Zamkatimu
Ubwino wa moyo wanu wogonana umanena zambiri za maubwenzi. Kusakhutira pakugonana kwa mmodzi wa okwatiranawo kungayambitse mikangano yaikulu imene imawononga ukwati. Ofufuza za kugonana amalangiza kumvetsera mndandanda wa ma alarm asanu ndi awiri.
1. Kusagonana
Palibe mgwirizano wapamtima pachibwenzi ngati okwatiranawo ali pachibwenzi nthawi zosachepera khumi pachaka. M’mabanja ambiri, kusowa kwa kugonana kumachititsa kuti okwatiranawo alekana.
Katswiri wazogonana Sari Cooper akugogomezera kuti abwenzi amakhala achilendo pamlingo wakuya kwambiri. Nthawi zambiri amapewa osati kugonana kokha, komanso kukambirana za vutoli, zomwe zimawonjezera kusungulumwa komanso kudzipatula. Pamene okwatirana abwera ku phwando, katswiri amathandiza kuzindikira vuto popanda kuimba mlandu wina aliyense. Wokondedwa yemwe ali ndi vuto losowa kugonana ayenera kutenga sitepe yoyamba ndikugawana momwe amaphonyera ubwenzi ndi wokondedwa wake. Machenjerero oterowo ndi abwino kuposa kunyozana ndi kuimbana mlandu.
2. Kusatsimikizika za kukopa
Mkazi amafunika kumva kuti akufunidwa komanso wokongola, ichi ndi chinthu chofunikira kwambiri pakudzutsidwa. Martha Mina, wofufuza za kugonana, anati, "Kwa mkazi, kukhumbitsidwa kuli ngati kukhala ndi orgasm."
Katswiri wa za kugonana Laura Watson ananena kuti ngati mwamuna sangakhutiritse mkazi za kukopa kwake, moyo wapamtima mwachibadwa umatha. Kuti muthane ndi vutoli, muyenera kudziwa ndi kukambirana zomwe wina akuyembekeza. Mukamalankhulana bwino kwambiri, kugonana kudzakhala bwino.
3. Kutaya chikhulupiriro
Kubwezeretsanso moyo wanu wogonana pambuyo pa kusakhulupirika sikophweka. Sari Cooper akunena kuti mnzawo wosakhulupirikayo ayenera kuyesetsa kuti ayambirenso kukhulupirirana, ndipo nkofunika kuti mnzake wachiwiriyo amvetse zomwe zinayambitsa kusakhulupirika. Nthawi zambiri mabanja ayenera kulenga latsopano «kugonana mgwirizano» kulolera zosowa zimene poyamba zobisika kapena zosakwaniritsidwa.
4. Kupanda kukopeka ndi thupi
M'mabanja omwe amakhala pamodzi kwa nthawi yaitali, kutaya kukongola kwa thupi kumatha kusokoneza chiyanjano, akutero katswiri wa zachiwerewere Mushumi Gouz. Nthawi zina chifukwa chake ndi chakuti m'modzi mwa okwatirana adadziyambitsa yekha.
Zoonadi, kupanikizika kuntchito, kutopa ndi maudindo a m’banja ndi zinthu zina sizopanda pake. Koma anthu omwe sapezanso okondedwa awo owoneka bwino nthawi zambiri amatenga izi ngati chizindikiro kuti mnzakeyo sadziganizira okha kapenanso ubale wawo.
5. Matenda ngati chowiringula
Mabanja amasiya kugonana pazifukwa zosiyanasiyana zokhudzana ndi physiology ndi thanzi: kutulutsa umuna msanga, kusokonezeka kwa erectile, kapena kupweteka panthawi yogonana mwa amayi. Katswiri wa zachiwerewere Celeste Hirschman amalangiza osati kuonana ndi dokotala, komanso kupenda mbali yamaganizo ya vutolo.
Wokondedwa yemwe amafunikira kugonana kochepa amalamulira moyo wake wogonana
Ngati mulungamitsa mavuto onse okhudzana ndi kugonana kapena maubwenzi ambiri ndi zifukwa za thupi, pali chifukwa choganizira. Mumayika chidwi chanu ku thanzi, kupewa kukambirana zokhuza kugonana ndi maganizo. Maanja akuyenera kuyang'ana kupyola pazathupi komanso kulabadira mantha omwe amakula powazungulira.
6. Simutenga zilakolako zogonana za wokondedwa wanu mozama.
Anthu amakonda zinthu zosiyanasiyana. Ngati mnzanu waulula ndi kuvomereza kuti akufuna kugonana movutikira kapena kuchita masewero olimbitsa thupi, musanyalanyaze izi kapena kuseka zilakolako zake.
Katswiri wa zakugonana Ava Cadell akufotokoza kuti: “Ndimauza makasitomala anga kuti chilichonse chingakambidwe—ngakhale m’chipinda chogona. Uzani mnzanuyo kugawana malingaliro atatu. Kenako winayo amasankha imodzi mwa izo ndikuigwiritsa ntchito. Kuyambira pano, mutha kugawana malingaliro anu popanda kuopa kuweruzidwa kapena kukanidwa. ”
7. Kusagwirizana kwa zikhalidwe
Mabanja ambiri amavutika ndi chiwerewere - pamene mmodzi wa okwatirana amafuna kugonana kawirikawiri kuposa mzake. Wokondedwa yemwe amafunikira kugonana kochepa amayamba kulamulira moyo wogonana. Zotsatira zake, mwamuna kapena mkazi yemwe ali ndi chilakolako chogonana kwambiri amakwiya komanso amatsutsa.
Katswiri wa za kugonana Megan Fleming amakhulupirira kuti ngati simulimbana ndi vuto la kusagwirizana m’malingaliro a kugonana, ngozi ya chisudzulo kapena chigololo imakula. Wokondedwa yemwe ali ndi chilakolako chogonana champhamvu safuna kupitirizabe moyo wake wonse. Kulowa muukwati, sanasankhe njira ya kudzichepetsa ndi kudziletsa.
Musadikire nthawi yomwe mnzanuyo angayime. Samalani vuto nthawi yomweyo. Zomwe zimayambitsa kuchepa kwa libido zimakhala zovuta komanso zogwirizana, koma vutoli likhoza kukonzedwa.