Mawu awa amatanthauza zomverera, chikondi, chilakolako. Mosiyana ndi youma boma «mkazi». N'chifukwa chiyani akazi amakonda chithunzi cha okondedwa? Ndipo kodi nthawi zonse limagwirizana kwenikweni ndi makhalidwe onse amene timalipatsa? Ndipotu nthawi zambiri amakhalanso mwamuna wa munthu.
Mawu akuti "wokonda" amatsindika mosabisa za kugonana kwa ubale. Komabe, zingakhale zachilendo kusankha wokonda malinga ndi zofunikira zina kusiyana ndi muyeso wa kugonana, popanda kukopeka ndi iye. Mosakayikira, wokonda ndi wachigololo, ngakhale osati wokongola!
Kodi ndi chifukwa cha mawu ake, maonekedwe, maonekedwe a nkhope yake, nyonga, kukoma mtima, kumvetsera, kununkhiza, chokumana nacho, chikhumbo chake, kapena ngakhale kudzidalira kumene akusonyeza chikhumbo chake?
Mulimonsemo, iye ndi wachigololo kotero kuti mkazi wogonjetsedwa ndi iye angathe kuchita chirichonse. Iye ali wokonzeka kusintha maganizo ake kwa iye, kukonda ngakhale zomwe siziri mwa iye nkomwe, kuvutika ndi kukhumudwa chifukwa cha kusakhalapo kwake m'moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku, kuphwanya malamulo a makhalidwe abwino, kunyalanyaza udindo wake. Zonena!
Funso ndilosiyana - poyerekeza, kapena kani, kutsutsa kwa mwamuna ndi wokonda. Kodi choyambiriracho chimayenera kuwonedwa ngati chocheperako pakugonana kuti alungamitse kufunika kwa omalizawo? Mwamuna monga chifukwa cha kusakhulupirika kwa mkazi? Malingaliro oterowo amatilola kumvetsetsa bwino mkwiyo umene mwamuna wonyengedwa amaumva: pamaso pa anthu, zokondweretsa zachikondi za mkazi kumbali zimasonyeza bwino lomwe kusowa kwake kwachimuna ndi kukopa kwa kugonana.
Koma kodi wokonda alidi wachigololo komanso wolimba mtima kotero kuti mkazi ali wokonzeka kutenga chiwopsezo chachikulu? Kapena zimangokhudzanso chidwi chake chokhudza mnzakeyo, zakusaka kwake, zokhudzika zatsopano zomwe zimayamba akayang'ana mwachikondi mwamuna wa munthu wina, zofooka zake zilizonse ... kuphatikiza kusowa kwachimuna?
Mkazi amawona wokondedwa wake ngati "mgonjetsi", pamene mwamuna wake ndi chitsanzo cha "ntchito"
Kodi ndizotheka kukhala ndi chidwi chogonana ndi munthu popanda kusintha malingaliro anu? Mu ubale wachikondi, zenizeni ndi zopeka zimalumikizanadi. Komanso, musaiwale kuti ambiri mwa «osakanizika» okonda ndi amuna a munthu wina.
Wokondedwa si munthu amene ali “wabwino” kuposa mwamuna. Wokonda ndi "wosiyana". Amapatsa wokondedwa wake malingaliro atsopano pa iye yekha ndi kugonana kwake. Mkazi amamuwona ngati "wogonjetsera", choncho amalola kuti azindikire zilakolako zoponderezedwa, pamene mwamuna amakhala "chithunzi" cha "ntchito".
Kukopa kwa maubwenzi achikondi kumabadwa pamisonkhano, kudzera mu lingaliro laufulu komanso chiwembu chowonekera. M'masewera a kuyang'anizana ndi momwe chikoka chogonana chimayamba kapena kutuluka.
Momwe mwamuna kapena wokonda amakokera kwa mkazi sikudalira mikhalidwe yawo yeniyeni yachimuna, koma pa zomwe mkazi tsopano akufunikira kwambiri - m'moyo wadongosolo, woyezedwa wamagulu kapena m'maulendo opita ndi chikondi.
Mwachibadwa, mwamuna angadabwe kuti chinachitika nchiyani ponena za kugonana kwake m’banja, chifukwa amadzipendabe ndi maso a akazi ena ndipo mopanda liwongo amasewera onyengerera, mosadukizadukiza.