Kodi mwana amakwiya ngati sagula chidole chatsopano? Kodi amamenyana ndi ana ena ngati sakonda chinachake? Kenako tizimufotokozera zoletsedwazo.
Tiyeni tiwononge maganizo olakwika ambiri: mwana yemwe sadziwa zoletsa sangatchulidwe kuti mfulu, chifukwa amakhala wogwidwa ndi zikhumbo zake ndi malingaliro ake, ndipo simungathe kumutcha wokondwa, chifukwa amakhala ndi nkhawa nthawi zonse. Mwanayo, yemwe amasiyidwa yekha, alibe ndondomeko ina yochitirapo kanthu kuposa kukwaniritsa chilakolako chake mwamsanga. Munkafuna chinachake? Ndinatenga nthawi yomweyo. Osakhutira ndi china chake? Nthawi yomweyo kugunda, kusweka kapena kusweka.
“Ngati sitiletsa ana pa chilichonse, sangaphunzire kudziikira malire. Ndipo adzadalira pa zokhumba zawo ndi zilakolako zawo,” akufotokoza motero Isabelle Filliozat, katswiri wa zabanja. - Polephera kudziletsa, amakhala ndi nkhawa nthawi zonse komanso amazunzika chifukwa chodziimba mlandu. Mwana angaganize motere: “Ndikafuna kuzunza mphaka, n’chiyani chingandiletse? Pajatu palibe amene wandiletsapo kuchita chilichonse.”
“Zoletsa zimathandiza kuwongolera ubale pakati pa anthu, kukhalira limodzi mwamtendere komanso kulankhulana”
Mwa kusaika zoletsa, timathandiza kuti mwanayo azindikire dziko monga malo omwe amakhalamo motsatira malamulo a mphamvu. Ngati ndili wamphamvu, ndiye kuti ndigonjetsa adani, koma ngati zitadziwika kuti ndine wofooka? N’chifukwa chake ana amene amaloledwa kuchita chilichonse kaŵirikaŵiri amakhala ndi mantha: “Kodi atate amene sangandiumirize kutsatira malamulo anganditeteze bwanji ngati wina waswa lamulo londiletsa?” "Ana amamvetsetsa bwino kufunikira kwa zoletsa ndikudzikakamiza okha, kukwiyitsa makolo awo ndi ziwawa zawo kuti achitepo kanthu., Isabelle Fiyoza akulimbikira. - Osamvera, amayesa kudziikira malire ndipo, monga lamulo, amazichita kupyolera mu thupi: amagwera pansi, amadzivulaza okha. Thupi limawaletsa ngati palibe malire ena. Koma kuwonjezera pa mfundo yakuti n’njoopsa, malire amenewa alibe mphamvu, chifukwa saphunzitsa mwanayo chilichonse.”
Zoletsa zimathandizira kuwongolera ubale pakati pa anthu, zimatilola kukhalira limodzi mwamtendere ndikulankhulana wina ndi mnzake. Lamuloli ndi woweruza yemwe akuitanidwa kuthetsa mikangano popanda kuchita ziwawa. Amalemekezedwa ndi kulemekezedwa ndi aliyense, ngakhale palibe "otsatira malamulo" pafupi.
Zomwe tiyenera kuphunzitsa mwana:
- Lemekezani zinsinsi za kholo lililonse payekha komanso moyo wa banja lawo, lemekezani gawo lawo komanso nthawi yanu.
- Onani mayendedwe omwe amavomerezedwa m'dziko lomwe akukhala. Fotokozani kuti sangachite chilichonse chimene akufuna, kuti ali ndi malire muufulu wake ndipo sangakhale ndi zonse zomwe akufuna. Ndipo kuti mukakhala ndi cholinga chamtundu wina, muyenera kulipira nthawi zonse: simungakhale wothamanga wotchuka ngati simukuphunzitsa, simungathe kuphunzira bwino kusukulu ngati simukuchita.
- Dziwani kuti malamulo alipo kwa aliyense: akuluakulu amawatsatiranso. N’zoonekeratu kuti zoletsa zamtunduwu sizingagwirizane ndi mwanayo. + Komanso, nthawi ndi nthawi adzavutika chifukwa cha iwo, chifukwa sakusangalala ndi kanthaŵi. Koma popanda masautsowa, umunthu wathu sungathe kukula.