Zamkatimu
Anthu omwe adakumanapo ndi kutha kwa ubale amadziwa kuti kuchira kumakhala kovuta komanso kwautali bwanji. Gawoli ndi lopweteka komanso lovuta kwa aliyense, koma anthu ena amangokhalira kukakamira. Ndi zinthu ziti zomwe zimakhudza kuthamanga kwa kuchira komanso zomwe zimalepheretsa ambiri a ife kupita patsogolo?
1. Kuponderezedwa, kuiwala chifukwa cha kusiyana
Pakuchira pambuyo pa kupatukana, mosakayikira pamabwera nthawi yomwe timayamba kukumbukira zabwino zokhazokha za ubale wakale. Timamva chisoni ndi kuwawidwa mtima pamene tikuvutika chifukwa cha zimene tataya. Kutha kukumbukira nthawi zabwino ndikofunikira: kumatithandiza kuzindikira zomwe zili zofunika kwa ife polumikizana ndi wina. Mwanjira imeneyi, timamvetsetsa bwino zosowa zathu ndipo, malinga ndi chidziwitsochi, tingayang'ane mnzathu woyenera m'tsogolomu.
Panthawi imodzimodziyo, kukumbukira zinthu zabwino kwambiri, sitikuwona chithunzi chonse, koma ngati chirichonse chinali chodabwitsa, kulekana sikukadachitika. Choncho, pamene maganizo amakokedwa mu "chilichonse chinali changwiro", ndikofunika kuyesa, popanda masewero, kutenga malo pakati, kukumbukira zovuta zomwe tidakumana nazo, ndi malingaliro ndi zochitika zomwe zinabuka poyankha. iwo.
2. Kupewa kukhudzana ndi inu nokha ndi kudzikuza
Kaŵirikaŵiri, munthu wina amakhala “chotchinga” chathu, mmene timasonyezera mikhalidwe imene sitikuidziŵa ndi imene sitikuvomereza mwa ife tokha. Zoonadi, mikhalidwe imeneyi ingakhalenso khalidwe la mnzathuyo mwiniyo, koma mfundo yakuti inakopa chidwi chathu imalankhula za mtengo wake wapadera kwa ife. Chikhumbo chathu chamkati chofuna kukhala ndi makhalidwe amenewa chimatuluka tikakumana ndi munthu amene ali nawo. Chifukwa cha iye, timakhudza mbali zathu zomwe zakhala "zogona" kwa nthawi yaitali kapena zatsekedwa.
Ubwenzi ukatha, kutayika kwa kukhudzana kumeneku ndi mbali zobisika za ife tokha kumabweretsa ululu waukulu. Kuti tipezenso, timayesa mobwerezabwereza kubwereranso ku chiyanjano, koma pachabe.
Mutha kufika pachithunzi chogwirizana komanso chokwaniritsa nokha, m'malo moyesera mosadziwa kuti mupange mothandizidwa ndi mnzanu.
Kodi tingapeze bwanji mbali zobisika za ife tokha? Chitani zoyeserera: kumbukirani gawo loyamba lakulankhulana ndi mnzanu wakale, nthawi yomwe mudakondana naye. Ndiye ankawoneka bwanji kwa inu? Lembani makhalidwe ake onse, ndiyeno atchule mokweza, ndikuwonjezerapo: "... ndipo ndili ndi izi." Poyamba kuwamvera ndikuwakulitsa: mwachitsanzo, podzisamalira kapena kusadziletsa kukhala ndi cholinga, mutha kufika pachithunzi chanu chogwirizana komanso chokwaniritsidwa, m'malo moyesera kuti mupange mosadziwa mothandizidwa ndi a. wokondedwa.
Kodi inu nokha mungasonyeze bwanji momveka bwino komanso momveka bwino makhalidwe omwe munakopeka nawo kwambiri mwa mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu wakale?
3. Kudzudzula mumtima
Nthawi zambiri kulekana kumakhala kovuta chifukwa cha chizolowezi chodzidzudzula - makamaka mosazindikira. Nthawi zina malingalirowa amadzuka ndikuzimiririka mwachangu, pafupifupi nthawi yomweyo, kuti tilibe nthawi yomvetsetsa zomwe zidachitika, zomwe zidasokoneza malingaliro athu. Timazindikira mwadzidzidzi kuti tikuvutika maganizo, koma sitingapeze kufotokozera za chikhalidwe ichi. Ngati muli ndi kusinthasintha kwadzidzidzi, yesetsani kukumbukira zomwe mumaganiza musanayambe "kutsika".
Ndikofunika kuphunzira osati kukonza zolakwa zathu zokha, komanso kuwona kuthekera komwe tili mwa ife.
Pamene tikuchira pakutha, timawononga mphamvu zambiri pakukhala ndi mkwiyo, zowawa, zolakwa, zokwiya, zachisoni, ndi kukonza zomwe zidachitika kale. Kudzidzudzula kumangowonjezera mkhalidwewo. Ndikofunika kukhalabe okoma mtima ndikuvomera kwa inu nokha. Monga mayi wabwino amene sangakalipire mwana kuti amudyetse ngati iyeyo wakhumudwa. Ndikofunikira kuphunzira osati kukonza zolakwa zathu zokha, komanso kuwona kuthekera komwe kuli mwa ife: ndife opitilira kulephera, timatha kupulumuka ndikuthana ndi zotsatirapo zake.
4. Kupewa kutengeka maganizo ndi kulephera kulimbana nazo
Titasiyana ndi omwe tinali okondedwa kwa ife, timadutsa m'mikhalidwe yotsatizana - kuchokera ku mantha mpaka kulandiridwa. Ndipo ngati tikhala ndi zovuta kukhala ndi izi kapena malingaliro awo, ndiye kuti timakhala pachiwopsezo chokhazikika pagawo lofananira. Mwachitsanzo, amene amavutika kukwiya, amene amapewa maganizo amenewa, akhoza «kukakamira» mu mkhalidwe wa mkwiyo ndi maganizo. Kuopsa kokakamira ndikuti njira yochira ikuchedwa: zomwe zidachitika kale komanso malingaliro osamalizidwa amatenga malo m'moyo zomwe zikanapita ku ubale watsopano ndi chisangalalo kuyambira lero.
Ngati mukudzizindikira nokha m'mafotokozedwe awa, ingakhale nthawi yoti muyambe kugwira ntchito pazinthu zomwe zikukulepheretsani kuchoka mumsampha wamalingaliro ndikupita ku chinthu chatsopano.