Kugonana mosadziteteza: chifukwa chiyani timasankha

Asayansi ochokera ku yunivesite ya Indiana adafufuza momwe amaonera zoletsa kulera. Mayi wachiwiri aliyense adavomereza kuti sasangalala ndi kugonana ngati wokondedwa wake sagwiritsa ntchito kondomu. Zomwe, kawirikawiri, sizosadabwitsa: tikamadandaula za chiopsezo chotenga mimba kapena kutenga kachilomboka, sitingathe kufika pa orgasm.

Ambiri - 80% mwa omwe adafunsidwa - adavomereza kuti makondomu amafunika, koma theka la iwo adagwiritsa ntchito pogonana komaliza. Sitisangalala ndi kugonana kosadziteteza, koma timapitirizabe.

Anthu 40 pa XNUMX aliwonse omwe sanagwiritse ntchito kondomu nthawi yomaliza yogonana sanakambirane ndi okondedwa awo. Ndipo pakati pa maanja omwe angopangidwa kumene, awiri mwa atatu adasiya kugwiritsa ntchito makondomu patatha mwezi umodzi ali pachibwenzi, ndipo mu theka la milanduyo, okwatirana amakambirana za izi.

N’chifukwa chiyani timakana kulera?

1. Kusadzilemekeza

Tangoganizani: mkati mwawonetsero wachikondi, funsani mnzanuyo ngati ali ndi kondomu, ndipo adzakuyang'anani modabwa. Iye alibe kondomu, ndipo ambiri - kodi zinabweranso m'maganizo mwanu? Muli ndi njira ziwiri: sinthani (kamodzi kokha!) kapena nenani, "Osati lero, wokondedwa." Yankho limadalira kwambiri mfundo zanu.

Tinene kuti mfundo zanu ndi kupanga chikondi popanda kondomu pokhapokha mwamuna atabweretsa chiphaso kwa dokotala, ndipo inu kuyamba kulera. Kuti muteteze, muyenera kulimba mtima ndi kudzidalira. Mwina simumasuka kuyambitsa makambirano oterowo kapena mukuwopa kuluza ngati muumirira nokha.

Ndipo komabe inu muyenera kufotokoza maganizo anu kwa amuna. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, yesetsani kuti musayang'ane mwaukali, wokwiya kapena wotsimikiza kwambiri. Muyenera kuphunzira kulankhulana. Kupanda kutero, kufuna kukondweretsa mwamuna, mudzachita zimene simukuzifuna. Ndikoyenera kupereka kamodzi, ndipo palibe chimene chingakulepheretseni kubwereza.

2. Kukakamizika kwa anzako

Amuna nthawi zambiri amati: "Zomverera sizili zofanana", "Ndine wathanzi kwathunthu", "Musaope, simudzatenga mimba." Koma zimachitika kuti amayi okha amakakamiza okondedwa kukana kondomu. Kupanikizika kumachokera kumbali zonse ziwiri.

Amayi ambiri amakhulupilira kuti mwamuna safuna kugwiritsa ntchito kondomu ndipo pochotsa, mutha kusangalatsa wokondedwa wanu. Komabe, akazi amaiwala kuti kusangalatsa munthu sikutanthauza kukhala wokongola.

Kuonjezera apo, makondomu amabweretsa mphindi yachiyembekezo chosangalatsa cha kugonana: ngati mmodzi wa inu afika kwa iwo, ichi ndi chizindikiro chakuti mwatsala pang'ono kugonana. Izo ziyenera kulimbikitsa kudzoza, osati mantha.

3. Kusamvana

Pankhani ya makondomu, anthu amakonda kupanga chotupitsa kuchokera ku nthiti: “Bwanji simukufuna kuyandikira “zana pa zana”? Simundikhulupirira? Takhala limodzi kwa nthawi yayitali! Kodi sindine wofunikira kwa inu konse?" Mwina munamvapo zambiri za izi inunso.

Ngati makondomu awononga chikondi, ndiye kuti muli ndi mavuto aakulu m'moyo wanu wogonana. Makondomu alibe chochita nawo, amangophimba zovuta zina.

Nthawi zambiri anthu amasokoneza kukhulupirirana ndi chitetezo. Wina sapatula wina. "Ndimakukhulupirirani, koma sizikutanthauza kuti ndinu wathanzi." Izi zimabweretsa zovuta m'maubwenzi atsopano, pomwe anthu amalumikizana mwachangu. Koma kwa kulumikizana kamodzi, izi siziri vuto.

Ndani amagula makondomu?

Theka la omwe adafunsidwa akukhulupirira kuti abambo ndi amai ali ndi udindo wofanana pakulera. Onse awiri ayenera kukhala ndi makondomu. Komabe, pochita, amayi ambiri amayembekezera amuna kugula ndi kubweretsa.

Kugula makondomu kumatanthauza kuvomereza kuti mumagonana kuti musangalale. Azimayi ambiri samasuka chifukwa cha zimenezi. "Kodi anthu angaganize chiyani ngati nditawanyamula?"

Koma pamene makondomu palibe, mukhoza kupeza kuti muli mumkhalidwe wovuta kwambiri. Inde, amuna ena angachite manyazi powasunga kunyumba kapena kuwanyamula.

Ngati mudakali ndi mafunso, mungayankhe motere: “Sindiyenera kupereka zifukwa. Ngati ukuganiza kuti ndimagona ndi aliyense, uwu ndi ufulu wako, koma sundidziwa konse. Mukutsimikiza kuti tiyenera kukhala limodzi?"

Chofunika kwambiri, tiyenera kukambirana zambiri za makondomu, moona mtima komanso momasuka. Chifukwa cha izi, ubale wanu udzakhala wamphamvu, wokondwa komanso wodalirika.