Zamkatimu
- Florence, mayi wa Théo, wazaka 9: "Kukhala amayi kunali kodziwikiratu, koma ndimadziwa kuti moyo watsiku ndi tsiku ungafune malangizo ..."
- Jessica, mayi wa Melyna, wa miyezi 10: “Pang’ono ndi pang’ono ndinadziona ngati mayi.”
- Antinea, mayi wa Alban ndi Titouan, wazaka 7, ndi Heloïse, wa miyezi 18: “Ndi nkhani ya moyo wanga, osati ya munthu wolumala.”
- Valérie, mayi wa Lola, wazaka 3: “Pa kubadwa, ndinaumirira kusunga chothandizira kumva, ndinafuna kumva kulira kwa Lola koyamba.
Florence, mayi wa Théo, wazaka 9: "Kukhala amayi kunali kodziwikiratu, koma ndimadziwa kuti moyo watsiku ndi tsiku ungafune malangizo ..."
“Zinatengera chikondi chochuluka, kupirira kwakuthupi ndi m’maganizo kotero kuti thupi langa lofooka litha kuchirikiza mimba. Panafunikanso luso lapamwamba, kuti tigonjetse mawu onyoza nthaŵi zina a alendo kapena akatswiri a zaumoyo. Potsirizira pake, ndinavomereza kupendedwa kwanthaŵi yaitali kwa majini ndi kuyang’aniridwa mosamalitsa zachipatala, kuti ndikwaniritse chinthu chokongola kwambiri padziko lapansi: kupereka moyo. Sizinali zosatheka kapena zoopsa. Komabe, zinali zovuta kwambiri kwa mkazi ngati ine. Ndili ndi matenda a mafupa a galasi. Ndili ndi mayendedwe anga onse, koma miyendo yanga imathyoka ngati amayenera kuthandizira kulemera kwa thupi langa. Chifukwa chake ndimagwiritsa ntchito njinga ya olumala ndikuyendetsa galimoto yosinthidwa. Chikhumbo chokhala mayi ndi kuyambitsa banja chinali champhamvu kwambiri kuposa vuto lililonse.
Théo anabadwa, wokongola kwambiri, chuma chimene ndinalingalira pa kulira kwake koyamba. Popeza ndinakana opaleshoni yamankhwala, ndinapindula ndi opaleshoni ya msana yomwe, kwa ine komanso ngakhale luso la akatswiri, siligwira ntchito molondola. Ndinangoti dzanzi mbali imodzi. Kuvutika kumeneku kunalipidwa pokumana ndi Theo komanso chisangalalo changa chokhala mayi. Mayi yemwenso amanyadira kwambiri kuti atha kuyamwitsa m'thupi lomwe adayankha bwino! Ndinasamalira Theo popanga nzeru zambiri komanso kuyanjana pakati pathu. Pamene anali khanda, ndinamuvala mu legeni, ndiye atakhala pansi, ndinamumanga kwa ine lamba, ngati mu ndege! Chachikulu, adatcha "galimoto yosintha", galimoto yanga yosinthika yokhala ndi mkono wosunthika ...
Théo tsopano ali ndi zaka 9. Iye ndi wokonda, wokonda chidwi, wanzeru, wadyera, wachifundo. Ndimakonda kumuwona akuthamanga ndikuseka. Ndimakonda momwe amandiwonera. Masiku ano, iyenso ndi mchimwene wake wamkulu. Apanso, ndili ndi mwamuna wodabwitsa, ndinali ndi mwayi wobala kamtsikana kakang'ono. Ulendo watsopano umayamba kubanja lathu losakanikirana komanso logwirizana. Mucikozyanyo, mu 2010, ndakacita bulwazi bwa Handiparentalité *, mumbungano ya Papillon de Bordeaux center, kutegwa ndigwasye bazyali bamwi ibajisi bulwazi bwamafwumofwumo. Pa mimba yanga yoyamba, nthawi zina ndinkasowa chochita chifukwa chosowa chidziwitso kapena kugawana nawo. Ndinkafuna kukonza pa sikelo yanga.
Mgwirizano wathu, motsutsana ndi maziko a chidziwitso cha olumala, ntchito ndi kampeni yodziwitsa anthu, amapereka chithandizo zambiri ndikuthandizira makolo olumala. Ku France konse, amayi athu otumizirana mauthenga amadzipangitsa kukhala opezeka kuti amvetsere, kudziwitsa, kutsimikizira, kukweza mabuleki olemala ndikuwongolera anthu omwe akufuna. Ndife amayi mosiyana, koma amayi koposa zonse! “
* Bungwe la Handiparentalité limadziwitsa ndi kuthandizira makolo olumala. Imaperekanso ngongole ya zida zosinthidwa.
“Kwa ine, sikunali kosatheka kapena koopsa kubereka. Koma zinali zovuta kwambiri kuposa mkazi wina. ”
Jessica, mayi wa Melyna, wa miyezi 10: “Pang’ono ndi pang’ono ndinadziona ngati mayi.”
"Ndinakhala ndi pakati pa mwezi umodzi ... Kukhala mayi inali gawo la moyo wanga ngakhale kuti ndinali wolumala! Mwamsanga kwambiri, ndinayenera kupuma ndi kuchepetsa mayendedwe anga. Ndinapita padera poyamba. Ndinkakayikira kwambiri. Ndiyeno patapita miyezi 18, ndinakhalanso ndi pakati. Ngakhale kuti ndinali ndi nkhawa, ndinadzimva wokonzeka m’mutu komanso m’thupi mwanga.
Masabata angapo oyambirira atabereka anali ovuta. Chifukwa chosadzidalira. Ndinapatsa ntchito zambiri, ndinali wowonera. Chifukwa cha opaleshoni komanso kupunduka kwa mkono wanga, sindinathe kutenga mwana wanga wamkazi kuchipinda cha amayi oyembekezera pamene anali kulira. Ndinamuona akulira ndipo palibe chomwe ndingachite kupatula kumuyang'ana.
Pang’ono ndi pang’ono, ndinadziika kukhala mayi. Inde, ndili ndi malire. Sindichita zinthu mwachangu. Ndimatenga "thukuta" kwambiri tsiku lililonse ndikasintha Melyna. Akamakwinya zimatha kutenga mphindi 30, ndipo ngati mphindi 20 pambuyo pake ndiyenera kuyambiranso, ndataya 500g! Kumudyetsa ngati wasankha kumenya ndi supuni kulinso masewera: sindingathe kulimbana ndi dzanja limodzi! Ndiyenera kusintha ndikupeza njira zina zochitira zinthu. Koma ndidazindikira luso langa: Ndimathanso kusambitsa ndekha! Ndizowona, sindingathe kuchita zonse, koma ndili ndi mphamvu zanga: Ndimamvetsera, ndimaseka naye kwambiri, timasangalala kwambiri. “
Antinea, mayi wa Alban ndi Titouan, wazaka 7, ndi Heloïse, wa miyezi 18: “Ndi nkhani ya moyo wanga, osati ya munthu wolumala.”
“Pamene ndinali woyembekezera mapasa anga, ndinadzifunsa mafunso ambiri. Kodi kunyamula mwana wakhanda, mmene kusamba? Amayi onse amafufuza, koma amayi olumala kwambiri, chifukwa zida sizili zoyenera nthawi zonse. Achibale ena “atsutsa” mimba yanga. Mucikozyanyo, bakali kuyanda kuzyiba mbondikonzya kuba bamaama, bakaamba kuti, “Uli mwana, ulacita buti kumwana? »Umayi nthawi zambiri umayika kulumala patsogolo, kutsatiridwa ndi nkhawa, kudziimba mlandu kapena kukayika.
Ndili ndi pakati palibe amene adandiyankhanso. Zoonadi, ndi ana amapasa banja langa linali ndi nkhawa za ine, koma iwo anafika pokhala athanzi ndipo inenso ndinali bwino.
Bambo a mapasawo anamwalira ndi matenda patapita nthawi. Ndinapitiriza ndi moyo wanga. Kenako ndinakumana ndi mwamuna wanga panopa, analandira mapasa anga ngati ake ndipo tinkafuna mwana wina. Abambo a ana anga akhala anthu odabwitsa. Héloïse anabadwa wopanda nkhawa, nthawi yomweyo anayamwa mwachibadwa, mwachiwonekere. Kuyamwitsa nthawi zambiri kumakhala kovuta kwambiri kulandira kuchokera kunja, ndi omwe akuzungulirani.
Pamapeto pake, zimene ndinakumana nazo n’zakuti sindinasiye zilakolako zanga zakuya za umayi. Masiku ano, palibe amene amakayikira kuti zimene ndinasankha zinali zolondola. “
“Umayi nthawi zambiri umabweretsa kulumala patsogolo, ndikutsatiridwa ndi nkhawa, kudziimba mlandu kapena kukayikira kwa aliyense. “
Valérie, mayi wa Lola, wazaka 3: “Pa kubadwa, ndinaumirira kusunga chothandizira kumva, ndinafuna kumva kulira kwa Lola koyamba.
"Ndinali wovuta kwambiri kumva kuyambira nditabadwa, akudwala Waardenburg syndrome mtundu 2, wopezeka pambuyo pa kafukufuku wa DNA. Pamene ndinakhala ndi pakati, panali malingaliro achimwemwe ndi chikhutiro pamodzi ndi nkhaŵa ndi mantha ponena za chiwopsezo chachikulu chopatsira ugontha kwa mwana wanga. Chiyambi cha mimba yanga chidadziwika chifukwa chosiyana ndi abambo. Poyambirira, ndinadziwa kuti ndidzakhala ndi mwana wamkazi. Mimba yanga inali kuyenda bwino. Pamene tsiku lodziwika bwino lofika likuyandikira, m'pamenenso kusaleza mtima kwanga ndi mantha anga okumana ndi kamwana aka. Ndinkada nkhawa ndi lingaliro lakuti angakhale wogontha, komanso kuti ine ndekha sindimamva bwino gulu lachipatala pa nthawi yobereka, yomwe ndinkafuna pansi pa epidural. Azamba a pawodi anandithandiza kwambiri, ndipo banja langa linakhudzidwa kwambiri.
Kubereka kunali kwa nthawi yaitali moti ndinakhala m’chipatala cha amayi oyembekezera kwa masiku awiri osabereka. Pa tsiku lachitatu, opaleshoni yodzidzimutsa idasankhidwa. Ndinachita mantha chifukwa gululo, litapatsidwa ndondomeko, linandifotokozera kuti sindingathe kusunga chithandizo changa chakumva. Zinali zosamvetsetseka kuti sindinamve kulira koyamba kwa mwana wanga wamkazi. Ndinalongosola kuvutika kwanga ndipo ndinatha kusunga prosthesis yanga pambuyo popha tizilombo toyambitsa matenda. Nditatonthozedwa, ndinatulutsabe mkhalidwe wodziŵika bwino wa kupsinjika maganizo. Wondigonetsa, kuti anditsitsimutse, anandionetsa ma tatoo ake, zomwe zinandipangitsa kumwetulira; gulu lonse la block linali losangalala kwambiri, anthu awiri akuvina ndikuyimba kuti mlengalenga ukhale wosangalatsa. Ndiyeno, wodwala opaleshoni, akugwedeza mphumi yanga, anandiuza kuti: "Tsopano ukhoza kuseka kapena kulira, ndiwe mayi wokongola". Ndipo zomwe ndidakhala ndikudikirira miyezi yayitali yodabwitsayi ya mimba yokwanira idachitika: Ndinamva mwana wanga wamkazi. Ndi zimenezotu, ndinali mayi. Moyo wanga unakhala ndi tanthauzo latsopano pamaso pa chodabwitsa ichi cholemera 4,121 kg. Koposa zonse, anali bwino ndipo ankamva bwino kwambiri. Ndikhoza kukhala wokondwa ...
Lero, Lola ndi mtsikana wokondwa. Chakhala chifukwa changa chokhala ndi moyo komanso chifukwa chomenyera nkhondo yanga yogontha, yomwe ikuchepa pang'onopang'ono. Komanso kudzipereka kwambiri, ndikutsogolera msonkhano wodziwitsa anthu za chinenero chamanja, chinenero chomwe ndikufuna kugawana nawo zambiri. Chinenerochi chimapangitsa kulankhulana kwabwino kwambiri! Zitha kukhala mwachitsanzo njira yowonjezera yothandizira chiganizo chovuta kufotokoza. Mwa ana aang’ono, ndi chida chosangalatsa chowalola kulankhula ndi ena pamene akudikirira chinenero chapakamwa. Potsirizira pake, amathandiza kuzindikira malingaliro ena mwa mwana wake, mwa kuphunzira kumuona mosiyana. Ndimakonda lingaliro ili lolimbikitsa kukhazikitsidwa kwa ubale wosiyana pakati pa makolo ndi ana. ”
"Wothandizira opaleshoni, akundisisita pamphumi, anandiuza kuti: 'Tsopano ukhoza kuseka kapena kulira, ndiwe mayi wokongola". “