"Tamandani, koma mtima wonyansa": chifukwa chiyani izi zimachitika?

Nthaŵi zina “mawu okondweretsa” amalembedwa m’nkhani yosakondweretsa, ndiyeno “chiyamikiro”cho chimadzutsa malingaliro osakondweretsa ndi zochitika m’maganizo. Komanso, si kuyamikira konse komwe kumakhala kosangalatsa. Nthawi zina zimakhala zofunikira ngati zikuwonetsedwa pagulu kapena pamasom'pamaso, kwa omwe mumawalandira, momwe mumachitira munthuyu: mwachitsanzo, kuyamika kwa amuna kumawonedwa mosiyana ndi akazi. Mosiyana "zokondweretsa" mawu amamveka kuchokera kwa alendo ndi anthu odziwika bwino, ofunika kapena apamwamba. Timasamala ngati kutamandako kuli koyenera, kwaumwini kapena kwamwambo.

Nazi zitsanzo za kuyamikira zabodza zomwe palibe amene akufuna kumva:

• "Inde, inde, mukuchita bwino" - kusisita kovomerezeka, kukawerenga pakati pa mizere: "Choka kwa ine", "Ndatopa bwanji ndi zonsezi."
• "Inde, sizinaphule kanthu ... koma ndiwe msungwana wokongola kwambiri" - zikuwoneka kuti chifukwa chachisoni akukuuzani zomwe sizikugwirizana ndi zomwe mukukambirana.
• "Taonani - ndi munthu wabwino bwanji, mtsikana wabwino (ananena mwachipongwe)" - zokonda kungokhala chete mwaukali zolembedwa kuchokera kwa akulu zimawonedwa ngati zochititsa manyazi.
• "Anabweretsa kukongola yekha, koma sanachite homuweki" - monga lamulo, mawu awa amatsatiridwa ndi zifukwa zina.
• "Kupambana uku kukufikitsani pamlingo watsopano" - zimamveka kuti tsopano bala ndi yapamwamba ndipo zofunikira ndizolimba, muyenera kutsatira, apo ayi mudzakhumudwitsa.
• "Mumangochita bwino mukafuna chinachake" - kutsatiridwa ndi mlandu wonyenga, kugwiritsa ntchito, kudzikonda komanso "kodi munaganizapo za ine?".
• “Mukuchita bwino, ndichitireni ine tsopano” — pamenepo mudzafunsidwa kuchita zomwe simungafune, koma osakana.

Mukamva "mayamiko" oterowo, mumagonjetsedwa ndi malingaliro osasangalatsa. Zikuwoneka kuti zikukubwezerani ku zakale - komwe mudakumana ndi zoyipa.

Mwachitsanzo, mukukumana ndi izi:

• manyazi. Kodi mukufuna "kugwa pansi" kapena "kusungunuka", malinga ngati palibe amene akuwona;
• chisokonezo. Kodi njira yoyenera yochitira ndi kutamanda kumeneku ndi iti?
• manyazi ndi zonyansa pambuyo kukoma ndi kumverera, «ngati kuvula”;
• chiwonongeko chifukwa chakuti pempho lidzatsatira zomwe simungathe kuzikwaniritsa;
• mkwiyo ndi mkwiyo chifukwa chakuti kukongola kunali kotsutsana ndi luso laling'ono lamaganizo;
• nkhawa kuti kuyamikiridwa sikuyenera ndipo simungathe kufanana ndi msinkhu uwu m'tsogolomu;
• kumverera kuti mukuchitiridwa chifundo ndikutamandidwa kuti mutonthoze ndi kukondwera;
• kuopa kuti zopambana zitha kuyambitsa kaduka ndikuwononga ubale ndi ena omwe sachita bwino.

Zovulala zaubwana, mayanjano opweteka zimapangitsa kukhala kovuta kukhulupirira kuwona mtima kwa kuyamikiridwa ndi kuyamika. Ndipo komabe pali ena omwe amakusilirani moona mtima, amakulemekezani moona mtima ndi kukuyamikirani. Chifukwa chake, ndikofunikira kuti muganizirenso zakale nokha kapena ndi katswiri kuti mukhulupirire nokha, kuti mukuyenera kumva mawu osangalatsa omwe akunenedwa kwa inu.