Munthawi ya mapulogalamu a zibwenzi, ma messenger apompopompo ndi ma risiti owerengedwa, tikukumana ndi chisokonezo pakumvetsetsana. Kuti muthetse kapena kuyimitsa ubale, simuyeneranso kumenya chitseko kapena "kuchoka kumudzi, kwa azakhali anu, kuchipululu, ku Saratov." Ingonyalanyaza uthengawo. Ndi machitidwe owopsa otani a maubwenzi omwe awoneka tsopano?
M'masiku a akatswiri okongola komanso azimayi amtima omwe amawadikirira, chinthu choterocho sichinali chotheka. Maulendo anali aatali, amakhala pang'ono, ndipo panalibe nthawi yosinthana ndi masewera achilendo muzolankhulana. Tsopano dziko lasuntha limodzi ndi malingaliro ake onse ndi malingaliro ake ku mafoni a m'manja ndi makompyuta, ndipo maulendo ataliatali agwera kumodzi. Ndipo simuyenera kukwera hatchi kwa mwezi umodzi kuti muvomereze chikondi chanu kwa mwana wamkazi wokongola, yemwenso adzakufunsani miyambi itatu, ndipo ndi bwino ngati mukukhalabe ndi moyo.
Masiku ano, maubwenzi amayambika m’kanthawi kochepa komanso kutha msanga, nthawi zina m’njira yodabwitsa kwambiri. Panalinso mayina apadera a zinyengo zosamvetsetseka ngati izi polumikizana. Mphunzitsi, mlangizi waumwini komanso maanja ochokera ku Hamburg, wolemba mabuku angapo okhudzana ndi maubwenzi ndi chizolowezi chomakhudzidwa mtima, Eric Hermann akufotokoza chomwe chiyambi cha machitidwe atsopano ndi momwe angakhalire muzochitika zoterezi.
Ghosting
Mmodzi mwa okondedwawo mwadzidzidzi amasiya kulankhulana popanda kufotokozera mnzake chilichonse. Kutha ngati mzukwa. Amanyalanyaza zoyesayesa zilizonse zolankhula ndikupeza zifukwa. Mauthenga mu WhatsApp akhoza kulembedwa kuti awerengedwa, koma sipadzakhala yankho. Ngakhale mutakhala pachibwenzi ndipo zonse zikuwoneka kuti zikuyenda bwino. Izi zikhoza kuchitika ngakhale pamene ubale wanu wayamba kale kupita ku chiyanjano chokhazikika. Ndi iko komwe, munakhala limodzi nthawi yambiri. Ndipo chifukwa chake, kwa munthu yemwe wadwala mzimu, kutayika koteroko sikungakhale kowawa kokha, komanso kukhumudwitsa.
“Ndalakwa chiyani ine? Ndalakwa chani? Mndandanda wa mafunso omwe mungadzifunse ndi wopanda malire. Yemwe anasankha kukhala mzimu ndi wamantha, Eric Hermann ndi wotsimikiza, apo ayi akanatha kunena mwachindunji kuti sakukonda, kapena kuti anapeza wina kapena wina, kapena kufotokoza kuti tsopano ali ndi nthawi yovuta ndipo akufunikira. kuti adzikonzere yekha. Kufotokozera kulikonse komveka kungakhale njira yothetsera vutolo. Koma sangakwanitse. Njira yake ndikuthawa. Kumene mizu yake imachokera, lolani psychotherapist wake kuti adziwe.
Kodi mungatani? Muyenera kukumbukira kuti mulibe mlandu pa chilichonse. Musaganize kuti ndi “zopinga zazikulu” ziti zomwe zinamulepheretsa kupeza njira yolumikizirana nanu. Tikafuna, timadutsa makoma. Koma iye sanatero. "Mlendo" ali ndi njira zake zamaganizo ndi mikangano yamkati. Osataya nthawi ndi mphamvu pa mzimu, dikirani yankho kuchokera kwa iye. Yesetsani kuchira mwamsanga pambuyo pa chochitika chosasangalatsa. Yang'anani kwambiri kwa omwe amakukondani kwambiri komanso omwe simuli nambala ina ya foni pamndandanda wanu wolumikizana nawo.
Kuchuluka
Uwu ndiye mtundu wa AJesuit wamatsenga. Pamene bwenzi poyamba amakweza ena, yamvumbi ndi chidwi, kuwolowa manja kuyamikira, kulengeza chikondi pafupifupi kuyambira tsiku loyamba. Izi, mwa njira, ziyenera kukuchenjezani - pambuyo pake, mumamvetsetsa kuti kumverera kwakukulu kumatenga nthawi. Ndipo m’masiku amodzi kapena awiri sadzauka. Koma mwaphonya kuyamikiridwa ndi kukondedwa kwambiri!
Ndipo tsopano, mukakhala okhudzidwa kwambiri muubwenzi ndipo muli kale pafupifupi zana pa zana lotsimikiza kuti mwakumana ndi chikondi cha moyo wanu, mumapwetekedwa m'mimba ndi ululu waukulu. "Wokondedwa" wanu mwadzidzidzi akuwoneka kuti akutembenukira. Amasowa pa radar, mafoni ndi mauthenga amanyalanyazidwa, misonkhano imathetsedwa kapena kudumpha.
Kodi mungatani? Kuopsa kwa ubale wapoizoni uwu ndikuti mukakhala pachiwopsezo, mutha kutaya chikhulupiriro mwa anzanu opambana komanso kuwona mtima kwa mnzanuyo kwa nthawi yayitali. Ndipo mudzamva kugwidwa m'mayamiko onse. Kumbukirani kuti si mwamuna kapena mkazi aliyense amene amachita zimenezi. Ndipotu anthu amenewa ndi ochepa kwambiri padziko lonse. Chofunika kwambiri podziwana ndikuzindikira ndi kupewa anthuwa. Ndipo chizindikiro choyamba ndi chochuluka kwambiri komanso chosakwanira kutuluka kwa kuyamika, ndipo makamaka kulankhula za ukwati, ndondomeko zazikulu zamtsogolo ndi chikondi chachikulu cha moyo. Mwaona? Nyali yofiyira yayaka kale!
Hyping
Ndizofanana kwambiri ndi mdima ndi mlatho. Koma kusiyana kwake ndikuti mu ubale wotere ndiwe mphotho ya chitonthozo, njira. Mnzanuyo amakusambitsaninso mafuta ambiri ndi kuyamikira, amamanga mapulani akuluakulu ophatikizana. Ndipo uku ndikusintha mwachidziwitso, osati kungofuna kwakanthawi kochepa. Iye amasangalala kuti mukuyang'ana nyambo yake, zikomo kwambiri. Koma akudziwa kuti chidwi chanu ndi chongomuchitira iye. Choncho amakweza ulemu wake.
Nthawi zambiri ili ndi khalidwe la anthu okondana. Sakonda inu, koma chikondi chanu kwa iwo eni. Ndipo akamayatsa mwachangu, amakhala osangalatsa komanso osangalatsa kwa iwo. Atalawa chisangalalo cha chigonjetso, iwo, monga milandu iwiri yoyamba, amakusiyani, akulengeza kuti sali okonzeka kukhala pachibwenzi chachikulu. Ndipo patapita miyezi isanu ndi umodzi, amalengeza ukwati wayandikira pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti - koma, ndithudi, osati ndi inu. Mwakwaniritsa kale udindo wanu kwa iye - adathandizira ego yake kuti iwonjezere kukula kwa mbiri yatsopano.
Kodi mungatani? Chonyansa kwambiri pamtundu uwu wa ubale ndikuti amene adavutika amasiyidwa ndi malingaliro akuti adagwiritsidwa ntchito. Kwenikweni, momwe ziriri, mosasamala kanthu zachisoni chotani kuvomereza. Koma pali njira yothetsera chibwenzi kumayambiriro kwa chibwenzi. Kodi amakuuzani zambiri ndikukulonjezani? Tonse nthawi zina timagwa muubwana, ndipo tikufuna kukhulupirira nthano, makamaka pafunde la chisangalalo.
Eric Hermann amalimbikitsa "kuyesa zenizeni" nthawi zambiri - kufufuza mawu ndi zochita, osachepera, ngati pazipita - kuphatikizapo kuganiza mozama. Funsani funso: muzichita bwanji, moyo wanga ukhala bwanji? Nthawi zambiri, zokambirana zikafika mwatsatanetsatane ndi zochitika zenizeni, "wofotokozera nthano" sangathe kuyankha chilichonse chomveka, kupatula "Ndidzakutengerani m'mphepete mwa Chilengedwe ndikukupatsani nyenyezi." Koma ndikufuna kuyang'ana nyenyezi ndikupeza mtengo wake. Komanso mverani chidziwitso chanu - nthawi zambiri chimapereka zizindikiro, koma simukufuna kuzikhulupirira!
Zolimbitsa
Mizukwa ndi moss, modabwitsa, zitha kubwerera. Amatha "kusintha malingaliro awo", kusankha kuti adakondwera. Koma idzakhalanso "gypsy yotuluka." Adzakonda mwadzidzidzi positi kapena chithunzi chanu. Nthawi zina chidzakhala chithunzi chakale kwambiri. Ndipo mudzadabwitsidwa: wow, adagwira ntchito molimbika kuti aipeze mwakuya kwa akaunti yanga. Mwina ndimasamalabe za iye? Kapena siyani ndemanga yaifupi yokuwonetsani: Ndabwera.
Koma dzinalo limadzinenera lokha: timasungidwa munjira. Sitiwuluka ngati nyenyezi ya nyenyezi yodutsa munthu wodabwitsayu. Iye amatisunga patali kwambiri moti timakhala pansi pa ulamuliro wake ndipo timadziwa zimenezi. Koma samalumikizana mwachindunji - mu mauthenga, pafoni, komanso makamaka pamsonkhano waumwini.
Kodi mungatani? Simukumvetsa zomwe zikuchitika. Mwasokonekera kwathunthu: ngati tidasiyana popanda kufotokoza ndipo sindinamukomere, chifukwa chiyani amadzimva? Chosavuta komanso chotsimikizika chomwe mungachite ndikuletsa "orbiter" m'malo onse ochezera a pa Intaneti, nsanja, kulemba nambala yake ya foni. Kotero kuti alibe mwayi wopeza mbiri yanu kulikonse. Ndi njira iyi yokha adzamvetsetsa kuti ndinu omasuka kwa iye. Koma ngati mupezekanso pakhomo, khalani olimba ndipo musaiwale momwe adakuchitirani, mphunzitsi akulangizani. Palibe amene akuyenera kuchitiridwa zimenezi.
Бенчинг (Benching)
Wokondedwa wanu amakusungani pa benchi. Amakutumizirani mauthenga nthawi ndi nthawi, akhoza kukuitanani kuti mudzamwe kapu ya khofi. Ndipo zikuwoneka kuti mukuwona chidwi chake, iye ndi wokongola, waulemu, mwa zisonyezo zonse - amakukondani, koma simungathe kuyembekezera sitepe yotsatira.
Nthawi zina kulankhulana koteroko sikusiya malo enieni kukhala enieni. Atha kulemberana makalata ndi inu kwa milungu ingapo, ndipo moona mtima, koma sangafune kukumana. Wokondedwa wanu sakutsimikiza kuti ndinu chinthu chabwino kwambiri chomwe adakumana nacho pamoyo wake. Ndikofunikira kukusungani pafupi, komanso kuti musakhale "wakakamira" kwambiri - mwadzidzidzi munthu wabwino adzakumana.
Kodi mungatani? Palibe amene amakonda kuphika pa kutentha pang'ono. Inu simukumvetsa chomwe chiri vuto. Kodi dikirani mpaka liti? Kumasukirana, kuona mtima, ubwenzi weniweni, osati zongopeka - ndizomwe timayembekezera kuchokera pachibwenzi. Kulumikizana komwe sikumapereka izi ndi duwa lopanda kanthu. Kodi mwakonzeka kuyankhula momasuka za mfundo yakuti simukufuna kukhala pa benchi?
Caspering
Uku ndi kuchititsa mawonekedwe opepuka. Wokondedwa wanu akusowa mumlengalenga. Koma iye amachita izo modekha, pang'onopang'ono, popanda kudula chakuthwa kwa moyo wathu. Dzinali limachokera ku mzimu wokongola wa katuni Casper. Munakumana, munakhala limodzi, munalankhula zachabechabe zokondweretsa wina ndi mnzake. Zinkawoneka kuti anali ogwirizana kwambiri, ndipo pansi pamtima mumalakalaka tsogolo logwirizana. Koma palibe chimene chinachitika.
Koma mosiyana ndi mizimu, caspering imaphatikizapo kufotokozera. "Tamverani, ndakhala ndi nthawi yabwino, koma kulibe spark, pepani." Kapena “Zikomo chifukwa chokhala ndi nthawi yabwino, ndiwe wabwino kwambiri, wokongola, koma sindimakukondani, mukudziwa? Ndine wachisoni". Nthawi zina mzimu wamtsogolo umachepetsa pang'onopang'ono kulankhulana popanda kufotokoza chilichonse. kufotokoza chiyani? Ndipo kotero zonse ziri zomveka.
Kodi mungatani? Njira iyi yothetsa ubale idzabweretsa zotsalira ndi zowawa zina. Koma, mukuwona, sizowawa pang'ono poyerekeza ndi zamatsenga kapena mlatho. Zikomo pofotokoza. Samalani kumayambiriro kwa chiyanjano ku zizindikiro zilizonse za chidziwitso: kodi amalonjeza zambiri, koma amachita zochepa? Kapena mukumva kuti palibe chonyezimira, mauthenga akhala owuma komanso osowa, koma mumakakamira kuti izi ndizosakhalitsa ndipo zonse zikhala bwino - ndiye kuti musakoke maubwenzi oterowo ndikumanga zonyenga.
Бредкрампинг (Breadcrumbing)
Kwenikweni, amatanthauza “kudyetsa zinyenyeswazi za mkate.” Kwa zibwenzi pa intaneti, chinthu chodziwika bwino. Uku ndikulumikizana kodzaza ndi ziyembekezo zabodza. Pano, mosiyana ndi benchi, pali malo okonda chidwi komanso kukopana. Koma zolinga ndizosiyana kwambiri ndi ubale wathanzi, kumene kukopana ndi mlatho wa tsiku lina.
Zinyenyeswazi zodziwika bwino ndi ndemanga zazifupi pansi pa zithunzi za Instagram, ma meseji ongokhala ngati "Ndangoganiza za inu," kapena zokonda zingapo ndi ma emojis omwe amatumizidwa mobwerezabwereza. Ndipo izi zikhoza kuchitika kwa milungu kapena miyezi. Ndiye? Palibe. Nthawi zambiri njira zoterezi zimagwiritsidwa ntchito ndi iwo omwe akufuna kudyetsa ego awo ndikulipira ndalama zanu, koma simudzapeza zokwanira za breadcrumbs zake.
Nthawi zambiri, "opindula" oterowo ali kale paubwenzi m'moyo weniweni, sakhutira nawo, koma safuna kusintha chilichonse kapena osayesa. M'malo otetezeka a foni yamakono, amawonjezera kudzidalira kwawo, kuseketsa kunyada kwa amuna kapena akazi, powona kuti alandira gawo la chidwi pa adiresi yawo.
Kodi mungatani? Kuthetsa maubwenzi awa - palibe chomwe chidzabwere mwa iwo. Chifukwa chiyani mungagwire ntchito yopangira magetsi kuti mupindule wina popanda kubweza kalikonse? Inde, ndipo tiyeni tiganizire zenizeni: palibe chomwe chinkayembekezeredwa kubwezera, ichi chinali masewera a mbali imodzi.
November ásíðasta ári hitti t mann á stefnumótasíðu sem virtist mjög góður. Izi zikanachititsa kuti pakhale vuto lochititsa chidwi lomwe lingathe kuchititsa chidwi kwambiri pa netinu ndi dulritunargjaldmiðli, ndipo lidzakhala lochititsa chidwi kwambiri. Ndalama zokwana madola 32.000 kuchokera ku bankareikningnum mínum. Eg vissi ekki að ég væri að henda peningunum minum ndi sviksamlegt viðskiptakerfi. Ég týndi peningunum and og tilkynnti það til FBI, and ekkert var fyrr en ég hitti Amendall .net á netinu, hjálpaði mér að flgjast með veski svindlarans, og efthm svård. Izi ndizofunika kwambiri kwa Amendall Recovery kuti mudziwe zambiri zokhudza kusintha kwa nyengo kapena kusintha kwa nyengo.