Zamkatimu
M'dziko lamakono, pamene tikufuna bwenzi wangwiro, ife kukonza kuponya mu chibwenzi ntchito, kugonana «kwa thanzi» kapena «mulibe chochita. Kodi kulumikizana koteroko ndi koopsa kapena kothandiza bwanji kwa mkazi? Kodi adzapereka mphamvu kapena, mosiyana, adzachotsa zotsirizirazo? Katswiri wa zamankhwala akum'maŵa akufotokoza maganizo ake.
Pali nthano zambiri ndi nthano zokhudzana ndi mphamvu ya kugonana: wina amanena kuti kugonana "kwa thanzi" kumalimbitsa ndipo kumapatsa mkazi chidaliro. Otsutsa lingaliro ili amatsutsa kuti mwamuna "amadyetsa" mphamvu zachikazi. Imodzi mwa nthano zowala kwambiri ndi za "worm mphamvu", yomwe mwamuna wonyenga amaika m'thupi la mkazi, ndipo amapopa mphamvu zake kwa zaka zisanu ndi ziwiri, ndikuzitumiza kwa mwiniwake.
Komabe, zochitika zenizeni zimasonyeza kuti ngati mkazi alowa mu maubwenzi apamtima osakhalitsa, ndiye kuti akhoza kukhala ndi ziwonetsero zazikulu ndi zotsatira zowonjezeretsa, ndikumva kukhumudwa ndi kukhumudwa. Momwe mungamvetsetse zomwe zingakubweretsereni kugonana mwachisawawa?
Mwambo wa Taoist umachokera ku lingaliro lakuti anthu ali ndi chi mphamvu - "mafuta" omwe "timagwira ntchito". Chifukwa chake, njira yoyamba yofotokozedwera ndikupeza mphamvu zowonjezera za qi ndikuwongolera kufalikira kwake, ndipo chachiwiri, m'malo mwake, ndikutayika kwa qi.
maganizo chinthu
Ngati mkazi ali ndi mantha aliwonse asanalowe mu chiyanjano chogonana, ndiye kuti chikhalidwe chamaganizo chidzadya nyonga. "Ndigona naye - bwanji ngati si chikondi?", "Ngati ndiyamba kukondana, koma satero?", "Ndimakana, ndipo akuganiza kuti ndikuzizira", "Mwadzidzi izi " yemweyo ", ndipo ndidzamusowa? - malingaliro mamiliyoni ambiri pamutuwu atha kukulepheretsani chisangalalo panthawi yaubwenzi, isanachitike komanso itatha.
Zoyenera kuchita? Ambiri mwa manthawa amazikidwa pa kudzikayikira, komwe kumachitidwa bwino ndi ntchito zamaganizo. Mwachitsanzo, mutha kuyamba ndi zolemba kapena masemina kuti mukhale odzidalira. Ntchito yanu ndikuchotsa kusatsimikizika ndi kukayikira, phunzirani kumvera nokha ndikumvetsetsa ngati mukufuna ubale wapamtima panthawiyo kapena ayi. Mukapanga malingaliro anu, mudzatha kulowa nawo paulendowu ndi mutu wanu - popanda nkhawa zosafunikira zamtsogolo, zomwe zingasinthe pafupifupi chochitika chilichonse chabwino kukhala chodetsa nkhawa kwambiri.
mphamvu mphamvu
Malingana ndi mankhwala a Taoist, thanzi limadalira kuchuluka kwa qi ndi ubwino wa kayendedwe kake. Mwachidule, ngati munthu ali ndi mphamvu zambiri ndipo amatha kuzungulira thupi momasuka - ndiko kuti, thupi "likuyenda", laulere komanso losinthika - ali ndi zida zambiri zopezera mphamvu zowonjezera. M'dziko lazachuma, pali fanizo losavuta komanso lomveka bwino - ndalama ndi ndalama. Ndi mphamvu ku mphamvu.
Choncho, ngati nonse inu ndi mnzanuyo mugonana mu mphamvu ndi osangalala boma, ndiye ndondomeko adzabweretsa zonse mphamvu yowonjezera. Kwa anthu odzazidwa, amphamvu, kugonana ndi kokongola, kosangalatsa komanso kosangalatsa. Iwo amalowa mu chikhalidwe chowala kwambiri, chopatsa thanzi komanso cholemeretsa. Pambuyo pa kukhudzana koteroko, pamakhala kukwera kwa mphamvu ndi mphamvu.
Ngati mkazi ali mumkhalidwe wowonongeka, kugonana kumangotenga mphamvu zowonjezera
Njira yosiyana: mkaziyo akumva kusungulumwa, wachisoni, wosokonezeka, sadziwa choti achite. “Zonsezi zachitika chifukwa cha kusowa kwa kugonana,” mabwenzi osamala akutero. Ndipo amasankha kukonza mkhalidwe wake mothandizidwa ndi kulumikizana kwakanthawi. Mwachibadwa, mumkhalidwe wowonongeka wotere, kugonana kudzatenga mphamvu zowonjezera - ndipo sizidzatha kukwaniritsa zoyembekeza.
Zoyenera kuchita? Apa ndipamene lingaliro la "kudzisamalira" limayamba kugwira ntchito. Kuchita nawo zochitika zogonana kuti mugwiritse ntchito ngati mankhwala ndizowopsa zosangalatsa zosangalatsa. Pali njira zingapo zotetezeka zowonjezera mphamvu zanu, kutenthetsa kugonana kwanu ndikuwonjezera moto pamawonekedwe anu. Choyamba - zosiyanasiyana kutikita minofu, spa mankhwala, ulesi zochita.
Kudekha ndi chidaliro mu gawo la kugonana kudzalola osati kungosangalala ndi kugonana, komanso kupeza munthu wokwatirana naye
Njira yofulumira kwambiri ya "kutentha" kwa kugonana kotereku ndi machitidwe a Taoist achikazi: masewera olimbitsa thupi omwe amabweretsa mphamvu zambiri m'thupi ndikusintha kayendedwe kake, makamaka m'dera la pelvic. Chifukwa cha izi, libido, kukhudzika ndi kukhudzidwa kumawonjezeka. Azimayi ambiri amanena kuti mphamvu zawo zikawonjezeka, chikhulupiliro chawo chimakulanso - choncho nthawi zina, machitidwe a Taoist amatha kusintha kugwira ntchito ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo.
Inde, izi sizikutanthauza kuti akazi onse ayenera kugonana ndi zibwenzi zingapo. Koma bata ndi chidaliro mu gawo la kugonana, kumvetsa zomwe kwenikweni ndi chifukwa chake mukufunikira izo, zidzakulolani kuti musamangokhalira kusangalala ndi kugonana, komanso kupeza moyo wanu wokwatirana naye. Pambuyo pake, posachedwa mudzakonda wina, ndipo mudzafuna kugonana naye. Ndipo ubalewu udzakhala wautali bwanji, moyo udzawonekera.