Psychology

Pali kumverera kuti mumakopeka ndi mtundu womwewo wa amuna omwe simukugwirizana nawo? Kenako muyenera kupenda ubale wanu ndi amuna kapena akazi anzanu. Ngati mutha kutsata machitidwe a abambo, zizolowezi, ndi mawonekedwe, ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa chifukwa chake. The psychotherapist Zoya Bogdanova amathandiza kuchotsa script.

M'moyo, nthawi zambiri palibe chomwe chimabwerezedwa monga choncho, makamaka paubwenzi. Kubwereza kumachitika mpaka kuzungulira kwina kumalizidwa. Kuyika mfundo yomveka bwino, timapeza chiyambi cha kuzungulira kwatsopano.

Kodi "ntchito" mu maubwenzi ndi amuna kapena akazi anzawo? Mkazi adzakopa amuna amtundu womwewo m'moyo wake mpaka atamvetsetsa chifukwa chake izi zikuchitika.

Mwachitsanzo, nthawi zambiri ndimamva madandaulo kuchokera kwa makasitomala okhudza abwenzi ansanje kapena ofooka. Azimayi amafuna kupeza wosankhidwa wodzidalira, wokhala ndi maziko amkati omwe angakhale chithandizo chawo ndi chitetezo. Tsoka ilo, zimakhala zosiyana kwambiri: timapeza zomwe timathawa.

Kodi muyenera kudzifunsa mafunso anayi ati?

Pezani nthawi yaulere pomwe palibe amene angakusokonezeni, pumulani ndikuyang'ana. Kenako tengani cholembera ndi pepala ndikuyankha mafunso anayi:

  1. Lembani mndandanda wamakhalidwe (mpaka 10) omwe mungafune kuwona mwa okondedwa anu komanso omwe ali ndi umunthu wapafupi kapena wovomerezeka kwa inu.
  2. Lembani zinthu 10 zomwe zimakuthamangitsani mwa amuna ndipo simungafune kuziwona mwa osankhidwa anu, koma mwakumana nazo kale mwa wina kuchokera kwa achibale anu, abwenzi, achibale.
  3. Lembani maloto anu omwe mumawakonda kwambiri muubwana: zomwe mumafuna kuti mupeze, koma sizinachitike (zinali zoletsedwa, sizinagulidwe, sizikanatheka kuzikwaniritsa). Mwachitsanzo, muli mwana, mumalota chipinda chanu, koma munakakamizika kukhala ndi mlongo wanu kapena mbale wanu.
  4. Kumbukirani nthawi yowala kwambiri, yotentha kwambiri kuyambira ubwana - zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala osangalala, mantha, zimayambitsa misozi yachifundo.

Tsopano werengani zomwe mfundo iliyonse imatanthauza kuchokera ku lamulo la kulinganiza ndi mizimu ya achibale.

Kuwongolera kuli motere: mutha kupeza zomwe mukufuna m'ndime 1 pokhapokha mutathana ndi vutolo ndi ndime 2, ndipo izi zimakupatsani mwayi wozindikira maloto anu kuchokera ndime 3 ndikumva zomwe mudalemba ndime 4.

Mpaka nthawi imeneyo, mudzakumana ndi zomwe mumadana nazo ndikuthawa kwa mnzanu (werengani mfundo 2). Chifukwa ndendende mikhalidwe iyi mwa mwamuna yomwe mumaidziwa bwino komanso yomveka kwa inu komanso pafupi kwambiri - mumakhala kapena mumakhala ndi izi, ndipo china chake sichidziwika bwino kwa inu.

Mzimayi amafuna kupeza wosankhidwa wodzidalira yemwe angakhale wothandizira ndi chitetezo chake, koma amangopeza zomwe athawa.

Chitsanzo chodziŵika bwino chingatithandize kumvetsetsa: mtsikana anakulira m’banja la makolo oledzeretsa ndipo, atakula, anakwatiwa ndi chidakwa, kapena panthaŵi ina mwamuna wake wolemera anayamba kumwa botolo.

Timasankha bwenzi mosasamala, ndipo mtundu wosankhidwa umadziwika bwino kwa mkazi - anakulira m'banja lofanana ndipo, ngakhale kuti iye sanayambe kumwa mowa, zimakhala zosavuta kuti azikhala ndi chidakwa. Zomwezo zimagwiranso ntchito kwa mwamuna wansanje kapena wopanda mphamvu. Chizoloŵezi, ngakhale zochitika zoipa zimapangitsa khalidwe la wosankhidwa kukhala lomveka, mkazi amadziwa momwe angamuchitire.

Momwe mungatulukire m'gulu loyipa la maubwenzi olakwika

Kutuluka m'njira imeneyi kumakhala kosavuta. Tengani cholembera ndikuwonjezera mu ndime 1 ndi 2 mikhalidwe yabwino komanso yoyipa yomwe simunakumanepo ndi okondedwa anu, anthu akudera lanu, maulamuliro ndi umunthu womwe mumadana nawo. Izi ziphatikizepo zachilendo, zachilendo, luso, njira zamakhalidwe zomwe sizimachokera ku zochitika zanu komanso mabanja anu.

Kenako lembani mafunso omwewo - lembani zatsopano zomwe mukufuna kukhala nazo, ndi zomwe mukufuna kuzichotsa mwachangu. Tangoganizani momwe mungawonekere mukuwoneka kwatsopano, ndikuyesa nokha ndi mnzanu watsopano, ngati suti. Kumbukirani kuti chirichonse chatsopano nthawi zonse chimakhala chovuta pang'ono: zingawoneke kuti mukuwoneka opusa kapena kuti kusintha komwe mukufuna sikudzatheka.

Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi kosavuta kudzakuthandizani kuthana ndi vutoli: tsiku lililonse, kuyambira mawa m'mawa, tsukani mano ndi dzanja lanu lina. Ngati muli kudzanja lamanja, ndiye lamanzere, ngati lamanzere, ndiye lamanja. Ndipo chitani izi kwa masiku 60.

Ndikhulupirireni, kusintha kudzabwera. Chinthu chachikulu ndizochitika zatsopano, zachilendo zomwe zingakokere china chirichonse ndi iwo.

Siyani Mumakonda