"Mawa ndiyamba moyo watsopano!" - timadzilengeza tokha monyadira, ndipo ... palibe chomwe chimachokera. Timapita kumaphunziro omwe amalonjeza kuchita bwino pompopompo pamtengo wazovuta zamalingaliro. “Chinachake chikusintha,” timadzitsimikizira tokha. Chidaliro ichi, komanso zotsatira zake, ndi zokwanira kwa sabata. Si za ife. Chifukwa chiyani chithandizo chodzidzimutsa sichigwira ntchito, ndipo akatswiri a zamaganizo samapereka maphikidwe okonzekera chimwemwe, katswiri wa zamaganizo Maria Eril anafotokoza pogwiritsa ntchito chitsanzo chothandiza.
"Ndiye ukutani ndi ine?" Ndikudziwa kuti ndiyenera kudziphwanya ndekha, machitidwe ndi malingaliro anga onsewa… Chotsani chinyengo. Ndakonzeka!
Triathlete, wochita bizinesi, wokwera komanso wamkulu Gennady anali munthu wokongola modabwitsa wamtali wamfupi, anali atavala malaya olimba, pomwe minofu yake idatuluka komanso kukonzekera kwake kukwaniritsa. Iwo ankaona kuti interlocutor anali wanzeru, chidwi. Ndinkafuna kwambiri kuchita naye nthabwala, kusewera naye.
- Gennady, ndikhala ndikulankhula nawe mozama kwambiri tsopano. Momwe mukhalira ndi zolakwika. Zokonda zonse ndi zolakwika komanso zoyipa. Tsopano ndikuletsani pang'onopang'ono kuchita zomwe mumakonda, ndikukhazikitsa machitidwe omwe ndimawona kuti ndiwowona okha!
Ndidatsala pang'ono kuseka naye, koma ndinamuwona Gennady akuseka nati:
— Chabwino. Ziyenera kukhala choncho, ndakonzeka. Mukudziwa bizinesi yanu.
"Bwanji ngati sitingapambane?"
Kotero, ine ndinachoka panjanji kwinakwake. Ndidzayesa kukhala wamng'ono!
Ndinalingalira zochitika pamene wothandizirayo amatenga udindo wa moyo wa Gennady, amamuwuza zochita zingapo, ndipo panthawi ya sewerolo akuphwanya mfundo zonse za makhalidwe abwino: musapange zosankha kwa kasitomala, musamangirire zanu. zikhalidwe ndi zikhalidwe pa iye, ndipo musamuyikire ntchito iliyonse kutengera zomwe wodwalayo akuganiza kuti ndi zoona.
Njira yotereyi, ndithudi, sikubweretsa phindu lililonse. Moyo wa Gennady sudzasintha, padzakhala ma templates angapo atsopano ndi zotsatira za wow kuchokera ku chopukusira nyama cha njira yosakhala ya chilengedwe. Kumene anatenga udindo, anaupereka kumeneko. Pambuyo kulephera, ndizosavuta kuimba mlandu Gennady chifukwa chosowa kusintha.
Amakhulupirira kuti akatswiri amakhalidwe abwino - «chitetezo ku chitsiru.» Katswiri wopusa wa psychotherapist yemwe samamvetsetsa chilichonse amadalira zamakhalidwe kuti asapangitse zinthu kuipiraipira. Ichi mwina ndi chifukwa chake akatswiri ena, motsogozedwa ndi mfundo yosatsutsika yakuti iwo si zitsiru, amawonetsa njira yopangira machitidwe.
"Ndimagona ndi wodwalayo ndikumusamalira ndi kumukonda zomwe sanakhalepo nazo. Ndipereka chiyamikiro ndikukweza kudzidalira kwanga, ”wothandizira wina wa gulu loyang'anira lomwe ndimayendera adalimbikitsa chisankho chake.
"Ndinakumana ndi munthu wa maloto anga, kotero ndinasiya chithandizo ndikupita naye ku Gagra (kwenikweni ku Cannes)" - titawona wosankhidwa watsopano wa mnzathu wa m'kalasi, panali chete chete. Mwamuna mu maonekedwe, zizolowezi ndi zokonda anali kope la mwamuna wake, amene anasiya kwa wodwalayo.
Mlandu woyamba umasonyeza kusamvetsetsana ndi wothandizira za makhalidwe a kusamutsa ndi kutsutsa mankhwala. M’chenicheni, iye anakhala ngati atate amene ananyenga mwana wake wamkazi.
M'nkhani yachiwiri, wochiritsayo adaphonyapo kanthu pazachipatala pomwe iyeyo anali mu chithandizo chaumwini. Apo ayi, kodi simungazindikire bwanji kuti mukusankha munthu yemweyo monga mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu, amene zonse sizili bwino?
Nthawi zambiri wochiritsa amayang'ana wodwalayo ngati wamkulu wokhoza komanso wokakamizidwa kuteteza malire awo ndikuti "ayi" ngati chinthu chosayenera chimachitika.
Ngati wodwalayo sakugwira ntchito, chithandizo sichingakhale chothandiza. Koma ndi bwino kuposa kusokoneza yogwira ndi chiopsezo chovulaza
Ndipo pamaso panga pali Gennady, amene moyo wake umamangidwa pa mfundo yakuti: "Chilichonse chingapezeke ndi mphamvu yachitsulo. Ndipo ngati simunatero, chifuniro chanu sichinali champhamvu mokwanira! Sindingathe kulingalira munthu uyu akunena kuti "ayi" kwa ine, akumangirira malire. Ndipo ndikosavuta kulowa naye mumkhalidwe wodziwa zonse - wandikhazika kale pampando wachifumu uwu.
Tiyeni tibwerere ku zifukwa zomwe timasungabe makhalidwe abwino. Zimatengera mfundo yakale ya Hippocratic ya "musawononge". Ndimayang'ana zosintha zanga ndikumvetsetsa: Ndimakonda kukhala wopanda ntchito ndipo kudzikonda kwanga kudzavutika kwambiri kuposa kuvulaza munthu.
Chinthu choterocho - wodwala amagwira ntchito, osati wothandizira. Ndipo ngati yoyambayo sikugwira ntchito, chithandizocho chingakhale chosathandiza. Koma ndi bwino kuposa kusokoneza yogwira ndi chiopsezo chovulaza.
Kwa zaka mazana ambiri, aku Japan akhala akugwiritsa ntchito Kaizen, mfundo yopititsira patsogolo kupititsa patsogolo ntchitoyi. Anthu aku America, omwe amasamala za chilichonse, adachita kafukufuku - ndipo inde, mfundo yakusintha pang'ono idadziwika kuti ndiyothandiza kwambiri kuposa njira yosinthira ndi kulanda.
Ziribe kanthu momwe zingawonekere zotopetsa, masitepe ang'onoang'ono a tsiku ndi tsiku ndi othandiza kwambiri kuposa ntchito yamwamuna ya nthawi imodzi. Thandizo lokhazikika la nthawi yayitali limabweretsa zotsatira zokhazikika kuposa supertraining yomwe imaphwanya zoikamo zonse zamkati.
Moyo sukuwonekanso ngati bwalo la duel imodzi yokhala ndi chilombo chosalamulirika
Chifukwa chake, Gennady, ndikumverani ndikufunsani mafunso. Simupeza zochititsa chidwi, zopuma, zopuma ndi ine. Mwa kusunga malo ochiritsira, osasunthika komanso osasunthika, momwe wothandizira wachikoka samatopa kwa nthawi yayitali, timapeza zotsatira zenizeni.
Poyankha mafunso ndi mawu ofotokozera, Gennady amamvetsetsa chomwe chiri mwala wapangodya wamavuto ake. Atamasulidwa ku malingaliro otsutsana, amatha kupuma momasuka - ndipo moyo suwonekanso ngati bwalo la duel imodzi yokhala ndi chilombo chosalamulirika.
Timakumananso pakatha sabata.
- Sindikumvetsa chilichonse, ndiuzeni zomwe mudachita? Sabata yatha, mantha amodzi okha, ndipo ameneyo anali C. Sindinachite kalikonse! Sizingakhale kuti kuchokera ku zokambirana kumodzi komanso kuchokera ku masewera olimbitsa thupi opumira zinthu zasintha, izi zidachitika bwanji? Ndikufuna kudziwa kuti chinyengo ndi chiyani!
Ndipo zakufunika kofulumira kuwongolera chilichonse, Gennady, tidzakambirana nthawi ina.