“Kodi munthu wolemera ndingapeze kuti? Nthawi zonse ndikaponda pamtanda womwewo - chifukwa chiyani? Kodi ndingatani ngati sindikuyimbiranso foni pambuyo pa chibwenzi? Mkonzi wa malowa, Yulia Tarasenko, adapezekapo pa zokambirana zingapo za katswiri wa zamaganizo Mikhail Labkovsky kuti adziwe mafunso omwe omvera amabwera nawo komanso ngati n'zotheka kukhala osangalala mu ola limodzi ndi theka.
Pakati pa sabata, madzulo, pakati pa Moscow. Zima. Malo olandirira alendo a Central House of Architects ali otanganidwa, pali mzere muchipinda chofunda. Zipinda ziwiri pamwamba pa nkhani ya Labkovsky.
Mutu ndi "Momwe mungakwatire", mawonekedwe a jenda a omvera amawonekeratu pasadakhale. Ambiri ndi amayi azaka zapakati pa 27 mpaka 40 (pali zopatuka mbali zonse ziwiri). Pali amuna atatu mu holo: cameraman, woimira okonza ndi Mikhail mwiniwake.
Nkhani yapagulu simatchulidwe a akatswiri odziwika, koma mwachidule, pafupifupi mphindi khumi, mawu oyamba ndi owonjezera: funsani funso - pezani yankho. Pali njira ziwiri zolankhulira nsonga yowawa: mu maikolofoni kapena popereka cholembedwa chachikulu, chomveka komanso chokhala ndi funso.
Mikhail sayankha zolemba popanda funso: izi, mwina, ukhoza kukhala ulamuliro wake wachisanu ndi chiwiri. Choyamba zisanu ndi chimodzi:
- chitani zomwe mukufuna
- osachita zomwe simukufuna
- nenani zomwe simukonda
- osayankha osafunsidwa
- yankhani funso lokha
- kukonza zinthu, kumangolankhula za inu nokha,
Mwanjira ina, mu mayankho ake ku mafunso ochokera kwa omvera, Mikhail amawayankha. Kuchokera pamafunso, zikuwonekeratu kuti mutuwo ndi wokulirapo komanso wokulirapo kuposa momwe ungawonekere.
Pa maikolofoni pali blonde wamng'ono. Panali ubale ndi mwamuna "wabwino": wokongola, wolemera, Maldives ndi zosangalatsa zina za moyo. Koma osakhudzidwa. Choyipa, chobalalika, tsopano akufanizira aliyense ndi iye, palibe amene angayime mpikisano.
Mikhail akufotokoza kuti: “Ndiwe wosokonezeka maganizo. — Munthu ameneyo anakukopani chifukwa sanasangalale nanu. Tiyenera kusintha tokha.
Kuseri kwa nkhani yachiwiri iriyonse kuli bata, okana atate. Chifukwa chake kukopa kwa omwe akuvulaza
— Zikuoneka kuti ukufuna kukhala paubwenzi: kukhala ndi munthu amene ungalankhule naye. Koma muyenera kumanganso moyo wanu, kutulutsa alumali m'chipinda chogona, chotsani zinthu kutali ... - brunette wazaka 37 akuwonetsa.
"Mwaganiza," Labkovsky akuponya manja ake. - Kapena inu ndi mmodzi muli bwino, ndiye kuti mumavomereza momwe zinthu zilili. Kapena mulibe ubwenzi wokwanira - ndiye muyenera kusintha china chake.
Kuseri kwa nkhani ina iliyonse ndi kuzizira, kukana abambo kusakhalapo kwa moyo wa ana awo aakazi kapena kuwonekera mosakhazikika. Chifukwa chake kukopa kwa omwe amavulaza: "zonse moyipa palimodzi, ndipo mosiyana chilichonse." Mkhalidwewo umabwerezanso: omvera awiri amalankhula za mfundo yakuti aliyense ali ndi maukwati asanu kumbuyo kwawo. Komabe, izi sizongochitika zokha.
- Ndingakope bwanji mwamuna - wotetezedwa, kuti amapeza ndalama zochulukirapo katatu kuposa ine, atha kusamala ndikakumana ndi tchuthi chakumayi ...
— Chotero mikhalidwe yaumwini si yofunika kwa inu konse?
- Sindinanene kuti.
Koma inuyo munayamba ndi ndalama. Komanso, adalengeza kuti: ndalamazo ndizoposa katatu kuposa zanu. Osati awiri ndi theka, osati anai…
— Chabwino, cholakwika nchiyani?
- Ndi bwino pamene mkazi wodzidalira bwino akuyang'ana mwamuna wolingana naye. Ndizo zonse.
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Anthu ena amabwera m’kalasi atakonzeka. Ataphunzira malamulo ndikuyesera kuwatsatira, mtsikanayo akufunsa funso: ali ndi zaka zoposa 30, wakhala pamodzi ndi mnyamata kwa zaka ziwiri ndi theka, koma amakana kulankhula mozama za ana ndi ukwati - kodi zotheka kuyamba chibwenzi ndi munthu wina nthawi yomweyo? Nthawi chinachake chimapita.
Omvera amaseka - kuyesa kupeza zokondweretsa kumawoneka ngati kopanda pake. Holoyo nthawi zambiri imagwirizana: imausa moyo mwachifundo poyankha nkhani zina, imapumira ina. Ngakhale omvera amabwera pafupifupi nthawi yomweyo: kunkhani yotuluka muubwenzi wapamtima pasadakhale, kunkhani yodzidalira - mochedwa kwambiri. Mwa njira, phunziro la momwe mungapangire pulojekiti yopambana chifukwa cha kudzidalira kwanu kumasonkhanitsa chiwerengero chachikulu cha amuna - anthu 10 kuchokera m'chipinda cha anthu 150.
Timabwera ku nkhani zapagulu pazifukwa zomwezo pafupifupi zaka 30 zapitazo makolo athu adasonkhana paziwonetsero zapa TV kuti aziwonera magawo a Kashpirovsky. Ndikufuna chozizwitsa, machiritso ofulumira, makamaka, kuthetsa mavuto onse munkhani imodzi.
Kwenikweni, izi ndizotheka ngati mutatsatira malamulo asanu ndi limodzi. Ndipo timavomereza zina zomwe tamva ndi chisangalalo: padziko lapansi, pamene aliyense akuitana kuti achoke kumalo otonthoza, kuti adziyese yekha, Labkovsky akulangiza mwamphamvu kuti asachite izi. Simukufuna kupita ku masewera olimbitsa thupi? Choncho musapite! Ndipo "Ndinangodzikakamiza, koma kenako ndinamva mphamvu zambiri" - kudzichitira nkhanza.
Michael akunena zomwe ambiri aife tiyenera kumva: dzikondeni nokha momwe mulili.
Koma makamaka milandu "yonyalanyazidwa", Mikhail akunena moona mtima kuti: tiyenera kugwira ntchito ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo (nthawi zina, katswiri wa minyewa, psychotherapist kapena psychiatrist). Kumva izi, ambiri amakhumudwa: kuwerengera kwa chozizwitsa nthawi yomweyo ndikwambiri, kukhulupirira "piritsi lachilichonse" lamatsenga.
Ngakhale zili choncho, nkhani zikupitirizabe kusonkhanitsa maholo akuluakulu, osati ku Moscow kokha: ali ndi omvera ake ku Riga ndi Kiev, Yekaterinburg, St. Petersburg ndi mizinda ina. Osachepera chifukwa cha khalidwe lake, looseness, nthabwala. Ndipo misonkhanoyi imathandiza ophunzira kumvetsetsa kuti sali okha pamavuto awo, zomwe zimawachitikira ndizofala kwambiri kotero kuti zitha kuonedwa ngati zatsopano.
“Nkhani yochititsa chidwi: zikuwoneka kuti anthu onse ndi osiyana, aliyense ali ndi zikhalidwe zosiyana, ndipo mafunso ndi ofanana! - amagawana Ksenia, wazaka 39. "Za zomwezo zomwe tonsefe timasamala nazo. Ndipo izi ndizofunikira: kumvetsetsa kuti simuli nokha. Ndipo palibenso chifukwa chofotokozera funso lanu mu maikolofoni - zowona, panthawi ya maphunziro, ena adzakuchitirani, ndipo mudzapeza yankho.
“Zimandisangalatsa kwambiri kuzindikira kuti kusafuna kukwatiwa n’kwachibadwa! Ndipo kusayang’ana “choikidwiratu chanu chachikazi” kulinso kwachibadwa,” akuvomereza motero Vera, wazaka 33 zakubadwa.
Zikuoneka kuti Michael akunena zomwe anthu ambiri ayenera kumva: kudzikonda momwe ulili. Zowona, pali ntchito kumbuyo kwa izi, ndipo kuchita kapena ayi ndi udindo wa aliyense.