa» mkati Monica Bellucci?

Kuchita mogwirizana

"Kuti tisinthe bwino pakati pa mayiko, ndikofunikira kukumbukira nkhaniyo. Dziphunzitseni kuti musinthe machitidwe: "Ndine kholo", "Ndine wokonda", "Ndine mkazi", "Ndine mtsogoleri", "Ndine wantchito," anatero katswiri wa zachiwerewere Maria Shelkova.

M'mikhalidwe yamakono, sikophweka, koma ndi bwino kuyesa. Zingafunike khama, koma kuti zikhale zosavuta, tsatirani malangizo othandiza. Pambuyo pake, nkhaniyo sizochitika zenizeni, komanso chilengedwe chozungulira inu.

"Gawani nyumba yanu kukhala madera omwe chinthu chimodzi chimaloledwa, koma china ndi choletsedwa. Mwachitsanzo, mutha kukambirana mozama kapena tsiku lililonse ndi mwamuna wanu kukhitchini kapena kuofesi, koma musawasamutsire kukagona. Mukatsatira lamulo ili, bedi laukwati lidzakhala kwa inu malo opumula komanso osangalatsa. Ndipo izi zidzakuthandizani kugwirizanitsa udindo wa mbuye - mukakhala m'chipinda chogona, "anatero katswiri.

Chitetezo m'chipinda chogona

Malamulo akulera amakhalabe ofanana ndi asanakhazikitsidwe, koma akuyenera kutsatiridwa mosamalitsa, akukhulupirira Maria Shelkova.

"Mukagwira matenda osasangalatsa, mudzabzala chitetezo chokwanira. Ndipo ngati mwadzidzidzi mutakhala kwaokha mutakumana ndi mnzanu watsopano (mwachitsanzo, pa intaneti kapena pulogalamu yapaintaneti), mufunseni kuti ayeze mayeso a coronavirus. Izi ndizabwinobwino, muzikhala odekha motere, ”adachenjeza katswiriyo.

Ndipo bata ndi chidaliro zidzakuthandizani kumasuka ndi kusangalala.

Musanyalanyaze malamulo otetezera ngakhale mutapeza theka lanu lina kwa nthawi yaitali. Zingamveke ngati zoseketsa, koma kumbukirani: WHO imalimbikitsa kuyeretsa nthawi ndi nthawi m'chipindamo ndi kuwulutsa mpweya.

"Ganizirani za kupha tizilombo toyambitsa matenda m'chipindacho ndi nyali za quartz," katswiri wa zamaganizo akulangiza. Izi sizidzapha chikondi, mosiyana ndi ma virus owopsa ndi mabakiteriya. Kuonjezera apo, mwamuna amene amatenga mop akhoza kudzutsa zilakolako zambiri zatsopano mwa inu.

Nthawi yoyesera china chatsopano

Tinene kuti inu ndi mnzanu muli otanganidwa kwambiri ndi lingaliro lopita kutchuthi mokakamiza pabedi. Ndipo pakali pano ndi nthawi yoti muyese chinthu chomwe simunayesepo kuchita. Maria Shelkova ndi wotsimikiza: lero mukhoza kugula chirichonse, chabwino, kapena pafupifupi chirichonse. Chinthu chachikulu ndikuonetsetsa chitetezo ndikuvomereza zomwe zimaloledwa pamphepete mwa nyanja.

Maria Shelkova amapereka ma hacks angapo a moyo kwa iwo omwe akufuna kupulumuka kudzipatula ndikuthwanima:

1. Tsopano makampani owona zenizeni akukula mwachangu. Mutha kuyitanitsa chisoti cha VR kunyumba ndikuchigwiritsa ntchito kuti mufufuze zomwe zili "zamkulu", kukhala ndi zomwe simukanaziyerekeza m'moyo weniweni. Zowona zenizeni, izi ndizotheka, palibe amene angaweruze - ndi masewera chabe, ndipo kwa ambiri kudzakhala kutulukira kwamalingaliro kowala. Mutha kuyitanitsa zipewa ziwiri ndikusangalala ndi mnzanu.
2. Mutha kuyesa sewero. Chovala chonse chili ndi inu - sinthani mawonekedwe a chisangalalo chanu.
3. Onjezani zoseweretsa zogulitsira zogonana pa intaneti zomwe zakopa chidwi chanu kwanthawi yayitali. Nthawi zambiri pamakhala kufotokozera ndi malangizo kwa oyamba kumene. Angagwiritsidwe ntchito padera, komanso kulimbikitsana kwina panthawi yogonana ndi mnzanu.
4. Kugonana kophimbidwa m'maso kumawonjezera kukhudzidwa kwa tactile: iwo amawala nthawi zambiri.
5. Pomaliza, chifukwa cha chidwi, mutha kuyesa machitidwe opepuka kuchokera ku chikhalidwe cha BDSM. Chofunika kwambiri ndikukumbukira chitetezo. Palibe nkhonya zolimba: pewani malo omwe fupa lili pafupi ndi khungu; mukhoza kukwapula kokha pamene pali minofu yaikulu. Palibe zomangira - malamba ndi malamba okha. Kuti muyesetse mozama, muyenera kuphunzitsidwa mwapadera. Kusamalira wokondedwa wanu ndikutsatira malamulo a BDSM ndizofunikira kwambiri.

Sindikufuna kalikonse!

Zitha kuchitikanso kuti tidayandikira kudzipatula: tidayang'ana zabwino, tidagula zoseweretsa ndi njira zakulera - koma palibe chilakolako ... Popeza tagwa mu mantha, kuyesera kuchita chirichonse "molondola" (pambuyo pake, ndi mwayi waukulu, sitili ofulumira), timayamba kusokoneza wokondedwa wathu kapena tokha.

"Tinagula zoseweretsa - asiyeni aname! Dola yakula, kotero kugula kumakhala kopindulitsa, lolani kutenthetsa moyo. Koma kudzikakamiza tokha kugonana ndi chinthu chovulaza kwambiri chomwe tingachite pa libido. Pasakhale chiwawa pa inu nokha ndi ena mwachikondi! Inde, nthawi zina chilakolako chimadza ndi kudya, koma sikuti ndikumenyana ndi inu nokha ndikukakamiza okondedwa anu, "akutero katswiri.

Kodi tiyenera kuchita chiyani ngati pakali pano, pamene, zingawoneke, ndi nthawi ya mpikisano wachikondi, sitikumva ngati zilakolako za ku Africa konse?

“Panthawi yovuta, chisamaliro ndi chitetezo ndizofunikira. Pali njira zambiri zodzisamalira nokha ndi ena popanda coitus, "akukumbutsa motero Maria Shelkova.

Tikhoza kungosisita wokondedwa wathu, kukanda kumbuyo kwa khutu lake, kukumbatira pansi pa bulangeti, kutolera mabuku omwe timakonda. Kuvina ku "zovala zamkati zomwezo." Ndipo kaya kulowa kapena ayi, sikofunika kwambiri. “Tikadzipatsa tokha ufulu wofuna kugonana, tiyenera kupereka ufulu kwa okondedwa athu osafuna kugonana, mosiyana. Kupanda kutero, ufulu wathu ulibe phindu, "Maria Shelkova akutsimikiza.