Ofesi si malo omenyera nkhondo? Zilibe kanthu! Maitanidwe onse a mndandanda wa "Tiyeni tikhale limodzi" adzalephera, chifukwa zida zathu zazikulu zikuphatikizapo kulimbana, akukhulupirira katswiri wa zamaganizo Tatyana Muzhitskaya. Koma kodi nthaŵi zonse timamvetsetsa zimene zimayambitsa mikangano, ndipo kodi zingachepe?
Dzulo lokha, anzanga okonda mtendere lero ayamba kulira modzidzimutsa ngati akambuku, ngakhale kuti panalibe zizindikiro zaukali. Kukambitsirana kokonzekera kukugwa m'maso mwathu, ndipo mgwirizano umawulukira mudengu. Pamsonkhano, mwadzidzidzi, popanda chifukwa chenicheni, aliyense wopezekapo akuyamba kulira, ndiyeno sangathe kufotokoza zomwe zawachitikira. Nchiyani chimayambitsa mikangano yachiwawa ndi momwe mungapewere?
Psychology: Simungathe kugwira ntchito popanda mikangano? Kodi n'zosatheka kuvomereza?
Tatyana Muzhitskaya: Ndinu chani! Mikangano yantchito m'makampani momwe muli anthu osachepera awiri ndi yosapeweka, apo ayi ndi dongosolo lopanda moyo. Wrestling ikuphatikizidwa mu phukusi lathu loyambira. Nthawi zambiri zimagwirizanitsidwa ndi gawo ndi utsogoleri.
Pano pali zochitika zenizeni: woyang'anira malonda ndi woyang'anira polojekiti amabwera kudzakambirana. Iwo akuuzidwa kuti: “Pitani kuchipinda chochitira misonkhano, tenga makapu alionse amene mukufuna, khalani pansi pamene kuli koyenera.” Mmodzi anatenga kapu imvi nakhala pampando wamba. Ndipo wina anasankha chikho ndi mawu akuti «Ndimakonda London» ndipo anatenga yekha chikopa mpando. Anali wapampando wa m'modzi mwa otsogolera, omwe adakhala moyang'anizana ndi zokambirana (zomwe m'chinenero chosalankhula zimatanthauza kutsutsa), ndipo chikhocho chinali cha mkulu wa dipatimenti ya HR, yemwe adawombera alendowo ndi mafunso ovuta.
Zokambiranazo zinalephera. Mmodzi woyang'anira polojekiti anapita ku msonkhano wotsatira, anatenga kapu imvi, anakhala pa mpando. Ulalikiwu sunasinthe zomwe zili mkati, zidangosindikizidwa mosiyana. Ntchitoyi idalandiridwa: "Chabwino, ndi nkhani ina!" Ichi ndi chinthu chomwe palibe amene amalankhulapo - tangoganizani, chikho, mpando ... Amakhulupirira kuti mikangano m'mabungwe imakhudzana ndi ulamuliro, chuma, nthawi yomaliza.
Kuchuluka kwa mikangano kumachitika kale kwambiri kuposa kuperekedwa kwa ntchito. Ife mosazindikira, pamlingo wa nyama, timawona kuti chinachake ndi gawo lathu. Izi zikachitiridwa nkhanza, timakwiya ndikuyang'ana komwe tingatulutse mkwiyo wathu.
Muofesi, zida, mipando ndi ya boma, ngakhale malo wamba ndi malo otseguka. Kodi mungagawane chiyani?
O, zambiri! Kukonda bizinesi kwa malo otseguka, kumbali imodzi, kumabweretsa kutseguka. Kumbali ina, kumayambitsa mikangano yobisika.
Chitsanzo: Ogwira ntchito pakampani ina yaukatswiri amayendayenda m’mizinda, ndipo alibe matebulo awo, zonse zimafanana. Ndipo katswiri wina waudindo wapamwamba kwambiri, wokhala ndi ma dipuloma aŵiri a ku Ulaya, akundiuza kuti: “Ndinagwira ntchito patebulo kwa miyezi iŵiri, ndinaiona ngati yangayanga, ndipo mwadzidzidzi mnzanga wina anaulukiramo usiku ndi kuitenga. Malingana ndi malamulo, chirichonse chiri cholungama, koma sindingathe kudzithandiza ndekha - munthu uyu amandikwiyitsa kwambiri, ndipo zimatengera khama kuti ndibwerere ku njira yolimbikitsa pazokambirana.
Mikangano yambiri imabwera chifukwa chakuti anthu ambiri amasokoneza pempho ndi zofuna.
Chitsanzo china. Mu kampani ya IT, muyenera kusiya ntchito yoyera. Koma ndithudi munthu «mwangozi» kuiwala cholembera kapena diary - ifenso chizindikiro pa sunbeds mu Resorts ndi matawulo. Ndipo timakwiya ngati wina atenga bedi lathu, mosasamala kanthu ndi chizindikiro.
Kugwira ntchito pamalo otseguka, makamaka kwa oyamba kumene, kumakhala ndi mikangano. Wina akulankhula mokweza pa foni, wina wadzipaka mafuta onunkhira amphamvu, ndipo izi zimayambitsa kukwiyitsa kwa nyama mwa ife. Sitikuzindikira komwe idachokera, koma tikuyang'ana njira yopulumukira ndipo, monga lamulo, timasiya kugwira ntchito.
Ndipo anzawo amakonda kutenga stapler kapena cholembera osafunsa. Ndipo timakwiya tisanadziwe kuti ndi bodza. Palibe kulemekeza malire mu chikhalidwe chathu, chifukwa chake pali mikangano yambiri yosafunikira. Ndipo tidakali ndi zambiri zoti tikonze.
Kodi mungachepetse bwanji kusamvana uku?
Mvetserani nokha: kutengeka kumeneku kunachokera kuti? Monga ku kindergarten, lembani zinthu zanu. Fotokozani maganizo anu. Vomerezani kuti mpando ndi tebulo ili ndi malo amakampani opanga zinthu za Workplace, ndipo mwatenga lero. Ngati iyi ndi ofesi yokhala ndi makabati, gogodani pakhomo ndikulowa ndi chilolezo.
Funsani: "Kodi ndingatenge antchito anu?" Ndiko kufunsa, osati kudziwitsa kapena kufuna. Ngati ndifunsidwa ndi pempho, amalingalira izi: "Ndikumvetsa kuti mungakhale ndi ntchito zanu zomwe mungathe kuvomereza kapena kukana." Ndikufunsa kuchokera pansi mpaka pansi. Mikangano yambiri imabwera chifukwa chakuti ambiri amasokoneza pempho ndi zofuna zomwe zimatchulidwa "kuchokera pamwamba mpaka pansi."
Ndipo ngati kamvekedwe kotereko ndi kovomerezeka kwa abwana, ndiye kuti chidani chimayamba nthawi yomweyo pakati pa anzawo "ofanana paudindo". "N'chifukwa chiyani ukuyankhula ndi ine choncho?" - izi sizimanenedwa mokweza, koma chinachake chimayamba kuwira mkati.
Nayi nkhondo yapamwamba. Mtsogoleri wa dipatimenti yogulitsa: "N'chifukwa chiyani Samara sanalandirebe katundu kuchokera kwa ine?" Mtsogoleri wa dipatimenti yoyang'anira mayendedwe: "N'chifukwa chiyani ukundiuza za Samara posachedwapa, osati masabata awiri apitawo?" Onse awiri sanathetse vutoli, onse ndi ovuta. Aliyense amaona kuyesa kulankhula «kuchokera kumwamba» ngati kugunda ndi gawo lawo, zomwe zimangowonjezera mikangano ndipo sizithetsa vutoli.
Zotulutsa? Phunzirani kukambitsirana: “Inu ndi ine tiri ndi vuto lofanana, mwachiwonekere, tonse aŵirife sitinaganizepo kanthu, sitinagwirizane pa chinachake. Titani tsopano kuti tipeze zinthu zathu ku Samara?"
Anthu ambiri tsopano akugwira ntchito kutali. Mwina izi zimathandiza kuchepetsa mikangano?
Ayi, pakuyamba nkhondo yakeyake ya utsogoleri - omwe tidzasewera nawo malamulo awo. Woyamba akulemba kuti: “Anzanga, kuti tipange lipoti, timafunikira chidziwitso kuchokera ku dipatimenti iliyonse kwa masiku atatu. Wachiwiri akuyankha kuti: “Zoonadi, izi si zimene zimafunika kuti lipoti liperekedwe.” Chachitatu: “Okonzeka kupereka deta. Kodi pali amene amafunikira?" Chachinayi: "Tidapatsa aliyense izi kale. Chifukwa chiyani tili pamndandanda wamakalatawu?
Palibe mayankho omwe ali pamfundoyi. Ndipo mayankho onse akuchokera mndandanda wakuti "Ndife apamwamba mu utsogoleri. Ndipo ndinu ndani pano? Mawu akuti “kwenikweni” m’lemba lililonse amapangitsa mbali ina kufuna kukangana. Zimakhala zosavuta muofesi: anayang'anana wina ndi mzake ndikupitirira. Ndipo m'makalata, funde ili likukwera, ndipo sizikuwonekeratu momwe angalipire.
Pitani ku macheza aliwonse a makolo ndikuwona mtundu wankhondo womwe umayamba pamene muyenera kusankha mphatso ya atsikana pa Marichi 8. Aliyense nthawi yomweyo amaika maganizo awo akatswiri. "M'malo mwake, atsikana amayenera kupatsidwa zolembera tsitsi." M'malo mwake, atsikana safuna zomangira tsitsi, ndiye zachabechabe! Gulu lililonse lamphamvu limakhala ndi nkhondo yoti ndi ndani amene angapange chisankho.
Ndiye ndinkhani yosatha…
Zidzakhala zopanda malire ngati wokonza zokambirana akupereka ufulu ku mndandanda wa «Tiyeni tisankhe chinachake». Izi nthawi yomweyo zimayambitsa mkangano woti ndani angapange malamulowo komanso yemwe angasankhe. Anthu amacheza kumene kunalembedwa kuti: “Monga tcheyamani wa komiti ya makolo, ndikukudziwitsani kuti tasankha kupatsa mphunzitsiyo satifiketi ndi maluwa amtengo wa ma ruble 700, kuti agwire bwino ntchito. Amene sakuvomereza - kupereka chinachake chanu.
Nkhani yofanana pamisonkhano. Ngati ali pamutu wosamveka: "Zomwe zikuchitika pa chomeracho", ndiye kuti palibe vuto lomwe lidzathetsedwe ndipo nkhondo yautsogoleri imatsimikizika kapena kungochotsa mikangano yomwe ikupezeka. Ntchitoyo iyenera kupereka zotsatira. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mlengi wamkulu anasonkhanitsa akatswiri a umisiri kuti aone cholakwacho ndi chifukwa chake ukwati ukuchitikira, ndiye kuti vutolo likhoza kuthetsedwa.
Ndiko kuti, popanda ntchito, msonkhanowo ndi wopanda pake?
Kugwirizana mu makampani a msinkhu uliwonse kumachitika pamodzi nkhwangwa zitatu: olamulira ntchito, olamulira ubale ndi olamulira mphamvu. M'moyo wanga wamakampani, ndawona misonkhano yambiri yomwe imachitika osati chifukwa pali ntchito, koma chifukwa adaganizapo kale: Lolemba lililonse pa 10:00 muyenera kukhala pa "mapangidwe am'mawa". Pamene palibe ntchito yomveka bwino, maubwenzi ndi mphamvu nthawi yomweyo zimayamba kugwira ntchito. Anthu amayamba kuyeza kuti ndani.
Nthawi zina mikangano ndiyo njira yokhayo yowonjezera mphamvu mu gulu, ndipo atsogoleri ena amagwiritsa ntchito izi, osadziwa njira zina - kutsogolera aliyense ku cholinga, kugawa ntchito, kulimbikitsa. Ndikosavuta kwa iwo kugawa ndi kulamulira.
Nthawi iliyonse mukalowa muzochitika zilizonse zogwirira ntchito, muyenera kumvetsetsa: cholinga changa ndi chiyani? Ndikufuna chiyani pankhani ya ntchito, maubwenzi ndi mphamvu? Ndikufuna kuchoka pano ndi chiyani?
Tikakhala olondola, timadzimva kuti ndife apamwamba mu utsogoleri, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti tili ndi mphamvu zambiri, kaya m'banja kapena gulu.
Ngati ndinabwera ndi pepala lodutsa kwa "wozimitsa moto", ndipo akundifunsa kuti: "Bwanji simunandipatse lipoti?", Ndiye ndikhoza kugwa chifukwa cha kukwiya kwake ndikuyamba kumufotokozera kuti iye ndi ndani, koma ndikhoza. nenani kuti: “ Zida zanga ndi izi, ndapereka. Saina njira yolambalala."
Apo ayi - pamodzi ndi ntchito - zikhoza kukhala ngati Gogol Ivan Ivanovich ndi Ivan Nikiforovich: wina ankafuna kufunsa wina mfuti yakale, koma amakangana pa zopanda pake kwa zaka zambiri.
Bwanji ngati sitingagwirizane?
Pamene digiri pamodzi ndi mphamvu olamulira amachoka sikelo, mukhoza kugwiritsa ntchito «Chilolezo popanda chilolezo» njira. Mwachitsanzo, dipatimenti yanu ikuganiza kuti tachita ntchito yolakwika, koma yathu ikuganiza kuti tachita ntchito yabwino. Mgwirizano umatheka mu chiganizo chimodzi. “Monga momwe ndikumvera, iwe ndi ine sitikulingalira mofanana za ubwino wa ntchito. Kodi mukuvomereza? Anthu amati, "Inde, inde." Panthawi imeneyi, otsutsa amphamvu amasintha kukhala interlocutors okwanira omwe angathe kulankhula nawo kale za ntchito.
Nkhondo zokhetsa magazi kwambiri zimamenyedwa chifukwa cholondola. N’chifukwa chiyani timachita thovu pakamwa posonyeza kuti tikunena zoona? Chifukwa tikakhala olondola, timadzimva kuti ndife apamwamba mu utsogoleri, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti tili ndi mphamvu zambiri, kaya m'banja kapena gulu. Izi nthawi zambiri zimakhala nkhondo yopanda chidziwitso, ndipo muzophunzitsidwa zanga, mwachitsanzo, timaphunzira kuti tidziwe. Mawu omwe nthawi zambiri amathetsa mkangano: "Inde, ndikuganiza kuti mukulondola." Nkosavuta kwa ine kunena izi, koma munthu sangachoke panjira yake kuti anditsimikizire kuti ndine wolondola.