Psychology

Kusiya zomwe unayamba ndi zoipa. Takhala tikumva za izi kuyambira tili ana. Izi zikukamba za khalidwe lofooka ndi kusakhazikika. Komabe, katswiri wa zamaganizo Amy Morin amakhulupirira kuti kutha kuyimitsa nthawi ndi chizindikiro cha umunthu wamphamvu. Amalankhula za zitsanzo zisanu pamene kusiya zomwe munayambitsa sizingatheke, komanso ndizofunikira.

Kudziimba mlandu kumavutitsa anthu amene satsatira. Komanso, nthawi zambiri amachita manyazi kuvomereza. Ndipotu, kusafuna kumamatira ku zolinga zosayembekezereka kumasiyanitsa anthu osinthasintha maganizo ndi ofooka. Ndiye mungasiye liti zomwe munayamba?

1. Pamene zolinga zanu zasintha

Pamene tikukula pamwamba pa ife, timayesetsa kukhala abwino. Izi zikutanthauza kuti zomwe timayika patsogolo ndi zolinga zathu zikusintha. Ntchito zatsopano zimafunikira zatsopano, kotero nthawi zina muyenera kusintha gawo la zochitika kapena zizolowezi zanu kuti mupange nthawi, malo ndi mphamvu zatsopano. Pamene mukusintha, mumakula kuposa zolinga zanu zakale. Komabe, musasiye zomwe munayamba nthawi zambiri. Ndi bwino kupenda zomwe zili zofunika kwambiri panopa ndikuyesera kusintha zolinga zakale kuti zigwirizane nazo.

2. Zomwe mumachita zikasemphana ndi zomwe mumakonda

Nthawi zina, kuti mukwezedwe kapena kuchita bwino, mumapatsidwa mwayi wochita zomwe mukuganiza kuti ndi zolakwika. Anthu amene sadzikayikira amagonja ku chitsenderezo ndi kuchita zimene akuluakulu awo kapena mikhalidwe imafuna kwa iwo. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, amavutika, amadandaula komanso amadandaula za kupanda chilungamo kwa dziko. Anthu onse, okhwima maganizo amadziŵa kuti moyo wachipambano chenicheni ungatheke kokha ngati mukukhala mogwirizana ndi inu eni ndipo osalolera molakwa mfundo zanuzanu kaamba ka phindu.

Mwamsanga mutasiya kuwononga nthawi ndi ndalama, m’pamenenso mumatha kutaya.

Kufunitsitsa kukhala ndi cholinga nthawi zambiri kumakuchititsani kuganiziranso zinthu zofunika kwambiri pamoyo wanu. Chinachake chiyenera kusinthidwa ngati ntchito ikutenga nthawi yochuluka ndi mphamvu kuchokera kwa inu, ngati simusamala za banja ndi zokonda, musazindikire mwayi watsopano ndipo musamaganizire za thanzi lanu. Osachepetsa zomwe zili zofunika kwambiri kwa inu kuti mutsimikizire nokha kapena ena kuti simudzasiya theka.

3. Pamene zotsatira zake sizili zoyenera kuyesetsa kukwaniritsa

Chimodzi mwa zizindikiro za umunthu wamphamvu ndikudzifunsa nokha: Kodi mapeto anga amavomereza njira? Iwo omwe ali amphamvu mumzimu samazengereza kuvomereza kuti ayimitsa ntchitoyo chifukwa adadziyesa mopambanitsa mphamvu zawo ndipo zida zambiri zimafunikira kuti akwaniritse dongosololi.

Mwina mwaganiza zochepetsera thupi kapena kupanga ndalama zokwana madola 100 pamwezi kuposa kale. Pamene mumakonzekera, zonse zinkawoneka zosavuta. Komabe, pamene munayamba kupita ku cholingacho, zinaonekeratu kuti pali zofooka zambiri ndi zovuta. Ngati mukukomoka ndi njala chifukwa cha zakudya zanu, kapena ngati simugona mokwanira kuti mupeze ndalama zowonjezera, zingakhale bwino kusiya dongosololi.

4.Mukakhala pamavuto

Chinthu chokhacho choipa kuposa kukhala m’sitima yomira n’chakuti mudakali m’ngalawamo, mukudikirira kuti chombocho chimire. Ngati zinthu sizikuyenda bwino, ndi bwino kuzimitsa zinthu zisanathe.

Kuyimitsa sikugonjetsa, koma kusintha kokha kwa njira ndi njira

Ndizovuta kuvomereza kulakwitsa kwanu, anthu amphamvu kwambiri amatha. Mwina munaika ndalama zanu zonse m’bizinesi yopanda phindu kapena munathera maola mazana ambiri pa ntchito imene inakhala yopanda phindu. Komabe, ndizopanda pake kubwerezanso kuti: "Ndaika ndalama zambiri kuti ndisiye." Mwamsanga mutasiya kuwononga nthawi ndi ndalama, m’pamenenso mumatha kutaya. Izi zikugwira ntchito ku ntchito ndi maubwenzi.

5. Mtengo ukapitilira zotsatira

Anthu amphamvu amawerengera kuopsa kokhudzana ndi kukwaniritsa cholinga. Amayang'anira ndalama zomwe zimagwiritsidwa ntchito ndipo amachoka ndalama zikangowonjezera ndalama zomwe amapeza. Izi sizimagwira ntchito kokha. Ngati mumayika ndalama muubwenzi (ubwenzi kapena chikondi) kuposa momwe mumalandira, ganizirani ngati mukuzifuna? Ndipo ngati cholinga chanu chikuchotsa thanzi, ndalama ndi maubwenzi, ziyenera kuganiziridwanso.

Kodi mumapanga bwanji chisankho chosiya zomwe munayamba?

Kusankha koteroko sikophweka. Siziyenera kutengedwa mwachangu. Kumbukirani kuti kutopa ndi kukhumudwa si chifukwa chosiyira zomwe munayamba. Unikani zabwino ndi zoyipa zomwe mwasankha. Chilichonse chomwe mungasankhe, kumbukirani kuti kuyimitsa sikugonja, koma kungosintha njira ndi njira.

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