Tikhoza kuiwala mayina a aphunzitsi athu ndi anzathu akusukulu, koma mayina a anthu amene anatilakwira tili ana amakhalabe m’chikumbukiro chathu. Katswiri wa zamaganizo Barbara Greenberg akufotokoza zifukwa khumi zomwe timakumbukira mobwerezabwereza otichitira nkhanza.
Funsani anzanu za madandaulo awo aubwana, ndipo mudzamvetsetsa kuti si inu nokha amene mukuzunzidwa ndi "mizimu yakale." Aliyense ali ndi chinachake choti akumbukire.
Mndandanda wa zifukwa khumi zomwe sitingaiwale kusungira chakukhosi ndi zothandiza kuziwona kwa ambiri. Akuluakulu amene anachitiridwa nkhanza ali ana kotero kuti athe kuzindikira zimene zinawachitikira ndipo motero kuthetsa mavuto awo amakono. Ana ndi achinyamata amene amapezereredwa kusukulu kuti amvetse chifukwa chake izi zikuchitika ndipo amayesetsa kukana amene amapezerera anzawo. Pomaliza, kwa oyambitsa ndi omwe akutenga nawo mbali pazachipongwezo, kuti aganizire za kupwetekedwa mtima kwakukulu komwe kumachitika kwa omwe amachitiridwa nkhanza ndikusintha khalidwe lawo.
Kwa olakwa athu: chifukwa chiyani sitingakuiwale?
1. Mwapangitsa moyo wathu kukhala wosapiririka. Simunakonde kuti wina amavala zovala «zolakwika», anali wamtali kapena wamfupi, wonenepa kapena woonda, wanzeru kapena wopusa. Sitinali omasuka kale kudziwa za mawonekedwe athu, koma munayambanso kutiseka pamaso pa ena.
Munakondwera kutichititsa manyazi pamaso pa anthu, munamva kufunika kwa kunyozeka kumeneku, simunatilole kukhala mwamtendere ndi mosangalala. Zikumbukirozi sizingafafanizidwe, monga momwe kulili kosatheka kusiya kumva malingaliro okhudzana nawo.
2. Tinadzimva kukhala opanda chochita pamaso panu. Pamene mudatithira poizoni pamodzi ndi anzanu, kusowa thandizo kumeneku kunachulukirachulukira. Choipa kwambiri n’chakuti tinadziimba mlandu chifukwa chosowa chochita.
3. Munatipangitsa kukhala osungulumwa kwambiri. Ambiri sanathe kunena kunyumba zomwe munatichitira. Ngati wina angayerekeze kugawana ndi makolo ake, amangolandira malangizo opanda pake omwe sayenera kulabadira. Koma kodi munthu sangazindikire bwanji magwero a chizunzo ndi mantha?
4. Simungakumbukire ngakhale chiyani nthawi zambiri tinkalumpha makalasi. M’maŵa, m’mimba munatipweteka chifukwa chakuti tinayenera kupita kusukulu ndi kupirira mazunzo. Mwatibweretsera mavuto akuthupi.
5. Mwina sunazindikire ngakhale momwe unaliri wamphamvuzonse. Munayambitsa nkhawa, kupsinjika maganizo ndi matenda akuthupi. Ndipo mavuto amenewa sanathe titamaliza sukulu ya sekondale. Titha kukhala athanzi komanso odekha ngati simunakhalepo.
6. Mwatilanda malo athu otonthoza. Kwa ambiri aife, kunyumba sikunali kopambana, ndipo tinkakonda kupita kusukulu ... mpaka mutayamba kutizunza. Simungathe kuganiza kuti munasandutsa ubwana wathu kukhala gehena!
7. Chifukwa cha inu, sitingakhulupirire anthu. Ena aife timakuonani mabwenzi. Koma kodi mnzako angachite bwanji zimenezi, kufalitsa mphekesera ndi kuuza anthu zoipa zokhudza iwe? Ndipo bwanji ndiye kudalira ena?
8. Simunatipatse mpata kuti tikhale osiyana. Ambiri aife timakondabe kukhalabe «aang'ono», osadziwika, amanyazi, m'malo mochita chinthu chodziwika bwino ndikukopa chidwi chathu. Munatiphunzitsa kuti tisakhale osiyana ndi gulu la anthu, ndipo titakula tinaphunzira movutikira kuvomereza mawonekedwe athu.
9. Chifukwa cha inu, tinali ndi mavuto kunyumba. Mkwiyo ndi kupsya mtima zomwe zidakuchitikirani zidatha panyumba pa abale ndi alongo achichepere.
10. Ngakhale kwa ife amene tachita bwino ndi kuphunzira kudzimva kukhala odzidalira tokha, zikumbukiro zaubwana zimenezi zimakhala zowawa kwambiri. Ana athu akafika msinkhu wochitiridwa nkhanza, nafenso timada nkhawa kuti adzatipezerera, ndipo nkhawayi imapatsira ana athu.