Kuzindikira kusapeŵeka kwa kupatukana ndi kusatsimikizika kotheratu kwa tsogolo sichiyeso chophweka. Kudzimva kuti moyo wa munthu ukuchoka m'manja mwake kumapangitsa kukhala ndi nkhawa yayikulu. Susanne Lachman, katswiri wa zamaganizo, akulingalira za momwe angapulumukire mphindi yowawa iyi yoyembekezera mapeto.
Ubwenzi ukatha, chilichonse chomwe poyamba chinkawoneka chodziwika bwino komanso chodziwikiratu chimataya kumveka bwino. Chosowacho chomwe mafomu olekanitsa amayenera kudzazidwa ndikutipangitsa kuti tiziyang'ana mwachangu zifukwa ndi zifukwa zomwe zidachitika - umu ndi momwe timayesera kuthana ndi kusatsimikizika pang'ono.
Kutayika, kukula kwake komwe nthawi zina kumakhala kovuta kulingalira, kumasokoneza komanso kumayambitsa kusapeza bwino. Timamva mantha ndi kutaya mtima. Kudzimva kukhala opanda kanthu kumeneku kuli kosapiririka kotero kuti tiribe chochitira koma kufunafuna tanthauzo lina la zimene zikuchitika.
Komabe, malowa ndi aakulu kwambiri moti palibe kufotokoza kokwanira. Ndipo mosasamala kanthu za kuchuluka kwa zododometsa zomwe tidzipangira tokha, mtolo umene tiyenera kuukoka sudzapiririka.
Muzochitika zomwe tilibe ulamuliro pazotsatira, kuyembekezera nthawi yomwe tingathe kutulutsa mpweya ndikumva bwino kapena kubwerera ku chikhalidwe choyambirira pamodzi ndi bwenzi ndi pafupifupi nkhani ya moyo ndi imfa. Tikuyembekezera chigamulo - chokhacho chidzatsimikizira zomwe zikuchitika kapena zomwe zinachitika pakati pathu. ndipo potsiriza kumva kumasuka.
Kudikirira chisudzulo chosapeweka ndi chinthu chovuta kwambiri mu ubale.
M’chosowa ichi, nthawi imapita pang’onopang’ono moti timakakamira kukambirana kosatha ndi ife tokha za zomwe zili m’tsogolo mwathu. Timamva kufunikira kwachangu kuti tipeze nthawi yomweyo ngati pali njira yolumikizirananso ndi bwenzi (wakale). Ndipo ngati sichoncho, ndiye kuti pali chitsimikizo kuti tidzakhala bwino ndi kukonda wina?
Tsoka ilo, palibe njira yodziwira zomwe zidzachitike m'tsogolo. Izi ndi zowawa kwambiri, koma tiyenera kuvomereza kuti pakadali pano palibe mayankho omwe angatonthoze kapena kudzaza mpweya mkati mwathu, kunja kulibe.
Kudikirira chisudzulo chosapeweka ndi chinthu chovuta kwambiri mu ubale. Tikuyembekeza kumva bwino chifukwa cha zomwe zikuvutitsa kale mwazokha.
Yesani kuvomereza zotsatirazi.
Choyamba: palibe yankho, kaya lingakhale lotani, lingachepetse ululu umene tikumva tsopano. Njira yokhayo yothetsera vutoli ndiyo kuvomereza kuti mphamvu zakunja sizingasangalatse. M’malo mwake, kuzindikira kusapeŵeka kwake pakali pano kudzathandiza.
M'malo mofunafuna njira zopulumutsira zomwe kulibe, yesani kudzitsimikizira nokha kuti palibe vuto kumva ululu ndi chisoni pakali pano, kuti ndi kuyankha kwachibadwa ku imfa ndi gawo lofunikira la ndondomeko yachisoni. Kudziwa kuti muyenera kupirira zomwe simukuzidziwa kuti mukhale bwino kudzakuthandizani kupirira.
Ndikhulupirireni, ngati zosadziwika sizidziwika, pali chifukwa chake.
Ndimamva kale mafunso: "Kodi izi zidzatha liti?", "Ndidikire mpaka liti?" Yankho: ochuluka momwe mungafunire. Pang'onopang'ono, pang'onopang'ono. Pali njira imodzi yokha yochepetsera nkhawa zanga pamaso pa zosadziwika - kuyang'ana mkati mwako ndikumvetsera: kodi ndili bwino lero kuposa momwe ndinaliri dzulo kapena ola lapitalo?
Ndife tokha tokha amene tingadziŵe mmene tikumvera, kuyerekezera ndi mmene tinalili poyamba. Izi ndizochitika zathu zokha, zomwe ndife tokha tikhoza kukhalamo, m'thupi lathu komanso kumvetsetsa kwathu ubale.
Ndikhulupirireni, ngati zosadziwika sizikudziwika, pali chifukwa chake. Chimodzi mwa izo ndi kutithandiza kuchotsa tsankho lakuti si kwachibadwa kapena kulakwa kumva ululu waukulu chotero ndi mantha a m’tsogolo.
Palibe amene ananena bwino kuposa woimba nyimbo za rock Tom Petty: "Kudikirira ndiye gawo lovuta kwambiri." Ndipo mayankho omwe tikudikirira sangabwere kwa ife kuchokera kunja. Musataye mtima, gonjetsani ululu pang'onopang'ono, pang'onopang'ono.