Nthawi zina mabanja amatha. Izi sizimakhala zomvetsa chisoni nthawi zonse, koma kulera mwana m'banja losakwanira si njira yabwino kwambiri. Ndi bwino ngati muli ndi mwayi kulenga kachiwiri ndi munthu wina, bambo watsopano kapena mayi watsopano, koma bwanji ngati mwanayo akutsutsa aliyense «watsopano»? Zoyenera kuchita ngati mwana akufuna kuti amayi azikhala ndi bambo ake okha osati wina aliyense? Kapena kuti abambo azikhala ndi amayi okha, osati ndi azakhali ena kunja kwawo?
Kotero, nkhani yeniyeni - ndi lingaliro la yankho lake.
Kudziwana ndi mwana wa munthu wanga sabata ndi theka lapitalo kunali kopambana: kuyenda kwa maola 4 panyanja ndi kusambira ndi picnic kunali kosavuta komanso kosasamala. Serezha ndi mwana wodabwitsa, wotseguka, woleredwa bwino, wachifundo, timalumikizana naye bwino. Ndiye kumapeto kwa sabata lotsatira, tinakonza ulendo wopita kunja kwa tawuni ndi mahema - ndi anzanga ndi abwenzi a munthu wanga, anatenganso mwana wake wamwamuna. Apa ndi pamene zonse zidachitikira. Chowonadi ndi chakuti mwamuna wanga nthawi zonse anali pafupi ndi ine - adandikumbatira, kupsompsona, kusonyeza nthawi zonse zizindikiro za chidwi ndi chisamaliro. Zikuoneka kuti zimenezi zinamupweteka kwambiri mnyamatayo, ndipo panthawi ina anangothawa n’kukalowa m’nkhalango. Izi zisanachitike, nthawi zonse amakhala pamenepo, akuseka, kuyesera kukumbatira abambo ake ...
Tinamupeza mwamsanga, koma anakana m’pang’ono pomwe kulankhula ndi bambo. Koma ndinakwanitsa kumuyandikira ngakhale kumukumbatira, sanakane n’komwe. Serezha alibe chilichonse mwamakani kwa ine. Tinangomukumbatira mwakachetechete m’nkhalangomo kwa pafupifupi ola limodzi mpaka atakhazikika. Pambuyo pake, potsiriza, iwo anatha kulankhula, ngakhale kuti sanachite bwino nthawi yomweyo kulankhula naye - kukopa, kusisita. Ndipo apa Seryozha anafotokoza zonse zomwe zinamupweteka: kuti iye alibe kanthu kotsutsana ndi ine, kuti amaona kuti ndimamuchitira bwino, koma akanakonda kuti ndisakhalepo. Chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa chakuti amafuna kuti makolo ake azikhalira limodzi ndipo amakhulupirira kuti akhoza kubwereranso. Ndipo ngati nditero, ndiye kuti izi sizidzachitika.
Sizophweka kumva izi zikunenedwa kwa ine, koma ndidatha kudzikoka ndipo tinabwerera limodzi. Koma funso nlakuti tsopano titani?
Pambuyo polumikizana, timapereka zokambirana zazikulu:
Serezha, mukufuna kuti makolo anu azikhala limodzi. Ndimakulemekezani kwambiri chifukwa cha izi: mumakonda makolo anu, mumawasamalira, ndinu anzeru. Si anyamata onse amene amadziwa kukonda makolo awo chonchi! Koma pamenepa, inu mukulakwitsa, amene bambo anu ayenera kukhala si funso lanu. Iyi si nkhani ya ana, koma akuluakulu. Funso loti akhale ndi ndani limasankhidwa ndi abambo ako okha, amasankha yekha. Ndipo mukakhala wamkulu, mudzakhalanso: ndi ndani, ndi mkazi yemwe mumakhala naye, mudzasankha, osati ana anu!
Izi zikugwiranso ntchito kwa ine. Ndikukumvetsani, mukufuna kuti ndisiye ubale wanu ndi amayi ndi abambo. Koma sindingachite zimenezo chifukwa ndimamukonda ndipo amafuna kuti tikhale limodzi. Ndipo ngati bambo akufuna kukhala ndi ine, ndipo inu mukufuna wina, ndiye kuti mawu a abambo anu ndi ofunika kwa ine. Payenera kukhala dongosolo m’banja, ndipo dongosolo limayamba ndi kulemekeza zosankha za akulu.
Sergei, mukuganiza bwanji za izi? Kodi mukukonzekera kuchita chiyani ndi chisankho cha abambo anu?