Achinyamata ndi nthawi yomwe mwana wamwamuna (mtsikana) amapeza zachiwerewere. Zomwe amakonda (zomwe amakonda), thupi lake, komanso kuseweretsa maliseche ndi chimodzi mwazo. Makolo omwe amalowa kuchipinda chawo kapena kuchimbudzi osagogoda amayenera kuganiziranso zizolowezi zawo, chifukwa achinyamatawa amafunika kukhala panokha. Ndi zachilendo kuti msinkhu uno, amaganiza za izi, amayesa, ndikusinthana zambiri zokhudzana ndi kugonana.

Kwa zaka mazana angapo, kuseweretsa maliseche kwakhala koletsedwa ndi maphunziro achipembedzo. Chilichonse chokhudzana ndi kugonana, kuphatikizapo maliseche, chimaonedwa ngati chonyansa komanso choletsedwa kunja kwa banja. Kugonana kunali kothandiza pobereka, koma mawu oti chisangalalo sanali gawo lanthawiyi.

Kumasulidwa kwa kugonana pa Meyi 68 kunamasula matupi ndi maliseche kukhala chizolowezi chachilengedwe, kupezeka kwa thupi komanso kugonana. Kwa amayi ndi abambo. Ndikofunikira kukumbukira izi chifukwa mzaka zaposachedwa chisangalalo chachikazi chidayikidwa pambali.

Makalasi ophunzitsira zakugonana kusukulu amapereka chidziwitso chachidule kwambiri. "Timayankhula za kubereka, maliseche, matupi, koma kugonana ndizochulukirapo" akutero Andrea Cauchoix, mphunzitsi wachikondi. Achinyamata chifukwa chake amapezeka akusinthana zinsinsi zomwe nthawi zambiri zimatengedwa m'mafilimu zolaula zomwe sizimabweretsa chisangalalo, chikondi, ulemu kwa wokondedwa wawo.

"Mibadwo yonse, sizovuta kunena za kugonana ndi makolo anu, ngakhale mutakhala achinyamata". Makolo ali ndi udindo woyamba kusewera kuyambira adakali ana. Mnyamata kapena msungwanayo akayamba "kugwira" ndipo (iye) apeza kuti madera ena ndiosangalatsa kuposa ena. “Koposa zonse, simuyenera kuwaletsa kapena kuwauza kuti ndi zauve. Osatengera izi, ndi umboni wa thanzi lamisili komanso chitukuko. Ali ndi zaka 4/5, amatha kumvetsetsa kuti ziyenera kuchitika ali okha ”. Ana amatha kuganiza mwachangu za kuseweretsa maliseche ngati chinthu choletsedwa komanso choyipa ngati atadzudzulidwa.

"Popanda kulowerera, makolo amangouza wachinyamata kuti ngati ali ndi mafunso kapena mavuto, alipo kuti akambirane." Chiganizo chophwekachi chikhoza kutsimikizira kuseweretsa maliseche ndikuwonetsa kuti nkhaniyi siyabwino.

Mafilimu "American pie" ndi chitsanzo chabwino cha bambo yemwe amayesa kukambirana ndi mwana wake yemwe amagwiritsa ntchito ma pie apulo kuseweretsa maliseche. Amachita manyazi kwambiri abambo ake akabweretsa nkhaniyi, koma akakula amazindikira mwayi womwe anali nawo wokhala ndi abambo omwe amamvera.

Mukalemba m'mawu osakira atsikana maliseche pazinjini zosakira, mwatsoka masamba zolaula amayamba.

Komabe, mabuku a ana amapereka ntchito zosangalatsa. Kwa asanakwanitse zaka khumi, "chitsogozo cha zizi zakugonana" kutulutsa kwatsopano ndi Hélène Bruller ndi Zep, wopanga wotchuka wa "Titeuf" ndiye wotchulidwa, woseketsa komanso wophunzitsa. Koma palinso "Sexperience" lolembedwa ndi IsabelleFILLIOZAT ndi Margot FRIED-FILLIOZAT, Le Grand Livre de la unamwali lolembedwa ndi Catherine SOLANO, The Sexuality of Girls Explained to Dummies lolembedwa ndi Marie Golotte ndi ena ambiri.

Izi zomwe zimapangitsa azimayi kuseweretsa maliseche zimalimbikitsa kusazindikira kwa atsikana achichepere mokhudzana ndi matupi awo. Imachepetsa chisangalalo pakugonana ndi bwenzi, ndipo atsikana achichepere amapeza chisangalalo pokhapokha izi. Kumaliseche, nkongo, anus, nyini, ndi zina zotero. Mawu onsewa amangotchulidwa nthawi imeneyi, kapena kufunsa ndi mayi wazachipatala. Nanga bwanji zosangalatsa popanda zonsezi?

Ndikofunika kudziwa kuti amayi ambiri amadziseweretsa maliseche. Izi ndizabwinobwino ndipo sizolakwika konse.

Malinga ndi kafukufuku wa IFOP, wopangidwa ndi magaziniyi Chisangalalo chachikazi, ndi akazi 913, azaka 18 ndi kupitirira. 74% ya omwe adafunsidwa mu 2017 adati adali ndi maliseche kale.

Poyerekeza, ndi 19% okha omwe ananena zomwezo m'ma 70s.

Kumbali ya amuna, 73% ya amuna adalengeza m'mbuyomu kuti adadzikhudza kale motsutsana ndi 95% lero.

Pafupifupi 41% ya azimayi aku France akuti adakwanitsa kuseweretsa maliseche kamodzi pamyezi itatu isanachitike kafukufukuyu. Kwa 19%, nthawi yomaliza idapitilira chaka chapitacho ndipo 25% akuti sanasangalalepo m'moyo wawo.

Kafukufuku wosowa kawirikawiri, yemwe akuwonetsa kufunikira kwakudziwa kwa atsikana achichepere kuti athe kukweza, zomwe zilipo, pa maliseche achikazi.