Dzanja lolimba, akalulu, chitsulo…
Pamene mwana wanga anali wamng’ono ndipo tinkayenda m’mabwalo a maseŵero, kaŵirikaŵiri ndinakopeka ndi mnyamata wina wazaka zisanu ndi ziŵiri wamasaya, amene ndinadzitcha kuti Kolya Bulochka. Pafupifupi tsiku lililonse ankawoneka pa benchi pafupi ndi agogo ake aakazi. Kawirikawiri m'manja mwake anali ndi bun lalikulu la shuga kapena thumba la njere. Poyang'ana poyang'ana uku ndi uku ndi kaimidwe kake, anali ngati agogo ake aakazi.
Mayi wachikulire wosamwetulira adanyadira mdzukulu wake komanso kunyoza "kugwetsa". Zowonadi, Kolya sanathamangire kuzungulira malowo, kukweza mchenga wamtambo. Iye analibe chidwi ndi ndodo - chida chowopsya chomwe chimayambitsa mantha aumunthu kwa makolo mu malo onse a pambuyo pa Soviet. Iye sanakankhire ana ena, sanafuule, sanang'ambe zovala zake ku tchire la dogwood, momvera anavala chipewa mu May ndipo ndithudi anali wophunzira wabwino kwambiri. Kapena chabwino.
Anali mwana wangwiro amene anakhala phee, kudya bwino ndi kumvetsera zimene anauzidwa. Iye ankafuna kuti aonekere kwa anyamata ena «oipa» moti anazolowera udindo. Panalibe ngakhale chikhumbo chofuna kudumpha ndikuthamangira mpira kumaso kwake kozungulira. Komabe, agogo aakazi nthawi zambiri ankamugwira dzanja ndipo akanaletsa kulowererako.
Zolakwa pakulera anyamata zimakula kuchokera kumalingaliro otsutsana pa nkhani yachimuna
Izi «castrating» kuleredwa ndi wamba monyanyira. Kumene anyamata ambiri amaleredwa ndi «mabanja a amuna kapena akazi okhaokha» - amayi ndi agogo - zimakhala zofunikira, njira yopulumutsira mitsempha, kupanga chinyengo cha chitetezo. Sikofunikira kwambiri kuti pambuyo pake mnyamata "womasuka" adzakula ndikukhala waulesi wokhala ndi chilakolako chabwino, yemwe moyo wake udzakhala pabedi kutsogolo kwa TV kapena kuseri kwa piritsi. Koma sadzapita kulikonse, sadzalumikizana ndi kampani yoyipa ndipo sadzapita "malo otentha" ...
Chodabwitsa n'chakuti, amayi ndi agogo omwewa m'mitima mwawo amasangalala ndi chithunzi chosiyana kwambiri ... Mwamuna wamphamvu, wopanda nzeru, wamphamvu, wokhoza kutenga udindo ndikuthetsa mavuto a anthu nthawi yomweyo. Koma pazifukwa zina iwo “sasema” monga choncho. Ndiyeno mpongozi wina wongopeka adzalandira mphoto yotere!
Chinanso chonyanyira pamaphunziro ndicho chikhulupiriro chakuti mnyamata adzafunikiradi dzanja lachimuna lolimba ndi ufulu wodzilamulira msanga (“Mwamuna akukula!”). M'mikhalidwe yapamwamba, jakisoni wachangu waumuna womwewu amagwiritsidwa ntchito - monga mauna a miyambo yakale. Momwe ndi nthawi yoyatsira "manja olimba", makolo amatanthauzira mwanjira yawoyawo. Mwachitsanzo, bambo wopeza wa bwenzi lake anamutengera kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo chifukwa chakuti mwana wake wopeza sankakonda kusewera pabwalo ndi anyamata ndipo amadana ndi maphunziro a thupi, koma nthawi yomweyo ankakhala nthawi yochuluka kunyumba akujambula zithunzithunzi.
Monga chilango cha kuba zinthu zazing’ono, mayi wosakwatiwa anatenga mnzake wina kwa wapolisi kuti atsekere wophunzira wa sitandade woyamba kwa mphindi khumi m’chipinda chopanda kanthu. Wachitatu, mnyamata wachifundo ndi wolota, anatumizidwa ku Sukulu ya Suvorov kuti ateteze zipolowe za achinyamata. Anali ndi poizoni ndi ma cadet ena, pambuyo pake sanathe kukhululukira makolo ake chifukwa cha kukula kwake ndikuthetsa ubale wawo ...
Mwana wachinayi, yemwe anali wodwala kamodzi, bambo wankhondoyo adadzuka XNUMX koloko m'mawa kuti azithamanga ndikumukakamiza kuti adzithira madzi ozizira, mpaka adapita kuchipatala ndi chibayo ndipo amayi ake adagwada pamaso pa mwamuna wake, ndikumupempha kuti achoke. wosauka yekha.
Zolakwa pakuleredwa kwa anyamata zimakula kuchokera ku malingaliro otsutsana okhudza umuna, womwe umakhala bedi la Procrustean la khalidwe losasinthika. Anyamata ankhanza amawopedwa kusukulu ndi kunyumba: kusasinthasintha, kupsa mtima kwawo kovutirapo, kuphatikiza ndi mphamvu yakuthupi, akuti "amanenera" tsogolo lachigawenga, kuyenda pansi.
Osakhazikika, ochita zinthu monyanyira, opusa amakhala mbuzi zochitira manyazi komanso "manyazi pabanja." Amaphunzitsidwa, kuchitidwa ndi kukanidwa, chifukwa mwamuna weniweni ayenera kukhala woganiza bwino komanso wozama. Amantha, osatetezeka komanso amanyazi akuyesera kutulutsa testosterone mwamphamvu m'magawo osatha ndi makampeni… Koma mungachipeze bwanji?
Olamulira ankhanza opanda mzimu kapena omvera amakula pazingwe zolimba
Ku Finland, m’madera ambiri, anyamata ndi atsikana amavala mofanana, osawalekanitsa potengera jenda. Ana mu kindergartens kusewera ndi yemweyo abstract, «genderless» zidole. Finns amakono amakhulupirira kuti umuna, monga ukazi, udzadziwonetsera pamene mwanayo akukula ndi mawonekedwe omwe amafunikira.
Koma m'dera lathu, mchitidwe umenewu umadzutsa mantha aakulu a chiyembekezo cha maudindo osadziwika a kugonana - a jenda palokha, zomwe sizongoperekedwa kwachilengedwe, komanso kumanga anthu osakhazikika.
M’kafukufuku wake, katswiri wa zamaganizo Alice Miller anatsimikizira kuti kulera mwankhanza kwambiri kwa anyamata a ku Germany kunadzetsa kuyambika kwa chifasisti ndi nkhondo yapadziko lonse imene inapha mamiliyoni a anthu. Olamulira ankhanza opanda mzimu kapena omvera omwe amatha kutsatira mopanda nzeru Fuhrer amakula mwamphamvu.
Mnzanga, mayi wa ana anayi, aŵiri a iwo ali anyamata, atafunsidwa mmene angawalere, anati: “Chimene akazife tingachite ndicho kuyesa kusavulaza.” Ndikuwonjezera kuti n'zotheka kuchita popanda vuto ngati tiona mwana wamwamuna kapena wamkazi ngati munthu yemwe ali ndi makhalidwe ndi zizolowezi, mphamvu ndi zofooka, osati zenizeni zomwe ziri zachinsinsi komanso zaudani kwa inu. Ndizovuta kwambiri, koma ndikhulupilira kuti ndizotheka.